“Don’t commit two crimes at once”. On the evening walk yesterday I spot a parked car with people throwing litter out the window onto the nature strip. I take a photo but don’t confront them. I later check the rego on vicroads, the rego doesn’t match the make/model. Fuck litterers. I submit a crimestoppers report of suspicious activity with the photo. On the morning walk a tow truck and cop car are taking the car away. If they didn’t litter, I wouldn’t have checked the rego or bothered to submit it to crimestoppers.
Same advice for speeding when you’re carrying an illegal cargo. Obey ALL road rules without exception, and don’t get sprung using your phone.
Be sober, don’t speed, have drug car in roadworthy condition.
Always funny to see a cop show, where they pull over some beat up late model Holden, with bald tyres, that was speeding through a red light. Only to find gear, cash and paraphernalia inside and the driver arguing that cops should be catching real criminals.
Also driver is visibly drunk/high on meth with a kid not wearing a seatbelt in the back.
Years ago I drove unlicensed (license expired, couldn’t book a test soon enough, but still had to drive…reasons not excuses…it was wrong) and it made be the best driver. No speeding. No stupid shit.
Make sure all that paint you just stole from work isn’t leaking and leaving a perfect drip trail to your house
Love your work.
Fuck.
Assuming the phone is ok, on the upside you won’t need a car scent thing for months!
The phone should be okay. Water resistant + the coffee wasn’t very hot. But it was sticky, so it’s a bit worrying it got into the charging port. It should be fine if given a quick rinse under the tap
Fuuuuuuuck
Omg this is NSFW; my coffee was absolutely traumatised when I showed it this picture 😭😭
I told my friend that I don’t have the emotional capacity to help with the issues he’s currently dealing with. More than happy to hang out and give him a space where he can decompress, but that’s the best I can do.
He understood, which is great.
My therapist agrees:
Smart therapist. You should tip them extra treats
Reading of your friend’s issues I’m reminded yet again I’m from a different time.
30-40 years ago people didn’t rush into moving in together, they could easily afford to live on their own.
And because of that it was easier to move out too.
Wages were higher, debts were lower. So much less stress because there wasn’t the financial stress.
It just seems romance used to be easier then.
Now decisions are so fraught
Nice couch! Tommy agrees with your therapist.
I have this friend. He is in perpetual turmoil.
What he does is get into a relationship with the wrong type of person out of fear of being alone, then they move in together within a few months.
This inevitably goes sour. Every single time.
I’m doing my best to support him but I’m getting frustrated. Really frustrated. I have my own shit to deal with. He’s like a helpless child
Edit: they broke up because she expected him to pay all the rent and bills while she attempted to setup a business.
Neither of these people should be in relationships.
/Rant
Operative word here is ‘fear’. And ‘helpless child’. You probably wouldn’t be surprised to know that a significant proportion of the problems dealt with by marriage counsellors and the like are about people thinking that once they are in a relationship, all their adulting problems are over. Cos partner will then be the adult and they can then remain as a child with all their physical and emotional needs taken care of by the other person. Without them having to ask. This rarely happens and is an unrealistic expectation at best. No bloody wonder the relationship sours.
I don’t know if this is what is happening with your friend, but the odds are heavily for it. Guy needs to grow up. This may require therapy if he is more than 15 years old. Maybe point him to a Men’s Shed or similar for a dose of adult relationshipping without tears or a major financial burden.
I am aware that some cultural expectations of what a relationship should be are different from mine, but surely growing up and behaving like an adult are fairly universal. For all participants.
Nah, men go to work and make money, maybe mow the lawn.
Women have to work and make money, and make babies and take care of them, and do all the chores, and budget and pay bills, and remember friends/family birthdays, and buy groceries and make breakfast, lunch and dinner.
ETA: women have to be mens therapist, maid, and slut.
Men love being big fat children, and making women carry the mental load of the household.
Not every man, but enough men.
My experience has been the exact opposite. Despite “working and making the money”, basically everything you’ve listed that is put onto women I’ve been the one providing.
You might be surprised at the number of women who behave as though I’m to meet all of their needs.
From my experience, it would then be easy to generalise that a lot of women behave this way. But it’s not true.
I endeavour not to paint entire segments of society with the same brush.
I will admit I said this because it was my experience, and it is an extreme generalisation.
I read your responses above, and I am sad your friend falls for women who use him that way. I am sorry you have been used that way as well. It is not fair on anyone, regardless of sex or gender, to be used and abused by those who are meant to be partners.
My sincere apologies
Oof. I also mow the lawns on top of everything else. Takes hours (big place)
Some people don’t want to be alone even if they know the relationship is not good. They’ll just wait for a new one to pop up and move on. Don’t feel bad. Concentrate on you.
Moving in how? Him importing a Maid, or him sponging as a hobosexual. Madly clingy on either side? None are great, but some flavours are more ick.
Other way around. Her using him as a wallet, therapist and sex toy and him accepting that treatment out of desperation not to be alone.
So madly clingy from him. Dude needs some self esteem and a major Re-eval of what is Relationship and what is getting to know you. Maybe learn how to ‘just sex’ if that’s really the thing rather than loneliness? Eh. His problem, not yours to fix.
Might be time for a conversation with them? not now, but when things settle down a bit. They may not be aware of this cycle, but if they are it might be a good opportunity to point out you wont always be able to support them when they (find a nicer way to say shoot themselves in the foot for the 10th time in a row).
take care of yourself too. No harm in taking a step back from other folks drama. I had to do something similar when mates tried to involve me in their marital disputes. “nah guys, got enough drama myself without adding yours, thanks!”
Your last paragraph got me thinking so I rang him.
Was upfront and said “look mate, I don’t have the capacity to help you the way you want, but we can hang out and take your mind off it making music or playing a game”.
Great stuff, how was it received?
oh dear
she should have been using her own savings
or working part time or doing absolutely everything around the house
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It’s a little early but sure, thanks. Congrats 🎉
Can’t make up my mind if I want to spend some money and head up to the border for a couple of nights this weekend for the live country music weekend the RSL are having.
It’d be expensive and not super healthy (booze, food, maybe gambling) but…
It’s my birthday on Friday next week so maybe it’d be a present to myself? I’m guessing things will be more hectic next weekend with people taking long weekends. Also no country music festival thing.
I don’t knowwwwwwwwwww! Maybe I should just put off unhealthy expensive trips for a little while and try to be more responsible. Maybe I’ll make a song about my very first world problems.
Can’t make up my mind if I want to spend some money and head up to the border for a couple of nights this weekend for the live country music weekend the RSL are having.
If you die the following week will you be ashamed you spent the money going to the country music weekend? THAT is the question. Not if you’d regret not going cause duh, obvious. But you know in your heart of hearts if its a “waste of money” or not.
gross
progressed to the coughing up giant chunks of green shit part of the cold.
Hopefully it means I’m getting better.
make sure you get your whooping cough vaccine update
I had no idea I needed an update and caught it, so much slime and the cough sucked
it would be extra awful for kids to get it
Wot she said! Never knew a booster was even a thing. 6 months hacking my lungs up and broke my gag reflex.
yep, got it before kiddo was born.
That colour is the fallen bodies of a lot of bacteria/viruses. A good sign, your immune system is fighting back
my poor immune system. Every time the kid comes home from daycare it gets to fight for its life.
Once it turns yellow, you’re in the clear.
Ah, Slimer of the lung. Delicious.
Also, I know this is random, but I just want to be positive for once. I really like how payid was actually implemented well. When it was announced and advertised I really thought it’d probably be yet another over complicated payment service nobody wants and nobody can figure out how to use, but it isn’t. It just does what it needs to do, and usually does it in less than 10 seconds
When I first got here I was surprised I just need someone’s phone number to pay them.
It’s so quiet here at home, it seems i can go days with barely talking except to the cats
and that habit then extends to everything, I get quiet with loved ones and friends, don’t message, don’t chat.
not sure if that’s a good or bad thing
I hear you. I’m so bad at initiating contact with friends. I worked on phones for too many years, to the point that I just don’t call anyone for a chat - ever. I also need to suppress my natural instinct to find out why someone is calling me, deal with whatever that is and get off the phone again like a good phone worker would.
I’m up for stuff, it just never occurs to me to arrange it.
Might be a necessary thing while in recovery from, well, everything. The time to get social is AFTER you feel better, and better able to deal with the random shit associated with other people. Who mean well, but might not be sensitive.
I hate using salesforce and their other products but I’ll take a free breakfast from them if they’re offering
Also dislike salesforce.
I loathe them, my last job started outsourcing the call centre to them 😑
Not wildly enamoured of them, this is true
Hmm…my workplace is about to transition to salesforce. Does not bode well
Become one of the few people in the business that knows how to use it properly and they’ll have to give you a pay rise
I’ve been dealing with big stuff for so long that I’m starting to get really fractious about the little stuff. 😕 And I’ve been surrounded by toxic/hateful people for so long that I’m becoming that way myself. Or at least very cynical. Everything is exhausting.
so many hugs
No power on the train line between the loop and north Melbourne. Nothing moving out from north Melbourne … 😳 EDIT I think it’s moving again
Only two lines are running
Goodo. Might order another drink and wait then
I finally got an electric blanket. It’s so fucking good
My feet will no longer freeze at night
Not sure if it’s because of the shit turn of weather today but I seem to have developed a lovely sinus headache. I went out to catch up with a friend this evening for a short bit anyway, it was good but the headache’s now worse, given that I had to wait ages for a tram coming back. Guess it was the protests…
I have finally picked a car to get a pre purchase inspection done tomorrow, so that’s one thing close to resolution (if the seller doesn’t back out of negotiations). Can’t start my second job as soon as I’d like because of some bureaucracy at my current place, so that’s still stressful, but I hope I can start on Monday 🤞 I really would like the extra cash soon…
Waiting for lasagna to finish reheating in the oven, then it’s more panadol, hot herbal tea and another early night. Ugh maybe it’s good that I still have some time before starting the new gig.
hugs, 🤗
you’ve got a lot going on so of course you’re tired, good things but still tiring
( and it seems headaches are around today, I’ve just had some aspirin )
looks like free delivery for woolies on uber eats. So if you have a compulsion for dumplings like I do, get on it!
I had a crack at some aldi porterhouse steaks last night. Ended up a lot more Medium than Medium Rare, but still were pretty good for 5 bucks a pop.
