Update on the tense family stuff.
Background: Bro and SIL tried to upend (bulldoze is putting it better) sleeping arrangements, got upset that it didn’t go their way and left in a huff.
Result: Apparently that is now a major falling out. Surprised how upset they are.
oh well.
You did exactly the right thing, telling them to cut out the bullshit powerplays. I’ll bet they thought you were a pushover, after all the wedding crap that you complied with. Now they know different and will just have to cope with the fact they did a wrong thing. Of course they are upset. The more wrong they are, the more upset they are. Classic narcissist behaviour.
When people leave in a huff I call that a bitch stomp.
What children. Maybe this outburst is better than indefinitely simmering tension though.
Sounds like a cold water swim is what you need to shake off the tension and bad vibes
Very much doing a swim tonight heh.
Just a shame it ruined what was otherwise a nice family get together.
Hopefully this will open things up towards an ultimatum/resolution so future family get togethers will be a bit clearer and less manipulative…
Some people just aren’t happy unless they’re getting their own way. It’s so frustrating. Sorry it’s ruining your holidays.
If all they wanted to do was stay in their room they could have done that home. 🙄
I fully support and agree wholeheartedly with everything the other respondents have already said, so can only say this: fucking good on you for standing up for yourself! So hard to do when it’s family.
Good stuff resisting and standing up to them.
They may be upset but do they recognise that what they did was unacceptable for you?
Or are too selfish and only thinking about themselves while being upset?
Out of curiosity did they leave to go home or to find another place to stay?
I thought Bridezilla behaviour was supposed to end after the wedding…
They’re being childish. Tried to throw their weight around through some artificially inflated sense of importance and had a tantrum when it didn’t work. Especially crappy behaviour if you were allowing them to stay with you, and after all the extra miles you went at short notice for the wedding. From your posts you do a lot for your family (it seems expected of you) and I don’t think this pair appreciates it.
Just felt like checking and yep… definitely still borked
I’ve ordered a burger and onion rings to console myself
Is this worst holiday you’ve been on?
Hmmmm it’s definitely up there. I don’t think I’ve been sick or stuck in a room while on holiday before so its either worst or equal worst.
At least you got room service. Get well soon!
How are you feeling at the moment or overall?
I was surprised how badly it floored me when I got it for the first time a few months ago and I’ve had every shot as soon as it became available to me and it still did a number of me.
Burger and onions would make me feel better as well!
Feeling a lot better today. I’m pretty sure the fever is gone which is nice to not be drenching the bed in sweat!
I only had the mandatory vaccinations which I think maybe there were 3 or 4? Has been a while though.
Glad to hear you’re the mend. Suffering fatigue as well?
I hope you get better so you can enjoy your holiday!
As a triple vaxxed c19 veteran (I’ve had it many times due to lifestyle choices) after this many days, if you’re feeling “alright”, you should be good to get outta that room and not be contagious. You’ll likely continue test positive for a few weeks.
I’m so sorry about your holiday though.
But please go have fun if you’re feeling well, and I do hope you’re feeling well!
This latest strain is harsh though and unless you’ve had the bivalent vaxx, it knocks you for six.
Woke up banned from Reddit by AI for (inciting violence) discussing jiu jitsu in the dickhead streamer thread.
Eh, fuckem
Okay that’s kind of funny honestly
In fairness I probably was inciting violence in some manner. That streamer is straight up in the streets picking fights on camera with a smidge of training.
I’ve been sleeping nearly all day. Just woke up feeling pretty great compared to the last few days. Might be able to rejoin the land of the living soon!
Do you rejoin the land of the living while on a cruise, or is there a more appropriate water-based saying?
Emerge from the depths?
Escape from Davey Jones’ Locker?
Got an email just now from the landlord that they want to inspect the place this Saturday at 1pm, was really annoyed and bummed out that I’d need to turbo clean the place, then thought that didn’t seem right and found out that it’s a minimum 7 day notice. They are managing this solo after firing the REA (then bumping up the rent by 15% anyway), so I have to really be extra aware of my rights
e: started watching Silo for something to distract me from cramps. It’s beautiful, but is the tv script written by a 14yo. It’s so on the nose. Easy to watch though.
😭 Sorry to hear. -hugs-
While I love our native birds, if these rainbow lorikeets don’t stop waking me up i may just throw gumnuts at them. The noisy critters are feasting on the flowering gum outside my bedroom window and the noise is aaaargh! I’m on leave you fuckers and I’d really like to sleep in just a little bit.
early Eagle gets the bird
Similarly I won’t be able to make plum wine/jam this year, but the pissed parrots are entertaining
I can’t imagine how noisy they would be pissed!
I feel you, the sound of red wattlebirds still traumatises me after one kept singing its alarm clock song outside my window during the hopeless lockdown days…
These bastards start at 4.30am. And once you hear them, you can’t turn it off. I have a wattlebird in the back yard, but he is a bit more respectful with time!
They are so noisy, it’s unreal.
When the rainbow lorikeets say it’s time to wake up, it’s time to wake up.
I’ll send them to yours then!
We will be one big happy family
Well you must have done something, because they didn’t arrive until 7am today!
Bill and Ted have been fighting over ownership of the new cat harness I left lying on the floor. Little do they know it’s true purpose.
Yet.
bwa ha ha ha
$5 on Bill.
$10 Ted gets first dibs.
oh Bill definitely won but it belongs to Ted.
Only just realised… Bill and Ted.
I want to hang a tyre swing or swing from a tree in the backyard, does anyone know what kind of knot and what kind of rope I should use to tie it to the limb?
Nylon UV stabilized rope. Climbing rope is expensive, but easy on little hands. Any rope rated for towing will do - you might want to put a hessian sleeve on the grip part for the rougher but cheaper ones. Use an eye bolt through the whole branch vertically, a wooden washer/rain shield on the top and attach both ropes to the eye of the bolt. This is the easiest way to level up the seat, and the kindest on the tree. A thinnish plank spreader to keep the ropes apart is good. The enemy of tree swings is water - you might like to undo the swing in winter and bring it inside the shed. Leave the eye bolt in place permanently to reduce the chance of fungal infections getting into the tree.
Not recommended to tie rope directly around the branch. Can throttle the tree’s circulation and cause the branch to drop off unexpectedlike.
Source : went through all this with my boys when they were young. Might be smart to check with council etc. to see if the method of hanging is still the recommended one.
Thank you!
I am still traumatised by the nasty childhood incident where my hair was caught in the rope of a tyre swing in our backyard, leaving me trapped clinging to the tyre unable to move my head while I screamed for help for what felt like hours. So I would answer that you should not use a knot of any type because it would be better to keep the tyre and swing unattached.
Ahem. Run a search for Shibari weight calculation.
Urgh. Nocturnal
I’ve previously read that potentially a small % of the population may be genetically nocturnal as a natural selection advantage because those people used to be the ones guarding caves from say lions at night, and protecting people inside castles whilst everyone else slept. So it was beneficial as a species to have that small %.
Therefore it might not be something you or I can change.
There we go, protecting the tribe
I’m nocturnal too and have also heard this explanation which I also choose to believe, entirely. You’re welcome day walkers.
annd the account is unbanned again. Reddits AI Geaspatcho mods aren’t quite there yet.
It only took me over a year (and massive late fines) to finally get the concentration and motivation to actually finish reading this hilariously overdue book, but I’m proud to say I finally did it (and returned it).
Sure, it’s a kind of cognitive bias, but right now I feel happy to indulge in the interpretation that I was meant to read that book now, today, at this point of my life. The book was The Midnight Library by Matt Haig.
I know it gets quite a bit of flak for being a bit trite and predictable, but I resonate with the main character alarmingly strongly and definitely feel like I’m more in that stuck stage of life at the moment, so I think I was inclined to like it anyway. The timing, though, with the progression of events and experiences over the last year and in particular the last week or two, made the book ring true and feel powerful to me rather than saccharine. Old self-helpy truths sounded new and vital again.
Any other time I might’ve rolled my eyes and maybe even hate-read it, actively countering every offering the book could provide, seeking out negative reviews to reinforce what I focused on, and would’ve been stuck in a resistant, cynical place for longer than is healthy, deluded in some idea that I was resisting manipulation and therefore worthy.
So I am glad I read it now and feel a little changed for the better, at least for today.
Good work!
Does your library do fines or have they abolished them?
I haven’t checked my account yet… I think they recently abolished them, but this book has been considered lost since way before that announcement, that’s how overdue it was 🙈 When I get around to wanting to borrow another book I’ll stump up and pay, it’s only fair.
Bless my neighbour. After all the rain we’ve had, he’s watering his grass right now.
Is it definitely grass, not rice?
It’s grass. It’s the same grass that grows on in my yard. Mine stays just as green with 90% less watering.
at this point he’s not watering it, he’s washing it.
Cleanest lawn I’ve ever seen
Is he just a nutty gardener or might there be another purpose? My FIL used to go out the front and hose down the driveway and hand water the front lawn for an hour or more. I observed that he did it at certain times of the day; in order to observe the comings and goings in the street, and entrap passing neighbours into conversation (and with him being an elderly ex cop, they found it hard to extricate themselves from it).
He’s around 80, retired and does it to kill time. Also to get away from his wife.
The times he tries to engage in conversations it doesn’t go far, as he’s completely insufferable.
He needs to find a different hobby.
Oh he has them. He makes noise in the garage. Checks up progress with council workers when they’re around. Prints out complaint letters (to the council) and brings copies over to everyone on the street to discuss.
Very fulfilling life.
Sooooo I think I broke my sleep. Not just normal “oh I’m nocturnal now” broken, I’m now in this strange routine where I sleep for 20 hours and then I stay up for 30
What’s happened to me why am I broken
yep x2
yep x1 (the latter)
- not as much as I should
- I wish but no
I dare say it’s just the yo yoing from being out all night NYE then having to do stuff during the week. I’ll probably be fine when I force myself to sleep and live like a normal person again
Woke up craaaaanky. Which is annoying because I had a great night. But IDK if it’s the grey sky or the fact that it’s my mother’s birthday and I’m steeling myself for the inevitable guilt trip or that this break is nearly over and I haven’t really achieved anything or just GAH. Time for a cup of tea and to get the fuck over it.
Feeling a combination of cranky and guilty for similarish reasons too but being forced to get out of the house this morning has helped a bit. I was scrolling through dumb shit til 2am this morning and had to wake up at 7:30, I’m way too tired to garden but accepting that and getting through an extremely overdue library book in a chill cafe in a suburb I’ve never really spent much time in has been good instead. Better to feel things outside of the house than be in it all the time…
Glad to hear you did something nice for yourself! I ended up going for a walk along the beach and then had sushi for lunch and am feeling so much better now!
It’s nice this time of year too, not as overwhelming on the streets, quite relaxed out there.
