Background: Bro and SIL tried to upend (bulldoze is putting it better) sleeping arrangements, got upset that it didn’t go their way and left in a huff.
Result: Apparently that is now a major falling out. Surprised how upset they are.
You did exactly the right thing, telling them to cut out the bullshit powerplays. I’ll bet they thought you were a pushover, after all the wedding crap that you complied with. Now they know different and will just have to cope with the fact they did a wrong thing. Of course they are upset. The more wrong they are, the more upset they are. Classic narcissist behaviour.
I fully support and agree wholeheartedly with everything the other respondents have already said, so can only say this: fucking good on you for standing up for yourself! So hard to do when it’s family.
I thought Bridezilla behaviour was supposed to end after the wedding…
They’re being childish. Tried to throw their weight around through some artificially inflated sense of importance and had a tantrum when it didn’t work. Especially crappy behaviour if you were allowing them to stay with you, and after all the extra miles you went at short notice for the wedding. From your posts you do a lot for your family (it seems expected of you) and I don’t think this pair appreciates it.
Update on the tense family stuff.
Background: Bro and SIL tried to upend (bulldoze is putting it better) sleeping arrangements, got upset that it didn’t go their way and left in a huff.
Result: Apparently that is now a major falling out. Surprised how upset they are.
oh well.
You did exactly the right thing, telling them to cut out the bullshit powerplays. I’ll bet they thought you were a pushover, after all the wedding crap that you complied with. Now they know different and will just have to cope with the fact they did a wrong thing. Of course they are upset. The more wrong they are, the more upset they are. Classic narcissist behaviour.
When people leave in a huff I call that a bitch stomp.
What children. Maybe this outburst is better than indefinitely simmering tension though.
Sounds like a cold water swim is what you need to shake off the tension and bad vibes
Very much doing a swim tonight heh.
Just a shame it ruined what was otherwise a nice family get together.
Hopefully this will open things up towards an ultimatum/resolution so future family get togethers will be a bit clearer and less manipulative…
Some people just aren’t happy unless they’re getting their own way. It’s so frustrating. Sorry it’s ruining your holidays.
Good stuff resisting and standing up to them.
They may be upset but do they recognise that what they did was unacceptable for you?
Or are too selfish and only thinking about themselves while being upset?
Out of curiosity did they leave to go home or to find another place to stay?
If all they wanted to do was stay in their room they could have done that home. 🙄
I fully support and agree wholeheartedly with everything the other respondents have already said, so can only say this: fucking good on you for standing up for yourself! So hard to do when it’s family.
I thought Bridezilla behaviour was supposed to end after the wedding…
They’re being childish. Tried to throw their weight around through some artificially inflated sense of importance and had a tantrum when it didn’t work. Especially crappy behaviour if you were allowing them to stay with you, and after all the extra miles you went at short notice for the wedding. From your posts you do a lot for your family (it seems expected of you) and I don’t think this pair appreciates it.