Thursday next week marks one year since I was hit by a semi trailer at high speed. I somehow walked away, but my car was smooshed and there was a bit of trauma to work through.
I’m not generally one to put too much heed in anniversaries like this, but it’s looming at me a bit. I’m not sure what I should do on the day. Hide inside until it’s over? Do something positive to celebrate that I survived and am mostly ok? Deep clean the house to distract myself?
Go for a walk in a beautiful place. Talk with people you love.
Fark that’s full on. I’m not sure how to celebrate something like that but we’re all certainly glad you walked away from that.
I’d buy a cake and snacks and hibernate and cry and watch funny animal videos.
Whatever you decide to do will not be the wrong decision. ♥ & 🫂
Yeah cake helps most things.
With extra cream.
Am a great believer in the ‘do something positive’ option. But totally understand if you wish to make another choice of action. Bearing in mind that deep cleaning the house could well be something positive as well as distracting, and would free up a weekend to enjoy with no guilts attached. The hide inside option is less desirable imo, as it continues to fuel the trauma memory and reinforces the power it has over you. That is just my opinion though. You do what’s right for you on the day.
I’m leaning towards treating myself to a spa day. Some nice relaxation. But I’ll give it a few days.
This sounds nice; simple, indulgent and life affirming.
Definitely do something nice for yourself, but don’t put to much pressure on you to make it perfect
Last dayyyyy tomorrowwwwww I cannot wait
And how will you celebrate??? Presumably tinned fish will be included at some point?
After work drinks with my comrades who will be left behind, and others who have already passed on. Then fish
This works. Enjoy!
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I’ll never understand the adoration of politicians in America. The rallies, the banners, the concert style appearances, tshirts, celebrity endorsements. Can you imaging such a thing for Albo, Dutton or anyone in Aus? I greatly prefer our attitude - view them all with a healthy disdain and vote for the one you least dislike.
I think not having compulsory voting is part of it because they really have to put on a show to get you motivated to vote.
That’s exactly it. If they had compulsory voting, their campaigns wouldn’t be so unhinged, as they’re trying to convince people to vote in the first place, let alone vote for them
This was mentioned in the book ‘From secret ballot to democracy sausage’. Compulsory voting pulls politics towards the centre because you have to appeal to everyone.
Another outlier we have is preferential voting, whichgives smaller parties an opportunity to participate without eating into majorities.
And yeah, it strikes me as weird how they have those massive conventions over in the states, they’re like Comicon for the worst and most boring people. And that people will say they don’t like politics, then be ride or die for someone like Trump
glasses fixed. turns out having them ripped off my face and attempts to force feed them back to me warps the frame a bit. Who knew.
I asked the Specsavers staff if they all needed to wear glasses or were they just testing out the goods. There was an awkward pause before someone replied “oh I need to wear them”. The other 4 workers didn’t make eye contact with me.
It’s like when I wonder why all the people that work at the bottle shop near me are drunk.
Oh look the box is damaged. We’ll have to write that one off.
makes sense i guess. I’m not gonna buy a new WRX off a bloke getting around in a '99 corolla
Unless it has a bumper sticker saying ‘My other car is a WRX’ of course.
I wanna get the mrs a bumper sticker that says “When I grow up I want to be an Evo”
Fight or toddler?
Nest refresh day lol*I like the two ply
it makes me feel safe inside
Good luck with pooing*
Gibson - 2024
I love her. 💘
Miss Gibson loves the texture
Of softly embossed paper
She found her requisition
Way beneath her position
So she made her hominid a butlerEdit: not my best
That’s a clever use for old issues of the Werribee Weekly
What do people with normal jobs do when both parents are working and their kids are too sick to go to childcare?
I have the one in person event I need to attend tomorrow and the way the kids are going that probably won’t happen. Are you supposed to take a day off work every time? Normal people can’t do that
We work out who has to go to work and for how long. We tend to swap, work half days each if needed. I can sometimes work from home. But at the end of the day, your kids are sick and need you, and work isn’t going to help pick your nursing home.
I took them to the doctor today and got a certificate for carers leave for tomorrow.
I’m full WFH and tomorrow is like the one day a year event they want everyone to go to Marvel stadium for a bunch of pro work propaganda.
I may be having problems with my manager, but I might need to ride this out or find another fully remote role because I don’t know how days like this will work otherwise
There isn’t one answer that suits all families, someone has to give each time. We have grandmothers, but they’re both older and medically compromised so we don’t ask them to do the sick days, but they do help on school holidays. Luckily both our bosses are pretty understanding, and we share the load. But it’s a constant assessment every time, and we don’t judge each other as parents for it. It isn’t easy.
This right here is one of the major reasons we left Melbourne. We were on our own there, without any family support.
To answer the question: One of us usually takes personal (carers) leave. Sometimes that isn’t possible, so we ask grandparents or my sister to help us out (if safe/not contagious). What often happens is that one of us is sick also, having caught whatever pestilence the child(ren) introduced to the house anyway.
Don’t send the kids to daycare if they’re sick. You’ll just be lumping this hassle on other families. I was always resentful of parents who did that.
Hi Nath. We’re missing a tram. Could you please help? It bothers me more than it should. Thanks
I seem to have a tram on desktop
edit oh you mean in the actual DT thread?
Yeah. I’ve got the tram on the Melbourne page but it’s missing from the communities page thus the dt.
Also do youse all have black backgrounds? Am I the only one who prefers a crisp white?
Yea black background for me saves about 2 cents a year on electricity :) Worth it.
Put that in your piggy bank and save it for a rainy day.
Good morning (It’s still Morning in Perth so Nyer)!
Baku is right - the tram is in fact still there. What’s happening here is your phone thinks it has the image cached, and so isn’t loading it from the web server - instead displaying a local version of it. Only there’s a problem with that local copy of the image. If you visit https://aussie.zone/c/melbourne in your browser you’ll see that the tram is there.
What app do you have there? I thought I had all the main Android apps (Boost, Connect, Jerboa, Voyager and Sync), but none of them seem to match this screenshot. Whichever it is, you’ll want to find a setting to clear the local cache. You can clear the cache from Android settings, but that will probably clear your account and make you log in again.
Bit drastic, but I suppose I could upload a new icon. Your phone would recognise that it doesn’t have the new one in its cache and would load it. That would affect everyone though. Then again, maybe its time to upgrade from a W class to a Z class tram? 😀
I have the Aussie Zone app
When I go into Chrome, it’s also missing and I believe I’m not the only one. Also Perth’s is missing too.
It looks like there might be something wrong with Pictrs. I’ve refreshed the icon, but it isn’t making a new thumbnail. I’m afraid I won’t be able to look closer at this until tonight when I get home.
No worries
Oooh Aussie Zone app. Posh.
It was for free so I took it.
I’ve had that where my own sick days have doubled up as carers days for the kids. Unfortunately the support network in the house isn’t great because the people who don’t work and have no other commitments can’t seem to get up before noon or even just walk the kids down to thr park
If you’ve got parents or someone who is able to help that can also be another avenue.
If you send kids to childcare and they’re deemed too sick to stay or they’re contagious you may get a call to come pick them up anyway.
My girlfriend’s family live with us, so her mother and her brother are here, but I don’t really want to leave my kids in their hands.
My parents are up in NSW so whilst they’d be a little better they’re just not an option
Assuming its your place, what the heck is the point in them being there if they cant look after the kids?
It’s technically my girlfriend’s place and she got it for her mother. Her mumcan’t work because she’s the carer of my girlfriend’s aunt who had a stroke. Her husband left her and they had to sell the house so this is the solution to keep her family out of renting forever.
Her brother has been allowed to stay in his room so he’s in his mid 20s and has never had a job before. He’s autistic but that’s no reason to let him become a shut-in with no prospects.
Wow. Sounds like a lot dude. Respect for helping out family like that.
It’s not ideal and it’s tough. I just wish everyone was trying their hardest to make it work here
to be really blunt, I think it should be a requirement rather than a wish if yous girlfriends place.
Unfortunately I live with the less useful side of the family. I avoid sending them when sick, even when they’re just clingy because I know it will disrupt the carers’ plans for the other kids.
There are just a fair few days like this, and responding to a call to pick them up would take too long if I was in an office in the city and got thr call to pick them up
The system was designed for one person to stay at home running the household and covering childcare, or to have backup from extended family. Now that two incomes are needed and nuclear families are more isolated parents in this situation are kind of screwed.
Friends could help but either you wouldn’t have time to make them, they can’t afford to live close by, or they’re working too
This is definitely part of it. I feel like suburbs and urban development don’t help either. People don’t work where they live anymore so it’s expected to live on one side of the city and work on the other side.
Suburbs used to be build around something like a factory or an industrial area. Now you live in one place, shop in another, and work somewhere else
Doggo is so spent.
It’s hard work being that pretty.
Had such a hyper productive day at work (and a quiet week) that I might have nothing to do tomorrow which is great timing for working on my assignment! (zero shame)
I’ve made a lot more headway into how I want to structure this and what the key readings are. Many thanks to an awesome and very supportive/responsive supervisor. I might have a breakthrough with getting my assignment extension too, thank fuck there are basically no more assignments aside from the thesis itself after this.
It has been a truly Kafkaesque experience. I have been reminded how not being trusted or believed really, really sets me off. Something to take note of
I bought a carpet spot cleaner a while back and I’ve had to use it more now than ever before. I feel like I’ve jinxed myself. It’s time to find out if blueberry swirly yogurt comes out.
I’m so tired. I’m so drained, been going through the wringer and feeling like too little butter spread over too much bread.
I can get through this, I know I have the strength, but I’m so tired I just want to sleep forever.
Feeling exactly like this tonight. We got this but wow that overly tired feeling is just the worst.
I just want this period to end already, so I can focus on school 😭 I need a therapist so I have someone to offload to without feeling like a fatty fat burden.
But do have this, we are awesome, you are awesome!! Sending you good vibes, tone. 💜💜💜
I think it’s the weather and I’m not kidding.
We are being assailed by huge amounts of pollen and the temps and rainfall are so unpredictable. It’s all tiring.
The economy and a prevailing negative zeitgeist does not help.
I am doing this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aae_RHRptRg my little yard is full of orchids and beautiful perfumes, so many flower buds, chillies are growing and I can hear the blackbirds sing
Same. It’s really difficult
Just once I would love to not have to run the gauntlet of drug addicts as I enter the supermarket.
I would like to spread the word in that community that no-one carries cash anymore. So yelling at me demanding coins simply does not work. But I digress.
Why do supermarkets allow the loitering is another question. I certainly wouldn’t want anything to put off my customers.
I’m not sure either, and I’m really conscious of it when I take my kids with me 😳 It’s like, I know you’ve got problems but don’t. talk. to. my. kids when you’re off your head mate, or we will have a problem.
I think they start playing classical or Telstra hold music by the entrance to discourage loitering.
Or some Centrelink hold music
I wish we could invent a meth vaccine. Take meth and nothing happens, no addiction. Meth seems especially bad for anti-social behaviours compared to other drugs.
What an intriguing concept. The cynic in me says they will probably turn to another drug eventually though.
Yeah apparently with heroin people were more sleepy and less aggressive. Both fairly destructive though.
I had one come up to me in the supermarket tonight and ask for money. I said I didn’t have any cash. The next person he asked said, “nah the bank’s got all mine!”
Went to bed early, now wide awake. Sat on the toilet and someone had piddled all over the seat. Some magpie is warbling, at this hour!
wow, sky amazing
U troll 😭
whadeyedo
Outside is yucky
Good night every one. Happy dreams. 🙂
Feeling sluggish after lunch, really fighting now to power through the rest of the day but not long to go to finishing time.
Strong Tuesday vibes.
maaaan is it bed time yet? Exhausted. Having an orange juice to try perk up a bit.
I can tell you that I’ve made it home. Had a wash and now I’m laying in bed
so tired, coffee has been attained
