Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.

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    Sometimes you’ve just tried so, so hard, and thought you’d done the best you could, and it still isn’t enough… and you’re so over it that then there is a flooding of relief when you accept that that’s all you can do, and it’s okay to rest, and stop trying to work so hard, and refocus.

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      It sounds like your boss is a jerk who is trying to constructively dismiss you

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    It’s a bit early to go so deep and I usually give pretty bad advice, but this time is different.

    If you’re getting married, don’t get your parents to pay for it.

    My bro is getting married soon, p’s are paying and what I’m seeing is not great. It creates a very odd dynamic.

    It’s a supremely bad idea.

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      Is it because they think that contributing money buys them a controlling say in how the wedding goes? That’s not cool, and it’s certainly no gift.

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        I think 2/3rds of the guests are my parents’ buddies heh. There’s a clash about guestlist, food, seating, font on the invitations…

        I think the control will go beyond the wedding. You’re not calling enough, coming over for dinner enough etc… which my guess will lead to a bit of resentment and regret.

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      We paid for our own wedding, and it was the best decision. MIL wanted to pay for it, but that would have meant she runs the show. Sidelining her was very satisfying as she had no control over anything.

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        Agreed, footed our own bill. Filled up the wheelbarrow and kid shell pool thing with ice and a thousand bucks of dan murphy’s finest merchandise, ordered like 30 pizzas, job done.

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      I’d say the same even extends to things like houses the way I’m seeing it pan out with a few friends of mine… Sucks because parents are the only way they’re able to afford a home

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        Mr Peeler would agree. He bought a house with his mum years ago, and it was his home to live in, they lived a couple of suburbs away. She felt it was her right to go in, use her key, no notice or knocking, anytime she damn well pleased. It caused a massive rift which echoes to this day.

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          One of my cousins who already has a tense relationship with her parents is about to go into this and I feel like I’m about to watch a train crash happening in slow motion

  • StudSpud The Starchy
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    When a bunch of bills come out and I’m left with negative $28 in the bank until Friday.

    this is fine dog house on fire meme

    disclaimer: not asking for donations, just ranting and whining lol

    Edit: swallowed my pride and asked Dad for help again. I wish I was dead ffs

    • Bottom_racer
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      I will donate a poem.

      Dog, fire, hat, cup.

      Things are fucked up.

    • Rusty Raven M
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      You’ll be fine, you could buy 12kg of potatoes from Coles with that and still have $1 left over!

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        Oh I don’t have $28; I have negative $28 lol. I’m thinking I’ll create an onlyfans… seems like I might actually need a side hustle…

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          Oh, I missed the “negative” bit! That’s a bit harder. Maybe you could set up an onlyfans with a live potato feed. That constant tension of never knowing exactly when the potato is going to be popped into the microwave and then consumed, it would draw tons of people in surely.

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            there are definitely people who would pay to watch Spud eat a potato.

  • danwritesbooks
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    Boss asks us to think up project work for us to do.

    Why would I want to think up more work for myself?

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      The HR here can’t work out why I won’t jump through hoops for a bonus. We’re asked to come up with extra things to be doing for more money and when I said “my plate is full and my wage is fine” she got sooo mad.

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      It’s because the boss has no idea what to do, so it’s on you now. And if you can’t think of something, then you’re not doing your job (in boss’s eyes).

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      This is the best kind of assignment. Sell them something that sounds complicated but will be a breeze for you. Receive the accolades. Winning at the game of work.

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        Exactly. I had to do the same for team goals for the new financial year. One goal is like 5 minutes of effort that sounds complex.

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    Adult tasks done, time to treat myself to some Baldur’s Gate 3 and potato smilies!

    • dumblederp
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      Astarion has been throwing it at me the last few rests.

      • bananafungus
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        I’ve only just started, so I’m not to well acquainted with everyone yet. Had to put off playing because I needed a new SSD, games these days are getting far to big.

        • landsharkkidd
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          Oh dude (let me know if you’re not cool with this language!) I have been ranting for the past month or two about games needing SSDs. I just got a 2TB SSD and it runs BG3 pretty well, some stuttering but I’ve dropped the graphics but it’s better than what it was on the HDD especially now that I’m in Baldur’s Gate.

          Though with BG3 being turn-based your reactions aren’t super important. Now playing Starfield on my HDD was like hell. Especially when it came to fights. Stuttering, lags, and audio delays was doing my head in.

          If you need an SSD recommendation, I can recommend the one I bought, my partner recc’d that one. But yeah far too many games ask for SSDs and while they’re getting cheaper, it’s still pretty expensive. Luckily there are games that I enjoy that run great on my HDD, but the more recent games are definitely ones I’m going to have to shove on the SSD.

          Thanks for coming to my Ted talk (also Karlach, be still my beating heart!).

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            For me at least, I don’t mind stuff requiring an SSD, it’s just the sheer size of the games that bothers me. I get games being larger because they have so much more going on now, but so many games are averaging 100gb+ these days and that’s just the base game, throw in DLCs and whatever else and it’s just insane.

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              Yeah, no I get you. When I was reviewing Ratchet and Clank, that pretty much required an SSD. The game would constantly crash for me because it was on an HDD. At least BG3 has a “hey click here if you’re on a hdd” button which helps to try and make the game perform a little better, but so many other games are just like “ha you’re on your own buddy!”. I was happy that R+C was a small enough size to fit on my c drive, but still. Like BG3 and Starfield are both 100+gb. I miss the days of Skyrim being under 15gb even with all the DLCs installed.

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            The harder I simp for Karlach the more Astarion and Lazel come onto me.

            • landsharkkidd
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              Same with Gale. Though apparently Gale is a bug, because since you >!give him magical items!< he’s like “oh my god thank you for this”. And his affection for you goes high because of it.

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        I want Astarion to like me but I don’t like being mean. 😭😭😭

  • Rusty Raven M
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    In breaking news, Miss Meow has investigated under the newly moved microwave cupboard and found no evidence of any remaining fluff. It has been reported that she has made complaints about false advertising and will be obtaining legal advice as to whether she can sue whoever removed the fluff for loss of amentity.

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        She still has regular access to stray onion skins, a number of toy mice and other random oddities. I am sure given the amount of hair created in the household there will also be a constant supply of new fluff to play with.

        • Bacon
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          Spring is here. She will shed extra hard to make up for the violation.

  • SpinMeAround
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    I made brownies last night and they turned out pretty good, so I took them into work to share. When my bf messaged me to say he was having a shitty day, I packaged up some of the brownies and they’re now traveling via uber to him and I’m SO nervous something will go wrong. IDK. Shhhh, brain, just let yourself do something nice without freaking yourself out!

    Edit: Brownie delivery went well! Yay!

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    I’ve won over $2k USD today. I was annoyingly taxed $572 on a jackpot of $1906 but then immediately won $600 so the IRS can suck it. But that’s not the exciting part of today… LOOK WHAT IS GOING ON AT EXCALIBUR!! I am absolutely going to get a ticket for this.

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      I really wanna zigazig aahhh…

      Who is your favourite spice girl and why isn’t it Posh?

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        It’s Ginger and I won’t apologise

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        I never had a favourite.

        Confession:
        Everyone loves them, but I didn’t like the Spice Girls at the time. It’s not a sexist thing, I hated all those boy bands as well. I hated the machine of pumping out acts of attractive people with average singing talent that was all the rage at the time.

        Those groups gave us Beyonce Knowles, Robbie Williams and Justin Timberlake. So they clearly weren’t all average talent-wise.

        I missed the legacy the Spice Girls were leaving, inspiring a generation of little girls. So I like them looking back.

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          It’s really not of a tongue in cheek for me. Back then they exploded onto the mainstream, which I was never really into but still thought was kind of a curiosity.

          The music is a one night stand not a “desert island band”

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    A while ago I swapped the position of my freezer and microwave cupboard in the kitchen. It was not working out, so this morning I swapped them back again. There has been an alarming amount of fluff and dirt build up underneath them in that time.

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    The Pirate’s Curse is now officially available. Take a look, and please consider sharing with friends or family who might be into that kind of book (action, adventure, clive cussler/matthew reilly fans.)

    Thanks.

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    Still waiting for the sparky. I am hungry.

    Update: He’s here and I’ve eaten.

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    I’m heading out to dins with the fam (and my bro+his fiancé). Just rocked up…

    Things are already so tense and I’m the only one here…

    Stay chooned.

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    I feel totes guilty buying children’s clothes to cut up , but I’m making masks for kids so I suppose that makes it ok.

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    I’m excited guys. I’ve got a sparky coming out to fix a few things around the joint. One of them was the exhaust fan in the kitchen that decided to shit its self during lockdown so tomorrow I’m going to spend the day cleaning the ceiling and the walls.

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    Where’s the beautiful sun gone? I could actually see my breath this morning.

    Thanks to this stupid scratching at night when I’m asleep my pain in whacked with pain when I move, god I hate that.

    I’m going to try and spend most of my day sitting if possible.