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    The offer has arrived.

    Hoping to speak to the general manager asap next week to discuss the police check.

    I also have 4 more interviews next week for different companies.

    All in good time.

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      When it rains it pours?! Let’s hope one of these pans out! This is great news. Also great that you’ve got a way of getting your record cleared so it isn’t gonna keep being a problem

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    The heater’s on,
    The cat is warm,
    Wrapped up in the things that
    Smell like me;
    The greatest compliment a cat
    Could ever give a monkey.

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    Was contacted by another place to move forward into the interview the process.

    Just emailed the other recruiter to get a feel for what’s going on with this offer.

    Let’s see what happens.

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    We had a quick chat. We both apologized, she thought she was doing the right thing (in her own way) but now understand how it may have seemed like she was kind of just ignoring me. We’ve promised to try listen to each other more.

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      Communication can be so easy to mess up, especially when you’re new parents.

      Here’s my 2 cents for what it’s worth:

      People make mistakes. They always will. It can be frustrating, especially when the stakes can be quite high.

      But, the most important thing we can do when someone close to us makes a mistake, is to forgive them. Without strings attached.

      Without recriminations. Without “I told you so’s”. If there are harmful consequences from our loved ones to error, we begin to keep things to ourselves. To stop communicating for fear of causing strain.

      That doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences for mistakes. But they must be wrapped on patience and forgiveness.

      We can only hope to do the best we can in this crazy world.

      /end rant

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    I switched private health people and then the old ones want me back and now I am all confused because they seem the same but then I think ‘I don’t need heart and vascular now…or do I?’

    Being an adult sucks.

    On the other hand, a school reached out to me and want me to be part of their celebrity reader thing they’re doing. Me, a celebrity. Absolutely wild, lol.

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      I’m not sure how, but I’m still down on Medibank under a corporate plan from a company I worked for 20 years ago. It’s something amazing, because despite costing a fortune, nobody has ever come close to matching it. I’ve had multiple Medibank employees tell me over the years not to mess with it because I won’t get that good a deal again.

      This amazing deal is just under $250/Mo for the four of us. 😞

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        I don’t know if you have extra built into that but if I was sign up to a moderate leve of cover plus extras that’s about 240 for me alone.

        250 for a family of 4 sounds like a dream.

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          It’s called “Bronze Plus Assured Hospital and Essential Extras 75

          It’s pretty basic cover I think.

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    There’s a very real possibility that I’ll need to confront probably my most important life decision ever soon. I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for the possibility of having to even consider it. If I do need to, I need to find a way to be at peace with that decision.

    It’s a doozy too.

    adding spoiler tag as the subject could be sensitive for somebody struggling with fertility

    “Would I be ok never having a biological child of my own if it meant finding great love and joining an established family?” As someone who already feels like an outsider, would I ever feel like I belong? Am I willing to accept that my life never has a chapter of having and raising my own child if there is potentially an option/scenario where I could? Would I resent my decision?

    Heavy stuff. Like I said though, it’s not something I need to confront right now but there’s a possibility that it might come up, so I should probably get my head straight about the concept so I know where I stand.

    Anyway… almost weekend time woo. I think I might have a drink or two this afternoon.

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      Where there is great love there is family.

      Blood ties is not the same as love, I have seen it. 😔

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      I’d say if you like the woman and get along with the kids go for it. As far as resentment and/or feeling like an outsider, you can walk away if its not working out, maybe feeling like an outsider is the price of that freedom.

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      Hm, that is a doozy. Only you can answer that one, I think. Be true to yourself.

      I know for some, having their own biological children is important to them, and for other’s, less so. It’s also important to consider what these Hypothetical Step-Children (HSP (lol)) think as well.

      But finding love is hard, and like with all choices, there’ll be pros and cons with whatever is picked.

      You don’t have to decide right now, so take your time and see what happens 🤷‍♀️

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      got a mate struggling with fertility and I gave him some advice recently about this. Course I’m giving it from a VERY privileged position, so feel free to disregard. Once you hold your kid in your arms, you wont give a fuck how you got there, cause it simply doesn’t matter. Biological or not wont matter for shit.

      the newborn stage fucking sucks too ey. no one actually talks about that part, cause if we were honest no one would ever have kids.

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      This one is tough. I don’t believe I’d have had the strength to do it before I had kids. I really wanted to be a dad and I wanted my “own” kids. The idea of forming a relationship with a single mother was also mega daunting to younger me.

      But now that I’ve gone the traditional route, I could absolutely imagine the “other path” to happiness. I can recognise that I’d have loved it had I met my wife and kids as a package and joined the family. I don’t love them because they have my DNA. I love them because they’re my kids.

      It’ll depend on the age(s) of the kid(s), but to a kid is under 5, they won’t remember a time before you were in their life. You won’t be an outsider, you’ll just be “dad”.

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    Day 7 of the lemon tree thorn accident. That tree should be weaponised, finger is still blistering.

    It’d be completely demoralising.

    There you are standing in the field, bombs going off left right. Tinnitus drowning out the aural horror… Then some fuck comes at you brandishing a lemon tree branch. You need to think quickly, this is life or death. First thought is what type of lemon… Meyer? With those sweet floral undertones… Lisbon? How thick is the pith? Would it make good limoncello? Are they really worth $1.19ea at woolies?

    Before you can appraise the lemon and with various recipes flashing before your eyes it’s too late. You’ve been struck!

    You return to base, seemingly with a minor injury. Your comrades laughing at you… but over the next few days their laughter subsides into deep pity watching you try and delicately put your right shoe on without using your normal finger.

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    I have a lot of panko, squid, oil, flour but no eggs :(

    So the squid will be frozen until the panic bakers come to their senses and settle down. I just need 1. Seriously the egg section feels like the beginning of the rona.

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      I have 9 eggs bwahaha!

      Shall we start the bidding at $15 each?

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        I have a whole dozen, and they’re free range! I guess I’m rich now! But I’m gonna eat my riches at breakfast so it won’t last long.

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          I have 2 dozen plus two, about 4 frozen eggwhites and a container of dried egg powder. Thanks mostly to Gippsland Eggs who have a minimum purchase of 5 dozen to get free delivery. My last order was just before they started putting purchase limits on at Colesworth, so the timing was good.

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      mayo is a brilliant idea and sounds delicious

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      Next time you’re in Kew try Toscanos, haven’t seen egg shortages there so far.

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      I think you can use mayo instead of eggs to stick breadcrumbs, I’ve never tried it for calamari though. I reckon it would be fine.

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        I’ve used plain milk for breading chicken breast before. The crumbs didn’t stick quite as well, and it came out a lighter consistency, but it was fine. I think I’ve heard of people using a mix of vegetable oil, milk, and water as well which supposedly works ok.

        I also ate a brownie that had the egg substituted for banana. Apparently that’s a thing. The banana was a little overwhelming, but it did work

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          While I like eating bananas I hate bananas used as an ingredient in anything unless it’s banana cake.

          The banana taste is always overwhelming when it’s used as an ingredient and it’s yucky.

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    Gratitude thread.

    I’m grateful that there is so much love in my life. So much more than that one person could’ve given me. Love is everywhere. The food we eat, the beautiful skies, people, sounds. Even though at times I still feel pangs of shitty feelings from the hostility he probably feels towards me, I am able to remind myself that my life is so much better without that person in it.

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      I’m grateful for you lot. Although I don’t comment very much, I love checking in here each day. Love the camaraderie and chit-chat, and the support that is offered when people need it.

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      I’m grateful I get to return home soon (Tuesday, hopefully)

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      I’m alive. I’m not struggling. My daughter is happy and healthy. I can do the things I love.

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      I am very grateful FaceBastard didn’t exist when I was a kid.

      And for fluffy socks.

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        The amount of dumb stuff I would have posted if social media was a thing when I was a kid…

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          I used to post song lyrics and quotes from famous people on my FB, between 2006-2010 (14yo - 18yo).

          Now I do that here instead 😂

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      That was nicely said. I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads, a split system that’s in good working order and for it being Friday! Sooo tired!

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    Unexpected last minute arrangement.

    Friend has invited me out for lunch for my birthday. Going to be having Japanese, I usually go for a noodle dish but maybe I might try a Japanese curry if they have one.

    It’s going to be nice and fun to catch up as well.

    It’ll it all lines up I’ll be back home in time to also catch my team playing afl tomorrow.

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    So I sat my wife down and expressed VERY clearly that we are NOT getting involved in that thing earlier this week. So whats she doing this weekend? You have GOT to be fucking kidding me.

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      Let her. Just don’t get involved yourself. This gives you “I told you so” rights when she comes home exhaustipated and emotionally vulnerable. However, you may not wish to exercise those rights in the interests of family harmony.

      Best if she discovers for herself that you can only help those who want to be helped. Let this one slide past without getting yourself involved I think. Just have some comfort for her ready when she gets back. Maybe cook dinner and do all the kid things while she’s busy elsewhere.

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        This is the latest in a long line of “I say this is a bad idea, Mrs Break says “yes” then does EXACTLY the bad idea thing”. Think we’re gonna have a sit down conversation about this. She’s absolutely entitled to do whatever the hell she wants, but each time makes it a little bit tougher to trust her judgement.

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          It’s really important you don’t make her feel bad or stupid, you have to keep her trusting you. Don’t let the situation get to a place where she starts doing things in secret.

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        Yeah I’m staying RIGHT out of it, and the second it affects the kid shes in a world of trouble.

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          Is she taking the kid with her? If not, then it’s her problem what happens. Maybe volunteer to have the kid yourself all day so no pressure on her. If she wants to take the kid with her - fight like hell to stop that. No one sane takes a kid into a toxic situation.
          It has occurred to me that maybe mrs break wants to sit down with someone that isn’t going to criticise her and have a good whinge about life the universe and everything and especially MEN with someone who sounds like an olympic grade whinger themselves. Best to stay right out of that one for your own sanity. Take your kid to the park and build a happy memory instead.

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            her intention was to take the kid yes.

            her plan was I think she didnt really want to take my word on something as serious as this and really wanted to assess for her own judgement which look I understand that, but the original comment from me was we needed to take some space. It wasnt “lets never hang out” it was just a “deffo not this weekend”

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    For the first time in probably 3 years, I saw a group of high school kids smoking cigarettes.

    Guess that vape ban is working a treat…

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    Bit of shameless self promo: there’s an outdated tram map in the info book at the hotel I’m staying at. I blanked out the date, but if anybody wants to try and guess it, I posted a redacted version in c/MelbourneTrains. First person to correctly guess the year without any googling (or Bing-bonging, or duckgoducking) based on memory alone wins bragging rights and a digital barnstar

    (I’m not actually sure it’s possible to determine the year based off of the route and stop changes, but it should narrow down the range to a couple of years if you remember when a couple of route changes happened. Guessing may be required)

    Post: https://aussie.zone/post/11369832

    Current (official) clue is that it’s from before 2015. Peeler noticed a couple of other clues as well