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    I am so worried about today.

    Mum’s going in for eye surgery this morning (which I only knew as of yesterday). She has only partial vision in one eye and that’s what they’re operating on. This is so risky and the outcome will take weeks. Fingers crossed.

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    Surgery went well nothing adverse.

    Not out of the woods but a bit of a relief to hear that.

    I suspect even if successful there’ll be management of total blindness for a bit.

    But so far that’s good news.

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      This is really great to hear. Temporary total blindness will be horrific but it’s better that it’ll get better rather than worse.

      I am guessing this is a massive wake up call for your parents. Fuck I don’t know what I’d do if mum had a fall and went blind…

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    Had a pretentious dinner with my partner and we had beautiful chats, got home in time to watch some silly shows together.

    Turning 40 half our ago ain’t so bad! Still breaks my brain, but here’s to the next 40.

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        Nom, and thank you ❤️

        Oh wait I finished those, can I please get some more? :p

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          Such lovely manners!

          🦪🦪🦪🦪🦪🦪
          🦪🦪🦪🦪🦪🦪🍋

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            Massively appreciated, I can eat those non stop all day. It’s probably best I don’t try and beat Roy’s 100 in a sitting though (chef show) so need to walk away hehe :D Sending many loves ❤️

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                Had an Aussie chef/restaurant owner tell me in detail that there’s a place just past Adelaide that has oysters to drive and die for. Wish I could remember the place to tell you but I could speak to the guy again.

                Regardless, enjoy your trip to NZ and your oysters!

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        Thank you, here’s a slice for you too 🍰

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      Happy Birthday!
      🦪🦪
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      🦪🦪🦪🦪🦪

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      Happy birthday!! Sounds like a lovely evening to celebrate, hope that’s the tone for the year!

      Where was the pretentious dinner?

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        Thank you! And sorry for the late reply, birthday n all.

        It was at Sunda. Wouldn’t recommend. Defo not worth $450 for the monotonal flavours. Nice place though.

        Edit: typo as obviously “Sunda” got switched to “Sunday”

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        Thank you so much, apologies for the delay, b’day n all :D

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        Thank you! Hope your mum is doing OK and adjusting and that you’re doing as well as can be?

        Again if you just wanna shoot over some chilli pics to distract yourself then I’ll always be here for you!

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    So my aunt is clearing her house out as she’s selling it, so has been giving boxes of old stuff to her kids. Yesterday she had a box for the birthday cousin (her son lol), and it includes his old pair of Heelys from when he was a teen.

    I exclaimed how cool that is! How I always wanted a pair, and he should definitely try them on again and wear them! Because they’re cool!

    He laughed and said he wasn’t gonna wear them, they have a skull design on them and he isn’t interested…

    Long story short, he gave me his Heelys after checking they fit. And they do! I thanked him profusely and probably will continue to do so lol

    My inner child is fucking stoked!

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      I am so jealous. Please wear them out and enjoy them for my inner child too!

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    Oh for pete’s sake. My aunt who I saw on Monday was trying to clean out things from her house on Thursday and slipped on some gum leaves on her steep and uneven front steps and hit her head on the ground. Had a bit of minor whiplash. She’s been resting all weekend thankfully. Once I’ve finished moving I’ll go offer to help my aunt and uncle with moving crap outside. After reading about Bottom_racer’s mum I’m not to keen on them risking another fall. They have two grown children who have no interest in helping…

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      I hope she’s ok Kitten.

      If she’s got any signs of dizziness, vision problems all of sudden she needs to go see a doctor about a possible concussion.

      I’m hoping it wasn’t too bad of a fall and impact.

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        I think she’s okay given that the fall was on Thursday and she has been resting since. But I’m wary of her having another fall in the coming week, I hope she is very careful. She and my uncle feel like they have to do everything themselves because they are (a) frugal and (b) unable to rely on their kids for help, but it’s not worth a fall.

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      Oh no. I hope she’s okay. Definitely check in on her over the next few days.

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      Hugs and keep an eye on her. Seems the bad effects of falls can take a few days to appear.

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    Falling asleep patting fluffball. I think it might be time to put on an audiobook and peacefully doze off.

    Goodnight everyone ❤️

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    The German guy on the telly this morning “It’s schnappy hour somewhere in the world” when offering the shot of schnapps to morning weather dude. 😂

    Yeah I watch morning tv. I am not embarrassed about that.

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    I’ve got so much shit to do today and I don’t want to do any of it. Have started with dishes and laundry. 🥱

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      I’ve got so many things to go through and cull/pack… threw some laundry in too and having a late breakfast with tea… just want to have a lazy Sunday. 🥱

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      I say this far too often because it’s life changing advice. If you can afford it, you can hire help at about $120 a fortnight to manage most of these problems. As they’re specialists at it they can smash them quickly.

      I like to still do my own laundry and clean dishes whilst I cook as it’s faster and more efficient but I haven’t “cleaned” or had to “chores” in years.

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      I’m agin it. You may take this as permission

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    Bummer, mental health

    Oh man. I really feel like I’m deteriorating in the place where I live. Constant fight or flight and can barely eat.

    The suburb is nice elsewhere but it’s quite rough in my immediate spot and there have been many incidents which have led to ptsd. It goes so far beyond a pinched package (or three). Some pretty serious stuff has happened here and I just haven’t gone into any of it.

    I’ve exhausted every avenue that wouldn’t leave me worse off. Now shaking the tree for one last possibility on the chance I might be able to move out but the place won’t even be built until like 2026.

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      so many hugs

      Remember, you are safe once you close your front door.

      and regarding serious stuff, I lived in downtown Detroit and I was safe. Crime was always in nightclubs and or among drug gangs. And because crime isn’t random to be safe I just had to stay away from drugs and where dealers go…

      The incidents will be the same, only against people/enemies they know, not random.

      You are safer than you think.

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        You mean well but… I just deleted an extremely personal comment of everything that has actually happened to me here. Repeatedly. For years.

        Here you go. I once chased an intruder out of my house on pure unthinking adrenaline. I was very lucky that the person was alone - and that they spooked when I rushed them.

        That was the very least of it. That is the one thing I’m willing to tell you about because the rest is so much worse and persisted so much longer.

        I genuinely don’t leave my house a lot because things are ‘quieter’ these days but I still don’t want to keep an eye out or roll the dice on physical confrontations. Yes it is likely. Guess how I know.

        Ps. The justice system is useless. Cops are overwhelmed. Don’t expect anything. I was lucky to finally get a camera through victims of crime after a particularly bad incident.

        You’re welcome to not believe me, that’s cool. It is so unbelievable to someone who doesn’t live in my exact circumstances. It’s unbelievable to me. I think it comes down to the area, previous tenant, and looking like an easy target.

        But there are landmarks I can point to that explains it. Ghettos of untreated mental illness and substance abuse do exist in pockets (even in seemingly nice areas) of Melbourne. And vulnerable low income people do get warehoused in with it.

        This is exactly how I knew what Baku was about to be dealing with.

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          omg, I’m so sorry, and yes, I do believe you.

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            So sorry to unload even that on you. I just wanted to illustrate that I wasn’t just getting nervous from rumours or something happening near me.

            I’m actually a pretty tough person despite being non confrontational, in the sense that I can take a lot of adversity and keep going, so it took quite a bit to get so worn down.

            Edit: Oh yeah you were right though. I was unlucky enough to be housed somewhere with heaps of drugs and drug related crime. That’s definitely part of it

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              I’m in the inner city here, crime has really escalated since covid, erratic , scary even violent drug users every where. Also so many rough sleepers too in my area, often even in my street.

              I really don’t know what to do.

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                It really has.

                I used to get a lot of sketchy people looking for the previous tenant, thankfully that fell off but then I was targeted more specifically in other ways.

                Now I’m noticing an uptick of more people going past my place who are very obviously substance affected, probably unhoused, and the crime is more casual and opportunistic but more frequent. That parcel I reported - that same guy actually stole three and is a regular going past.

                I had someone sleeping rough outside too, out in the open on a bench, when normally it’s more hidden.

                People have got more brazen about getting aggressive in public or coming onto your property to rummage bins/take anything they can.

                The housing crisis, mental health cuts, drug supply and the strain of covid have really made their mark.

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        I didn’t! So why am i being punishhheeedddd

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    Laundry is out… going through the clothes after avoiding it all morning. Emotions! Letting go of clothes that have meant a lot in the past but over the last few years of numbness that started during the lockdowns, barely looked at let alone worn. I’m not into dressing up much, but I miss the person who used to wear these. Some things I’m happy to let go of though. Lots of things from 12-14 years ago 😬

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      “I’m not into dressing up much, but I miss the person who used to wear these.” Wow, that hit hard. I’ve got longline leather jacket, silk shirts etc that I used to wear but haven’t in years and I can’t let them go yet, I feel like I’d be throwing out part of myself. I got rid of all my high heeled boots years back, when motherhood arrived, and I still get upset about it sometimes. Did I really have to? But I was the one mostly left literally holding the baby, high heeled boots aren’t sensible at all, and there was so much finger wagging from my in-laws about celebrities in ridiculous heels holding newborns… Now I’m a fat mumma and a factory worker, not a glamorous or hip person at all. Sometimes I miss who I used to be. I had to give up so much as a mother, and I adore my kids but to be truthful it’s sometimes a sore point. I swore I wouldn’t be that person and here I am, wearing Millers Woman from the op shop, polishing off cupcakes from Coles because I am sad. Wow, that’s pathetic, I didn’t realise how bad it’d gotten!

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        You’ll find yourself again once the kids are more independent. Then you’ll be the more mature & improved, more confident Peeler Sheila.

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        If it’s any consolation I didn’t have kids and that happened to me too.

        Some of my nicer or flashier clothes got ruined in storage but what’s left of them just isn’t appropriate for my lifestyle or where I am.

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        Oh no Peeler. I felt so sad reading your comment. I don’t know what to say because I haven’t had such a big transition forced (?) on me in life, but I personally think the part of you that is fun and exciting and curious about the world is still there in the way you write — how you observe the world. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, you are a truly amazing woman no matter how you look on the outside 💖

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        From what you’ve posted here, it sounds like you’re doing amazing with what you have on your plate.

        You’re an incredibly strong person, and I have a hell of a lot of respect for you.

        Don’t throw those clothes away. They’re waiting for you when the time is right.

        And there will be a time.

        Don’t lose hope ❤️

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      I feel you. I let go of some sentimental stuff that was genuinely never going to be worn again. Other stuff just got yeeted.

      I wish I wasn’t so picky or had better luck with shopping.

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    Gone through all my clothes, culled about 30% - half in the bin, half to the op shop. Nearly all the other clothes are packed. As are the hangers, and all my paper bags and bubble wrap has been consolidated. Plus two loads of laundry.

    Cooked up a big dish of pasta with white bean, roast pumpkin, salmon, zucchini and baby spinach for the next three days, and some dal for tonight.

    Far out I’m exhausted, that’s enough for me today. Next task is to consolidate all the bits and bobs hiding in drawers all over the place. And move all my boxes somewhere out of the way.

    E: I also seem to have dislodged some kind of dust that’s making me feel weird… better run the air purifier.

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    Seems like falls are popular :( they hurt.

    Saw mum this arvo briefly she was high as a kite but doing well. just got a call just now telling me to put something over her strawberries and I didn’t have the heart to tell her something has already eaten them :(

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      Doing well is good. 🙂

      and look after those strawbs, new ones will grow

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    I hate opening a new bottle of something to find those stupid fucking plastic ring pulls. And if they happen to break while pulling then it takes all my courage not to throw the thing. 🤬