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    I’m going to the snow at the end of the month and have been messaging a friend I let borrow my ski clothes and equipment two years ago. They just never gave me back my stuff and I forgot about it to now. I’m a bit annoyed they just kept my things, and now my goggles are missing and I don’t remember if I let them borrow. It shouldn’t be up to me to remember and ask for my stuff back, you should give it back once you are done with it without prompt.

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      Another way to look at it is they were storing it for you while you weren’t using them. Some places charge for that.

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    yay, chair cushions are done and I can now tidy up and move onto to other tasks, like sanding and painting 🙂

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    I am having such a shitty fucking day. I’ve honestly never felt this bad so fast before. Just massively angry, wanting to lash out over everything.

    Everything is getting worse and none of us are stopping it(I’m certainly not). My attempts to maybe improve things for myself just add more stress and inevitably fail. I feel like I’m trying to climb a styrofoam wall. I can grab at chunks to try and pull myself up, but all I’m doing is fucking up an already shitty wall.

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      Hugs. If you can roll yourself up somewhere in the sun I recommend it. You aren’t alone in your feelings.

      I read On The Beach a few years ago after the 2020 bushfires and at the start of COVID when I was feeling particularly hopeless. Basically its a classic about an impending nuclear winter - what happens when everyone find out they have six months to live. One of the side characters just carried on tending their little garden, planting out things that they would never harvest and in all probability would never grow. But it was her job - to tend her garden and she figured no-one knew any would be next so she might as well do this thing. She was totally at peace. I think about her a lot when I am in this headspace.

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        There are green places to be in the sun nearish me, but too far to walk, and I don’t want to be around other people much so a tram would be a bad idea I reckon.

        I had read some of it a while ago, but lost my place and never bothered to refind it. Might have to give it another look some time, because it’s a great book. I wish I had the certainty of a set date, honestly. Six months is easier to handle than “it’s a mystery”

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      Massive hugs. Climbing a styrofoam wall sounds incredibly difficult. I hope you find a moment of joy today, even if it’s tiny.

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    It’s strange - why am I eager to help my friend clean her apartment but leave my own space a dump when a clean space helps me feel less cluttered mentally?

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      Several of my friends have the same problem as me, much easier to help others clean and tidy than do your own space. I put it down to reduced negative emotional weight (to objects, to the activity, guilt of not doing it in a timely manner, repetitiveness etc) and greater positive emotion (helping others, building social capital, satisfaction from completing tasks, maybe a sense of superiority because others needed your help) when cleaning others’ spaces rather than ones own. I just roll with it now and accept that it’s a thing

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        after helping to clean BIL’s level 4 hoard ( house was a biohazard ) i have zero motivation helping others do housework, it’s enough i do my own now

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      Follow the feeling. Think about cleaning or do the cleaning, how do you feel?

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      Interesting. The local library was my safe haven as a kid. Or any book really. I predate xbox and electronic games so there wasn’t a huge lot of choice. Nowadays my local library makes a big deal about being ‘fun’ and ‘lively’ and ‘inclusive’ - which to kid me sounds like hell on earth. So it wouldn’t be available as a safe haven now. I suspect we all need a safe haven in our lives - and find it in a variety of places. Another very unfashionable opinion of mine is that quite a lot of illegal drug use gets its root cause in the search for a mental safe haven in a hostile universe, albeit a temporary one with a huge downside.

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      100%. Any form of escapism that makes us feel like we have some freedom… It’s a strong imprint in our formative years…

      I think a lot of us still chase it, be it knowingly or unknowingly.

      Hope you continue creating other good memories. Might not be exactly the same, but you can get pretty close. ✨

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    Just dropped the pets off for their kennel stays while we nip off to NZ - as soon as the staff picked up Toby, I absolutely sobbed 😭

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    City excursion with the fam today. Got new shoes, had a good dinner and overall good vibes.

    Cheers to the young couple that had a chat with us at Lids (hat shop).

    May your life turn out the way you want.

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    I bring fire and sticks, you bring the marshmallows.

    Took forever to get going but it got there (without cheating!). Wasn’t a very big pile this year (can only do it mid winter) but still satisfying.

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    Treating myself to a cafe big breakfast because all I got at home is ramen and sardines. While ramen and sardines WAS a tempting option, having no eggs or frozen veg to add sealed the deal

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    I’ve discovered Mickey likes to eat spinach. So he got a little pile of it last night and he fully ate it all. May have to occasionally give him a treat of it, he always wants what we eat and it isn’t harmful 🤷‍♀️

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      Fen is fond of Bok Choy. More Twinsie stuff?

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          No, not a drooler. Likes shiny things - trying to steal nose rings at 3am

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            Mickster doesn’t mind my jewellery, but he loves to chew on plastic. I had to put lemon juice and the stop’n’grow (to stop chewing my nails) on my power cords lol. Also bites my monitors, phone, and laptop lol

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              Wood in this case. Nothing wood with corners is safe, tables, chairs, doors. The spray stuff seems to be helping. OCD meds did not!

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      Many moons ago, when Miss Seagoon was Baby Seagoon, I had a void called Mungo who loved corn on the cob. He also used to steal sips of drinks by dipping his paw into cups and glasses.

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      Melbcat likes pumpkin, sweet potato, peas and broccoli. Vegies are actually really good for cats

      Edit: Oh and cooked carrots!

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        I’ll have to try more with him, he snatched some spinach out of my hand before like a lil goblin haha

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          If you keep sowing a few seeds at regular intervals in a window box and pull off individual leaves you can have a steady supply of baby spinach

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        A long ago cat was obsessed with carrot greens. She behaved like they were triple strength catnip. So much drool and improbable spinal contortions.

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    Beautiful day. Not much to do, so reading in bed, music and games I think.

    Enjoy your day everyone!

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    Spent the arvo doing laundry at the Laundromat, got a coffee, walked down to Barkley Square to suss out dehumidifiers (no bueno, will have to order online), then saw a spontaneous rave:

    Didn’t catch who it was, but she was absolutely laying down some sick beats from the back of her van 🤘

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      You might need a new bank as well.

      Edit: a new bank card as well might help!

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          I half expected ANZ, I had trouble with them pushing everything through their app messaging. I have no idea if there app was any good though, I couldn’t use the app because I didn’t have a customer reference number, and all paths to get a customer reference number kept either referring you to the app, or going through phone menu systems that required you to enter your customer reference number. I ended up spending ages trying various combinations in the phone menu to find one that got through to a real person that could transfer me to the right place.

          In regards to the fees, most banks have fee-free accounts these days. I like to spread around a few different banks these days so I have something in place if there are any issues with one bank. They make it fairly easy to sign up and to change these days so I’ve tried out quite a few. I think Commonwealth is the only major bank I haven’t had an account with.

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          Pretty sure all the Big Five banks all have the no fees for kids/students thing. That’s not a particular feature.

          Not that we can talk: my kids chose NAB exclusively on the colour scheme. 😂

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    Okay the memes coming from our breakdancer’s performance overnight are so fucking funny

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      Anyone got a link to the full performance?

      Edit: all I’m finding are ai narrated videos with still shots and snippets.

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        You’ll have to try and find it on the 9Now website/app or maybe olympics website

        They’re super tight on video copyright and broadcasting rights.