It’s strange - why am I eager to help my friend clean her apartment but leave my own space a dump when a clean space helps me feel less cluttered mentally?
Several of my friends have the same problem as me, much easier to help others clean and tidy than do your own space. I put it down to reduced negative emotional weight (to objects, to the activity, guilt of not doing it in a timely manner, repetitiveness etc) and greater positive emotion (helping others, building social capital, satisfaction from completing tasks, maybe a sense of superiority because others needed your help) when cleaning others’ spaces rather than ones own. I just roll with it now and accept that it’s a thing
I don’t know, but I do this thing where I (usually) leave the communal areas spick and span, but leave my room in a horrendous state, so you’re not alone. I don’t enjoy cleaning at all, but it seems to be a lot easier (or at least an existing habit) to keep the lounge room and kitchen clean, even though I live by myself for the moment. More difficult to keep my room clean
It’s strange - why am I eager to help my friend clean her apartment but leave my own space a dump when a clean space helps me feel less cluttered mentally?
Several of my friends have the same problem as me, much easier to help others clean and tidy than do your own space. I put it down to reduced negative emotional weight (to objects, to the activity, guilt of not doing it in a timely manner, repetitiveness etc) and greater positive emotion (helping others, building social capital, satisfaction from completing tasks, maybe a sense of superiority because others needed your help) when cleaning others’ spaces rather than ones own. I just roll with it now and accept that it’s a thing
Maybe we should all just clean our friends’ spaces. Problem solved.
after helping to clean BIL’s level 4 hoard ( house was a biohazard ) i have zero motivation helping others do housework, it’s enough i do my own now
I don’t know, but I do this thing where I (usually) leave the communal areas spick and span, but leave my room in a horrendous state, so you’re not alone. I don’t enjoy cleaning at all, but it seems to be a lot easier (or at least an existing habit) to keep the lounge room and kitchen clean, even though I live by myself for the moment. More difficult to keep my room clean
Follow the feeling. Think about cleaning or do the cleaning, how do you feel?
Do the cleaning. Motivation usually follows action :)