So just at a park in Brunny, and it’s faint with the eyes, but my phones picking it up :D
Took the dog out for a wee, still going strong out there.
Oooo this is such a good pic!!! 😍
I tried, other people locally got brighter ones, but I like this.
oh wow.
nice!
Silly question maybe, but you’re looking South?
Yup, looking south. The city light pollution is blue, but the red is the aurora
Taken from my backyard using iPhone 3 second exposure. Can’t really see it to the naked eye but insane on camera.
So stoked to see it for myself too. 🎊
Went out for dinner tonight, Korean BBQ. On our way out my kids helped out a server who was carrying too many things, when I was paying the tab.
The owner/manager told me I had a beautiful family and that my kids were super polite.
I nearly broke down crying.
So, I have a small guilty pleasure now: I downloaded tiktok and am loving all the videos with pets tbh.
TW: DV
But I watch one video by an Aussie lady about women’s rights and whatnot, and now tiktok thinks that’s all I want to watch. 😭 Like, 4b movement stuff, the rate of homicides, etc. It’s interesting but like, also triggering of course. I’m in the process of re-teaching the algorithm or whatever.
But I also feel like I don’t have a right to talk about my experience, not because of what they’ve said or anything like that. But because my abusive ex was male and male presenting for the VAST majority of our relationship, until the last 6 months where they only came out to me about being a tran-woman. So, like, they’re part of this super marginalised group, having told their friends I was transphobic. I don’t feel like I can talk about it with anyone (besidesy dad and my partner), without, like, playing into that lie they told. I believe they are, of course, trans, but also that they use it as an excuse to not take accountability for their heinous actions. That if I did file a police report, that I’d be called transphobic and a false reporter. What a strange position to be in. Just needed to have a small ranty rant about it, because I haven’t seen anyone else anywhere have, or talk about, an experience like mine without also being transphobic. I always feel like if I talk about it, if I don’t use the right pronouns, or if I clarify “well they were male, but are now female” it’s about women-on-women DV. Which, it wasn’t, but is it?
Ugh, just gonna keep saving up for a psych appointment and hopefully I can start feeling better about being in this tiny bubble of one.
A dickhead is a dickhead, no matter what gender they are/were/present as. Bad behaviour/manners should be called out. There’s far too much victim blaming happening. Not a situation I’ve ever faced, so please take that for what its worth, if anything.
Yup
Them being trans doesn’t mean that what they did to hurt you wasn’t also abusive. Women - including trans women - are entirely capable of abuse.
I believe you. You deserved better.
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DV absolutely occurs in queer/same sex relationships, and women absolutely do abuse partners. Dickheads come in every stripe and nobody is automatically exempt from being abusive due to their identity.
Police are pretty shit with DV/SA reports in general and there’s no guarantee that a report would go anywhere. But if you felt you wanted to report there are LGBTIA+ liason officers now and if there were sexual offences you can talk to SOCIT.
It’s really hard when your abuser is marginalised but it absolutely does happen, marginalized people can and do punch down on other people, and you have every right to talk about what was done to you. You’re not going after her because she’s trans. You were harmed by what she did, and struggling to even talk about it for fear of feeding into existing transphobic narratives.
Crashing soon so I can be up at 6am. Interview Monday requires me to be in the city at 9am and I want to have some practice in advance.
Enjoy your evening everyone ❤️
I’ve been vaguely sick for like, a week and a half. I almost wish I was sicker, because then I’d have an excuse to opt out of things rather than trying to brute-force through them all
Rest up so you don’t end up properly sick! Pretty sure you need a day on the couch.
Am I biased in saying crazy cat ladies (and gents) are the best people?
Anyway, little Spunky got a surprise today when his mum got an Amazon delivery today. A big new box for a little kitty 🐈📦
Spunky is indeed, spunky!
@Eagle @[email protected] He’s a very spunky 'lil fella 😸
Box 😻
Spunky has been evicted from the box.
Mr Snowy decided the box looks like fun, and decided to have a turn.
There is also box 💥
@Catfish @[email protected] Nawww 😻
Really, our babies deserve all the boxes to play in I say! 📦😸
Omg. There’s gonna be fights in the wee small hours cos “somebody’s hogging the box”.
Now Miss Mimi is having her turn. We can’t let the others have all the fun!
Heading to a big (and free!) outdoor park bass party tonight and easy to get to. Always good vibes.
Hopefully the fun police won’t shut it down.
Really good to see a crew start thowing these again.
Which calls for a rave choon.
Enjoy, BR
Thankyou Baku :)
Enjoy your night!
It’s been a while! It’s right next the zoo so I wonder what the animals will be thinking.
is it south east?
It’s at royal park. Bit ballsy to throw it there tbh.
spoiler
Goes until 11pm
I wont make it there. feel free to delete. thx
They plastered it all over fb anyway heh.
Salada was designed perfectly for Vegemite and cheese lol
Butter or no butter?
Butter definitely. Otherwise way too hard to spread the Vegemite.
No butter. Turn your salada upside down and spread your Vegemite on the bottom. There’s less bumps.
This is the way.
SKY PRETTY
My reddit accounts got caught up in r/australia’s ban evasion AI nonsense and I got mega banned, no more helpful comments for people bad at google I guess. I liked being helpful there. It’ll give me more time to be helpful elsewhere I guess.
You’ve described my relationship with carsaustralia perfectly. Just with a bit of added snark towards Mazda diesels.
I’m sorry but why were you mega banned? Explain like I’m stewpid.
What I think happened:
- First account banned on r/australia only by AI for inciting violence on r/australia for technical discussion of BJJ. I appealed the ban.
- Second account, I messaged the r/australia mods to ban the account so I didn’t get busted for ban evasion. Ban given.
- First account has AI ban revoked. I eventually make a comment on r/australia, ban evasion bots see the IP or email address attached to the account matches their shitlist, bots go into ban evasion mode, accounts get permanently suspended.
- I had about seven reddit accounts. A bunch of novelty ones made during lockdown. I requested bans from r/australia on these accounts, I only got temp 28 day bans on some. I eventually made a comment on r/australia, got the ban evasion message from r/australia auto-mod, replied impolitely that I’d already reqested a ban months ago and I was glad to be banned. All my reddit accounts got nuked. New accounts from IP or email get nuked. New account from temp email and vpn is fine.
i think.
Oh
Interesting. I’ve ban evaded a few times too, honestly. I got permanently banned from a sub about a video game for asking about sales, and eventually again on my next 2 accounts (basic variations of the same name, although I didn’t create them with the sole intent of ban evasion). I left when Reddit pulled their shit though, so none of my accounts were ever flagged
Honestly from a mod perspective though, I do understand it. We had one really determined troll on a relatively small sub (70k members) I modded who made dozens of accounts a day for about 6 months and it sucked. Reddit nuked their accounts for ban evasion after a manual report, but they take anywhere between 12-48 hours to reply, by which time old mate troll face has already cycled through another 15 accounts. I think my issue with bans is “permanent” bans. It just seems excessive to ban people for the rest of eternity over one or 2 comments with no avenue of appeal. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of this too, I have and will continue to permanently ban people in the future, but if somebody actually comes back and apologises (for some reason extremely rare), I am usually willing to at least hear them out
r/Australia is pretty well known as the place to go to if you want to be in a community where the mods are somehow bigger dicks than the users. r/Melbourne wasn’t that far behind them either imo (present company and the Melb DT excepted, of course)
Look it is what it is. With the API changes and IPO, I feel reddit has been circling the drain. Mods needing to use these bots is a sign of the end times. The new account created isn’t allowed to post anywhere due to age and karma, which’ll put genuine new users off IMO.
I got some details about the next people who are moving in. On the lead tenant front, we’re getting a new one “sometime soon”. I’ve been told his name, and that’s he’s a Resi worker, but not much else. On the kids/YP front, we’re getting a newbie from my old org, probably around the same time. I don’t want to stereotype, but he’s coming from, uhh, quite the rough house. He’s also AOD affected from what I’ve been told, and has issues with nicking stuff.
I feel cautiously optimistic about the new LT, but I haven’t met him yet. He’s also quite religious from what I’ve been told, while I’m quite staunchly atheist. I don’t really care, as long as he’s not the preachy type, which it doesn’t sound like he is. I’m quite nervous for the new YP though. I’m mainly nervous because the current LT is moving out a week or two after they move in. Can’t blame him, he’s been here for many years, and if I was in his shoes, I’d bail too. But we get along really well, and because he lives here and has experience with the system too, he argues with them on a lot of out of place policies. The new bloke is a Resi worker, and it’s basically part of their training to not question orders and just do what they’re told.
:/
It sounds like a really tumultuous time. I hope everything works out for you. Sometimes people from super troubled backgrounds can be a bit better when they have a change of scenery.
Hopefully.
As someone who was regularly stolen from by flatmates - get yourself a small safe, keep it out of view under your bed, and bike chain it to your bedframe so it can’t be carried off. Journals, wallet, money or cards, ID, small electronics, sentimental items, prescription medication etc go in here when not in use. Keep your phone with you. If cost is a barrier you could also just get a lockbox of some kind, like a lockable toolbox. You can also get small stash containers that look like everyday items.
Also get yourself a subtle lanyard/wallet chain to keep your room key on you and lock your bedroom door when you go shower. Like, don’t be obvious about it and cause tension, you don’t want him to see you do these things or act weird like you’re sus of him. But just don’t be casual about easy access to your room or belongings until you know you can trust him. If he ever notices just keep it light and say it’s out of habit.
“Haha, just a holdover from the old place. (The lockbox?) This is a high crime area, you heard about that burglary. (But if he knows about your lockbox? HMMM.) Oh that? It’s habit, if I don’t remember to lock up my room everytime I forget to do the main door! If I didn’t have this chain/lanyard I’d lose my key! Nah, I just like taking my phone to read on the toilet/play music while I’m in the shower.”
If this turns out not to be needed, great! But having some self protective strategies might help you cope better until you’ve sussed the new guy out.
Edit: Oh yeah and password your computer. Hit the shortcut for lock anytime you walk away from it.
And since you work. If he ever asks, you’re broke. You’ve already spent your paycheck on rent, food, a replacement part that was desperately needed for repairs. Sorry homie. I got nothing left to lend you. Keep purchases of anything nice hidden or save it for when you’re living on your own. You don’t want someone racking your headphones or sneakers.
Thanks Melba, this was really useful.
Some of these were things I habitually did at the last place, so it won’t take too much to start them up again. Surprisingly, theft is something I’ve never had to worry about anywhere I’ve been. Violence, sure, and I used to lock my room when I went to shower because I was worried one of them would around the corner in my room and assault me, but I didn’t have to worry about keys because only workers had keys. These days I obviously do have keys to my room, and luckily I can’t actually be locked out of my room (the lock only locks if I use a key or am on the other side). I also always had my phone with me in case shit hit the fan and I had to shelter in the bathroom or something, which is a habit I still have.
And the computer one I got in the habit of doing too after one of the kids at my last place messaged everyone I had in my contacts asking them if they were gay 😭 (actually kind of funny now, but it definitely wasn’t at the time)
I have actually been considering getting a safe for a while to keep my important docs in, more so I know where they are and to give them some protection from fires or similar, but this is probably the push I need to actually get one. I hadn’t considered tying it to anything, but I will take your advice and chain it up to my bed posts.
I don’t really wear many nice things. My nicest/most expensive belonging is probably my PC. But I do have a good pair of nose cancelling headphones that I’m a bit too lax about leaving around. I wear them almost 24/7 (I’m really sensitive to noise) but usually take them off if I’m having a convo, just out of politeness and usually forget to put them back on
I’m not 100% sure on what I’ll do with the key situation though. I have 3 keys on my keyring along with a couple of knickknacks. I could take just my bedroom key off and put it on its own thing chain, maybe tie it to my beltloops or something, but I’m not a fan of then having 2 sets of keys to carry and worry about. My keys are all solid brass (I think) and make a shit ton of noise. I would go to Bunnings and get one of those cheap key clone things they have that they do in that plastic like material, but our keys are all security keys and they are very vehemently against making copies
No problem! Man, the things you have to do when sharehousing… all of these are just suggestions in case anything works for you btw. I just wish someone had warned me.
For the headphones you can have a magazine holder sat between the monitor and the wall, and if someone knocks pop the headphones in there to keep them kind of hidden from casual view from the door before you answer. Perhaps slipped behind a single magazine so that sits in front if it needs more cover.
Not sure of your pocket situation but a key wallet might enclose your bunch of keys and deaden the noise. Also with some lanyards you can get keyrings with a clip on it, so you can remove the parts you want and clip a secondary keyring on and off your main when it’s needed - or just buy one. If you need a smaller option to quiet the jingles there’s this.
Safe deposit boxes in banks are a thing.
They’re also not very cheap.
Health is still absolutely caning me. Constant pain and not able to keep on top of things. I hate using disposable products… Landfill and paying for stuff that gets literally thrown in the bin… but at the moment it’s kind of necessary.
I’m cutting down on that wherever I can but it’d be nice if I had a little countertop dish drawer to run every time I had a full load. It would save water too. Wonder if I could get it funded. I’ve been budgeting well lately so could perhaps save to get one but vet bills always take priority and it also seems I’ve got stuck in tightarse mode.
hugs, we do what we can do.
have you been able to go outside and look at the aurora? 😊🌌
Yeah, it just sucks you know.
The pics are pretty but I haven’t gone outside. It’s a bit fresh tonight, feral neighbours have been screaming and the fuzzball would try to follow me out
So jealous of these aurora photos. Tried from my place just now with phone and getting nothing. I think there’s too much light pollution and no view of the horizon because it’s a built up area. Boooo.
Same here, also reluctant to go outside. It’d be cool to live somewhere else and learn a bit of astronomy
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So I have to decide if a 4 hour a day commute a few days a week is ok or to look for another job. They changed the rules on me and went all return to office. It’s a damn tech job - no office presence even required.
I don’t want to give up my dog :-(
24 hours:
7 hours sleep.
1 hour preparing for work.
8 hours working.
4 hours commuting.
2 hours preparing and eating food.That leaves 2 hours for everything else. I could not do this.
I did almost that for about 6 months when I got my first ‘real’ job before finding a place to move. Almost killed me, especially since Sat got lost to house hunting. Zero life. Do not recommend.
I did a few months of 9 hour days with a 3 hour commute. It paid the bills, but I can’t say it was much fun. It did have a major bonus that I could get time off to go to job interviews though. When I strarted my new job with 8 hours work 15 minutes from home it felt like I’d gone part time!
Ouch. It might be ok for a couple of days a week but it is not ideal. You basically have to write off those days completely and you also can’t do any of the little chores you would have otherwise done around or after work either (things like doing your washing) so you lose a little bit of other days too.
That’s a fuck load of travel. I’d look for something else quietly.
Yikes. It sounds like it would massively cut into the rest of your life for no good reason.
Is it possible to start hunting for a new job on the down low now - and then either use a job offer as leverage to keep work from home, or jump to another role?
If it’s two days a week out of five, it’s do-able but that’s still a massive loss of free time. Is this travelling by PT? Can you start work on PT in order to spend less time at the office?
It is PT. Something to ask about……
@Mittens_meow @Seagoon_ Given you live two hours away (is that by train or car?), are they willing to make an exception?
Car to train. Not sure that the Monash fwy would be faster, plus getting parking somewhere. Seems not negotiatble, message is being reinforced via multiple levels of upper management. Wondering if it’s an excuse to reduce head count without redundancies.
@Mittens_meow That’s pretty horrendous. In a previous life, I was doing around 2.5- to 3-hours commute each day, and that was bad enough!
How are you enjoying the role otherwise? Are there any other issues?
I actually really like the role, it’s different and challenging and I love learning new stuff. It’s super disappointing that this has happened.
I was in this sort of situation and moved to an all remote job. As much as I liked the old place the lifestyle improvements and flexibility was worth it
