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    So I’ve been talking a lot about my recent bouts with anxiety which stem from an issue occurring at work. No one probably remembers me posting about this but my boss wanted me to fire someone without following correct fair work process and while i managed to put that fire out other stuff has eventuated because of it which has been cause for my anxiety.

    Anyway this morning I woke up to a life preserver from the universe in the form of a hefty tax return that is enough for me to live off for a couple of months if i decide to quit my current role. I’ve already started applying for jobs and my plan would be to give 2 weeks notice which will give a nice boost to my savings. So I think I’m going to go ahead and quit. Hopefully I will have something lined up in the couple of weeks but if not i’ll at least have some savings to dip into.

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      I think I actually remember your situation you had where your boss wanted you to basically be responsible for letting go of someone but you ended up taking some advice and framing it in a way to your boss that the process of it all was more of a detriment and that it also shouldn’t fall on your shoulders as it’s not your responsibility either.

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        Yeah that was it! I ended up having a conversation with the employee as my boss insisted on giving him a written warning despite my advice to just go a letter of concern and make it an informal warning. I was just honest with him about the whole situation and he’s contacted fair work . I have a feeling when my boss returns from leave in a few days, she going to be pissed at me and from what I’ve been told from other staff who have been at this business a while, she can be very vindictive when she feels crossed by people. I’m too old to put up with that shit so I’m probably going to give notice this week or next.

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          Just remember to document everything in case you need to rely on it or on fair work.

          Nothing worse than someone vindictive but she doesn’t sound like she’ll do it in a smart way either.

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      Just went outside to put the rubbish out. Sure was an icy chill in the air. It’s gonna be a cold one.

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      I have to start at 7am tomorrow morning. It will be 2. Nice, I can finally wear one of my bloody wigs to work.

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      I’ve made sure all the blinds are closed up tonight, put the second doona back on the bed, and set the heater to come on in the morning before I have to get up. 4am dog walk in the morning is going to be hard. Mr Woof doesn’t mind the cold though, the benefits of a long fur coat.

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      0 in the burbs. Getting up for work tomorrow won’t be fun.

    • heyheyitskay
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      Thanks for the reminder. I mmmmay take out the thicker doona…

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    Workplace has been collapsing. Today it felt worst of all. For the first time it’s like… Do I want to stay here? Increased work load due to staff reduction. Not being able to service clients well - and they really need it. Today was super busy and and stressful and we also learned were having another department join our floor, I’ll no longer have a window seat, and it will be busy and noisy 😞 it just sucks idk.

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    Rest day for me today, so I just did my tummy exercises. Also I missed the bus I was going to catch so I walked 3 stops down. And I saw ducks!

    2 images of ducks, one sitting on a fence and one on the mailbox of a block of flats. Ducks are possibly Australian Wood Ducks; grey and brown ducks, one with speckled markings at the neck area, and the other with the same markings extended over the neck and tummy area. They appear to be a pair.

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      Yep. Known as wood ducks but also as ‘maned geese’ - they are a mini goose apparently. Where I used to live in EBrunswick, just near the Lomond Hotel, they used to nest on the chimney. Apparently the chicks can fly too cos there was no other way to eat from up there. They don’t quack, just sort of mutter. This is the start of the nesting/breeding season so don’t be surprised if they set up housekeeping. Look for nests on chimneys and roofs and in trees.

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        They’re very much a duck. Some people just think they look like geese. They do “quack” but they sound quite different to the Pacific black ducks.

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    Yet another rejection email. Fed up and sick of going through arduously long interview processes just to be told that I’m not worth investing in. Phone interviews, video interviews, in-person, psychometric testing, where I want o be in 5 years, I’m over it all.

    I want to work, I’m smart, interesting, and quick to learn. But nope. There’s always someone else ‘better suited to the role’.

    Whatever, I’m fucking out. I’ve been posting heaps today, but I’m so done - I’m off to hibernate and feel very sorry for myself.

    Edit: they’re fucking call centre jobs, like, I’ve been doing it for 10 years! I know how to sit in a seat, use a computer, and talk to people! What is wrong with me???

    👋

    • Seagoon_
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      you are too honest

      call up some friends and see if they have call centre jobs going

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      I don’t have much to say but just 🫂🫂🫂🫂 big hugs for you.

      • StudSpud The Starchy
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        I appreciate that, but the issue is earlier; they’re not asking for references.

        I suspect I may be too honest, as Seagoon said, too much ‘myself’.

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    Sitting in a Denny’s in a seemingly dodgy part of Bakersfield getting breakfast food at 11:30pm. Some drunk dudes who promised the waitress they won’t fight are showing signs that they might fight.

    It’s all happening.

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    Nothing went right today.

    Nagi’s chicken and cashew for dinner will make things better.

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      :( I’ll have something for you in about an hour that should cheer you up a bit hopefully. and it isn’t food

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    Errr… Is this allowed to talk about?

    It’s weird that the mushrooms apparently just got scraped off and the kids were fine. Because I read in some book once (fictional, about a cult) where they were making amanita tea. Implying stuff leaches out with moisture.

    But then other stuff says the death cap poison is not soluble so maybe it’s just the hallucinogens are or the book was wrong. So they could have removed it and been okay because it didn’t permeate the meal?

    I have no idea. My interest in mushrooms is from a botanical standpoint and checking them out as a kid. Going down a research rabbit hole out of curiosity. What info is right

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      also the in-laws started getting sick that day but the kids still ate the beef wellington for dinner the day after?!

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        I’m interested in this beef Wellington pie. So not a traditional beef Wellington but a pie version. Was it a large pie or individual pies? And if it was a large pie how fucking big was this thing that feed 5 people plus leftovers for the kids plus samples for the cops? Was there more than one pie? So many questions.

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          Maybe it was like a pot pie in a casserole dish and there were two.

          It all seems weird though. I initially thought it was foraging gone wrong and she’d be better off admitting if it was

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          I thought about this but more so a silly question of how many mushrooms does it take to make this big meal. Probably enough to reasonably say all the purchased shrooms have been used in cooking and nothing left to test. Also I just looked up a beef Wellington and I didn’t know it just looks like a giant sausage roll.

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            It’s a very labour intensive giant sausage roll. You don’t use a lot of mushrooms but in a pie who knows. Now she has said that her kids don’t eat mushrooms so she scraped them off which tells me it was perhaps a traditional beef Wellington and not a pie because you would “dig them out” if that was the case.

            • heyheyitskay
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              It could all be semantics and technicality. Pies come in all shapes and forms and people make up their own version of a recipe.

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      43 years ago, there was a tragedy in the Northern Territory - a Dingo stole a baby from under a mother’s eye in a tent in the middle of nowhere. It was a formative event for me in my childhood.

      For months after that event, the media and every talking head in the country spun out a narrative that the mother had done this evil thing, despite having no first-hand knowledge of events. It was repeated and discussed enough that this narrative managed to cement itself into everyone’s minds. I remember being really confused - why would a mother kill a baby? By the time she went to court, she was guilty in the eyes of the nation and the trial was almost a formality.

      Only, it later turned out that the mother was telling the truth. That tiny baby’s coat was found in a dingo’s den years later. Much hand wringing ensued. ‘Oh that poor lady, she and her husband went through so much’ (as though those same people weren’t damning them years prior).

      Anyway: from that tragic event, I learned never to assume I know all the facts. Never assume the media has any more idea of the truth than I do. Let the justice run its course, and may the truth come out before we pass judgement.

      I don’t know what happened with the mushroom case. And neither does anyone else currently talking about it. Rampant speculation is harmful.

      • CEOofmyhouse56
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        Um that’s a bit different because this woman has poisoned people. The question is whether it was an accident or intentional.

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          You’re zooming in on the wrong part. My point wasn’t about the case at all. It was about our reaction to it and the ensuing trial by media.

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            Yeah maybe but it’s an usual case. People are curious and want to know what the hell happened.

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      My Dad used to work on a mushroom farm and all the mushrooms were grown indoors in big sheds. The workers wore tyvek suits to reduce contamination. Things may have changed now. That’s all I know about mushroom growing.

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      I’ve made mushroom tea to get high and it really worked. Add a dash of lemon juice to aid the process.

  • Outlier1031
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    Man I hate catastrophising so much. Current thoughts: ‘i’m not going to get a new job’ ‘the situation at my current job is going to explode’ ‘i’m going to get fired’ ‘yes i now have money in savings but it wont be enough’ ‘nothing good is going to come my way’ and so on and on. I’m sorry y’all I feel like such a broken record with my anxiety musings. Even though i’ve been in similar situations before and it’s always worked out, my brain is like ‘not this time, pal. this is the one where you’re gonna get fucked over’.

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    I’ve been reflecting and I’ve decided that I’m just gonna say less at work in fear of being accused of mansplaining. And I’m not even a man. I just sometimes really like to say stuff.

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      I’m glad you clarified because for a minute there I was very confused.

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        Good because that’s the last time I’ll mansplain anything.

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    What happened to all my Built to Spill albums on iTunes? They are all gone. Erased off my whole system. I bought them!! This is why buying digital media sucks.

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      Time to pirate stuff. I do it because I don’t want to pay for a dozen different subscriptions and also what just happened to you also happened to me a while back.

  • StudSpud The Starchy
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    So, I don’t consume a lot of media like films and TV shows. Sometimes I watch YT, but not often.

    However, I love celebrity gossip. Don’t care if I know them or not, but reading about their shenanigans is the highlight of my day.

    Currently, Taryn Manning (Pensatuckey from OITNB) has been losing her mind on meth over the last year or so. That recent video of her has me rolling tbh, like, how many times can you rephrase “i licked your mans butthole” 😂😂

    I shouldn’t laugh, but I will because fuck me it’s funny

    Edit: I also messed around with BG3 files as per GOG forums, and I have it installed now!! Hahaha yessss

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      I kindof like celeb gossip. It plays a role in society educating people that drama and failure and flaws are common. Sort of like reassurance. There is also a feeling of community.

      But I don’t like it when people pick on others just to feel superior.

      And laughing is good, life and people can be so absurd, I don’t think we ( meaning I ) watch enough comedies , I am **too **serious 😔

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        I’m sad that she’s falling so far, meth, trump-supporter, etc, because I really like her. But I like reading all about their shenanigans because, like you said, reassurance. We’re all human beings at the end of the day, and no amount of money or fame is going to change th fact that we all make mistakes, that we’re all shades of grey.

        The fear that any of us could fall into the pit is lessened when we see that no matter your standing, that pit doesnt care. All we can do is keep doing our best.

        I hope she gets the help she needs, Pensatuckey was my fav character from OITNB and I hate seeing her become the flaws of that character. She’s beautiful, she just needs to stop the meth and licking married mens butts

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          meth? There goes the truism that only failures use meth . Which is a really important message if there is a message at all.

          I hope she has some good friends who can intervene and help her.

          ( Maybe she was lonely, famous/rich people often end up not knowing who to trust and trumpie type people were welcoming. )

          or maybe she’s saying stuff to shock people 😂 which it has!

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          All good oh starchy one👍

          Edit: on second examination, that community looks a bit dead. soz.

          • StudSpud The Starchy
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            Alles gut! I just like browsing. I have unsubbed from a whole bunch of subreddits to removed the hate-posts, and just have cats and pop-gossip now. I’m just glad there’s a community here too, though I am not surprised it is relatively dead; the people who gossip may not be willing to learn a new platform (new to them).

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      I love drama tbh. One of my fave subreddits is subredditdrama.

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      Ok just watched the video WOW. Maybe her character in OITNB wasn’t necessarily a huge stretch…

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      Hooray!! BG3. I have no idea what it is, but a couple of mates are into it too.

      I have no interest in celebrities. They can lick my butthole though. 50$ a go. I’d be fine with that.

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        They can lick my butthole though. 50$ a go.

        Get Taryn to do it, she doesn’t mind apparently 😂😂😂

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    Suddenly hit by a massive craving for some good old vegan mee goreng the way my mum would make it, with freshly pounded chilli ginger garlic paste, crumbled tofu, mock beef, the best yellow noodles, and heaps of sesame oil.

    Was very tempted to get takeaway because I need to stop procrastinating and write down what happened last week and I really feel like I’d rather claw my eyeballs out. But I reckon I could get 3x the amount of meals for the same price. 🤔 plus if I cook tonight I’ve got extra food for the rest of the week. I’ve really recovered my cooking mojo since coming off SSRIs and it might be rewarding rather than a drag, so that shall be my reward to keep me going tonight.

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    Those petrol prices are a bit ouch. Ugh let’s hope this doesn’t spur another interest rate rise.

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    I haves other fluffy cat pics this is my cat Casey from Detroit.

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    here he is in the snow

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    Casey on the window sill. We’re 31 stories up.

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