• Cendana
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    14 days ago

    Is the average teenage population really have a lack of respect?

    Appointment booked for 7.30pm last night. Quick c++ basics lesson and homework help as a favour for my wife’s classmate’s kid. I never used c++ by trade so I spent some time getting familiar with it, and how to play Farkle.

    7.30pm comes and the 17yo just bails and says they’re having dinner, no apology. Wife and I were like, fuck it, dumped the appointment and went to sleep at 8pm.

    Sent another message this morning reminding them to be there or cancel 4hr before, some notes and a reminder that they don’t have enough time now, and don’t chicken out. Straight up says they promise, no greetings.

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      Sent another message this morning reminding them to be there or cancel 4hr before, some notes and a reminder that they don’t have enough time now, and don’t chicken out. Straight up says they promise, no greetings.

      Nope. Message 'em back and say “Sorry no longer able to assist you”. If they ask why just be blunt “Mate, you were disrespectful as heck, I was helping you as a favor, if your gonna be rude then I dont have to do shit”

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        Yep, if they fail to show up for the 7.30pm tonight (which was agreed upon on Monday) then that would be the message.

        I am contemplating just telling them at the beginning of the meeting, prior to commencing the lesson.

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        I was traumatised to the point of enforcing them lol.

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          “The beatings will continue until morale manners improve”

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      Lack of consequences is also part of it.

      If they got charged for not cancelling in time they’ll learn real fast.

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        Can confirm. I don’t miss or cancel GP or psych appointments since I started being responsible for paying the late cancellation fees. Not too bad with the GP because they’re just 4 hours notice, the psych may be a problem though since they’re 48 hours. I’m hoping by the time I’m next super sick, I’ll have gone enough they might consider waving it

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      They did go through a few years of covid that probably fucked them up in ways like this. You could let them know their tone seem unappreciative of being given a tutoring favour. Mind you, I’d’ve thought there was enough online about learning C++ in a self directed manner so maybe the kid just isn’t interested. Don’t measure all 17yo’s by Baku’s level of maturity.

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        I didn’t directly use Baku as a reference.

        But I did have Overwatch friend, so mature I thought they were 25, until they mentioned they suddenly mentioned that they were 15 at the time. So that was the baseline I had since then.

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        How do we even know Baku is actually 17 🤔 lol but yeah some teens are just… Something else. I think most teens are like normal and respectful, they just test boundaries, it’s what growing up is about lol