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    IRL cake day today! Will wander down to the little vegan cafe that does a mean three ‘cheese’ toastie for brunch, then my aunt and cousin are coming down to take me out to dinner because the restaurant they liked last time is only open in the evening Sunday.

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    I never get sick of walking down to the tracks and watching PB. I hear it every day but I always try to head down to watch it every couple of weeks.

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      Image is of the puffing billy train making its way down the train tracks in the forest

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        It’s a move we are thankful for daily. We ummed and ahhed for years about moving to the forest before actually saying fuck it let’s do it. Its quicker to get into our respective workplaces too as we don’t need to use the Monash…

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      I went to see it a few weeks ago as a meditative exercise and man it’s was so soothing.

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        Glad it helped! I find there is nothing more soothing than hanging out in the forest, Puffing Billy and his horn is an added bonus.

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    For those who were following my comment yesterday about my boss trying to get me to fire another employee on her behalf I have good news. My boss listened to what I had to say and I managed to de-escalate the situation to a written warning. My boss was suprisingly reasonable about it, realised she was acting from emotion and thanked me for talking her down. That is not how i expected it to go at all. As someone who often struggles to speak up/stand up for myself I’m pretty proud of myself for once in my life. I’m going to hold off on looking for something else for the time being, but it’s made me realise i really need to get serious about having disaster savings Edit: Thanks to everyone who gave their advice yesterday. It was very much appreciated and helped me so much.

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      Great outcome all around, I’m so relieved to hear your boss saw reason but also very proud of you (as a total stranger…) for speaking up!!

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      Well done!

      Boundary setting is so good. As someone who had none a year ago, I now have clearly defined ones and no problem being diplomatic when telling people they’re doing stuff which I find steps over them. It took practise, a traumatic event, therapy and deep personal honesty to get there though. People either respect your boundaries or they’re not worth the effort imo. We don’t have to liked by everyone but people pleasing is hard to break out of as well. If someone doesn’t like me now, that’s fine. I know I’m valid and wholesome and for everyone, at the end of every day it’s just them and their pillow like almost everyone else. It’s easier to get to sleep when you didn’t let someone walk all over you because it causes resentment.

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        Yes boundaries are so important and it can be terrifying when you come from a background of abuse and trauma. You just always assume the worse. Realising that you can stand up for yourself by being calm, rational and diplomatic is like being able to breathe again after holding your breath under water. I’m so glad you’re at a place where you know your worth and your strength. I love seeing people empowered :)

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      Wow. What a great turn around from what it could been.

      Well done on the steps you took and also to all the people here who helped you make that decision.

      You’ve done really well!

      • Outlier1031
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        Thank you. Everyone here helped so much and put me on the right path. I can’t thank everyone enough :)

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      Good on you! That’s an excellent outcome for all concerned, well done!

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        Thank you :) I’m so glad it’s settled for now and things are back to being mostly harmonious.

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      Phew so glad to hear! I read your post and was so stressed for you!!

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        Thank you, yesterday was a very sweaty day for me despite the cold haha

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      That’s so great! Both for you and your colleague. Hopefully the written warning is enough to scare them into not doing whatever it was your boss was so strung out over. Good for you for handling it so well :)

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        Thanks a million for all of your advice. It helped get me on track to put it all together. You helped me help someone you don’t even know keep there job :) The interwebz can be a magnificent place.

  • bull⚡
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    Back from the market. Found some honeycomb so that was a win. The whole experience left me very ‘whelmed’ though.

    Some dickhead is attempting to sell toasties for SIXTEEN (16) AUSTRALIAN DOLLERYDOOS each. Incredible. I paid $6 for a walkin’ around pretzel which may have been made yesterday because it was not fresh and under salted. I went to buy 2 simple iced donuts, 1 for me and 1 for Ron thinking they’d be fresh and delicious… nope, chewy and $11.40. I felt like a banana smoothie but from what I can tell you literally cannot buy that. If you want a 12 berries, flaxseeds, rocket, dove feathers, spinach, kale, carrot and almond milk smoothie for $17 they have you covered though. Just whack some banana, frozen yoghurt, beef milk and maybe a dash of honey if you’re feeling fancy into a blender and sell it to me for $8 you pretentious puffy-coated bastards.

    I did pick up a lil lasagne for dinner from the fresh pasta place so I’m hoping that’s good. Oh and I was only there for like 45 minutes I think so parking was free, which is nice.

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      I actually relate to a lot of what you said. When I was younger, markets were places to go to get bargains, cheaper than retail or cheap imported stuff. Now I find, especially on the ready to eat hot food side of things, it’s not a bargain at all. Last week there was a stall selling pretty average gozleme for $15 each. At my local not terribly cheap bakery I can get 2 for less than that price! It’s crazy. I ended up buying an underwhelming pie and 3 (admittedly very tasty) sausage rolls and ended up with very little change from $30. $16 for a toasty is just outright fucking ridiculous!

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      What are you going to do with the honeycomb?

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        I’m gonna eat it. I’ve never tried it before but I’d been curious. I can see there’s many ways to enjoy it and I have enough of it to try them all.

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          Let us know how it goes.

          I’ve never had it before myself.

  • heyheyitskay
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    Afternoon peoples and thank you for all the kind words last night again. It’s self care day. I haven’t even finished lunch but I’m hell bent on fitting a basque cheesecake and a cuppa in. I think that will really fix me up and get me started for a new week.

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      I missed your post yesterday but I hope some self care brings some joy. I hope you’re feeling better. Basque I had to look up. That does look like a cure for the blues! I always get a sense of warmth fill my heart reading these little empowering exchanges we do here and I thank you for being brave enough to share your darker moments, that empowers us all. Vulnerability is something to share and many times just journalling feelings can be therapy in itself I’ve found.

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        It’s certainly heart-warming to know there is a community of people who care and are so generous and kind to others particularly in a world where that increasingly feels like a rarity. I do journal from time and time and find that it helps too.

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        Exciting! Doesn’t sound too complicated to make but with cheesecakes it’s always in the detail and nuances…hope it’s a success!

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      Excellent so happy to hear you’re having a self care day. Restful day is a good thing, especially with the lack of sleep recently. Hope you’re feeling heaps better

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    Dishes done and dishwasher on. That’s what I have done, and that is all I will do. Goodnight!

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    I woke up before the cat did, and he’s yelled at me about it all through his breakfast and morning poop.

    I love the boi

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      My cat woke at 4:30 wanting to go out for a pee. I ignored him, so he used his (clean) litter tray. Then he said, well, I’m awake now, what about breakfast? I tried to ignore him again.

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      Mine (well the floof) woke me at something after 4 with affectionate headbutts and just one ‘feed me, bitch’ nip. I had to pee anyway so I fed them and crawled back in - only just woke up.

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      Miss Meow snuck in around 3am to sleep on my shoulder. Fortunately this morning she refrained from the loud purring directly into my ear she often indulges in. She was unhappy but accepting when I got up at 4am, wheras Mr Woof was thrilled as it meant an early walk and that he would not have to get me out of bed himself (he’s been intolerant of me sleeping in past about 5:30 lately!).

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      The cat I’m looking after is warming up to me a bit and just loves indulging in a floor scratch session but then after about 3 minutes suddenly straightens herself out and decides it’s a mistake and walks off like she’s never seen me. Is not interested in most treats either. Bit of a tough crowd but I think she’s never been without her humans (and with a stranger!) for this long before, so she’s doing well all things considered.

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    Hello @[email protected] this is my haul today

    assortment of Asian crockery

    Image: 1 large bowl, 2 spoons, 3 oval plates (only 1 showing), 1 small bowl, 3 small plates.

    The bowl is larger than the ones I already had. Too bad so sad. Mummy gets the bigger bowl.

    make up caddy

    Image: 1 ugly red 3 level caddy filled with teenage make-up.

    I spent the afternoon sorting this stuff for my daughter. The reason I did it is because she very long-sighted so she has trouble with the finer points of things. She does the best she can when tiding up but she sometimes misses the small details. That’s another story. I am tired now.

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      Love the haul, mummy does the cooking, mummy gets the bigger bowl! Very impressed with the haul

      That makeup caddy looks pretty good. Fits everything, nothing wrong having everything in one place, makes it easier to find things. Hopefully she’ll be able to stick with putting things back into the caddy, after usage

      Thanks for the haul pic and the wonderful description 💛

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        You’re welcome. I wanted something light weight but sturdy so I can move it around to clean under. There’s still some adjustments to be done but hopefully this helps her and me to keep on top of things. Thank you again for pointing this shop out. Next time I’m going with a list. ☺

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          You’re very welcome. I swore I had seen the bowl when you had mentioned it and was on a mission to find it. I’m so glad I found it a place I go to quite regularly

          There are some really good things in there as well. I want to pick up a 3 tier steamer at some point this year as well. And they stock the really good brand too.

          Yeah definitely bring a list lol. I could easily spend half a day in there

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            I only went down one aisle! I followed your directions and you were spot on. You’re a champion. 🏆

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              Yeah I memorised how I found the item and wanted to save you time and to make sure you found it. Easy to get distracted in there. Next time you can check out the rest of the place 😊

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      Those spoons are such a life saver, especially when I’m eating something East Asian.

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          I need to get some mini soup ladles. Sometimes you use them when eating Japanese ramen.

          I bought a couple form daiso ages ago but they all broke :(

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            Well if you’re around the Footscray area Ming Ming’s had every cooking implement known to man or woman plus more.

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      Love the make-up caddie. I wish I had room in my tiny bathroom vanity for something like that. I have some organisers though which are ok. So nice of you to work with her eyesight, that’s good parenting imo. Actually applying make-up being long sighted is difficult I find, as I am long sighted as is normal for someone my age so I hope she can do it well enough to feel great.

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        Maybe something like this caddy might suit you. For someone who is very long-sighted she does an excellent job of her make-up with out her glasses on. Like seriously how does anybody put liquid eye-liner on straight but somehow she can.

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          Hold the eyeliner steady by pushing your hand against something then move your eye across it. I get it right sometimes but it’s hard. that caddy looks perfect for my bathroom honestly.

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      Nice collection. I wanted to pick up some stainless stain soup spoons myself but didn’t quite make it that far. Next time!

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    Overthinking my status and station,
    My personality, communication.
    I just want to make connections,
    New friends, but I’m too self-deprecating.
    Online I have time, to think before writing,
    But I open my mouth and out it tumbles,
    Some embarrassing nonsense mumble.
    I come across too strong, I ought to pull back fully;
    I wish I was cool, smooth and funny, tactfully.
    I try to be witty
    To make up for not being that pretty
    But I just feel kinda shitty
    Too much beer, too much coffee
    Sorry

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    Double post sorry, here’s another bloody poem - sorry

    Melbourne,
    Grey clouds roll over your skyline
    Like a quilted doona,
    Made of rain and thunder.
    The bluestone pavement
    Smooth and slick,
    Ready to send you to the ground
    In your heels or smooth-tread soles
    As you rush to a cafe,
    Nestled in an alley,
    Off Bourke or Lonsdale.
    Rain, sun, or hail,
    They’ll be open to receive you
    But only between 7 to 4.
    Dinner and a show
    At the Arts Precinct,
    Docklands, Swanston.
    The blinding sunsets down the streets
    Running West to East.
    The chilling icy winds,
    Whipping off Antarctic sheets
    And straight through black puffer jackets,
    South to North, a howling racket
    Burning cheeks red.
    The summer thunderstorms, the summer heat,
    A couple of days over forty
    And we’re all complaining,
    Though we’ll complain about the cold too;
    It’s who we are.
    So many of us call this home,
    And though I have visited the capitals of our neighbour-states,
    (Brisbane is humid, Adelaide sucks,
    Though Perth is great, you’ll need a car),
    I will always come back to my city,
    Where I was born, worn, torn, and reborn.

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    Went to the local bulk foods scoop and weigh store to get some work snacks and a treat for Mr Smeg. Managed to only spend $15.

    I’ve come home with chilli lime cashews, toasted bbq corn, and Turkish apricots for me. And the treat for Mr Smeg ended up being some dark chocolate coated almonds.

    The guy who runs the store is so lovely. Asks your name and introduces himself. Very old-school and refreshing.

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        Really tasty. Perfect amount of spice. I’ll 100% be back for more.

        The store was Seedtime and Harvest in Boronia if you find yourself out that way.

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    Fell asleep sitting up with my head wedged face down in between two couch… back section things. I was just supposed to be resting my head for five minutes but it turned out to be 90 minutes, I feel like I went into the deepest depths of slumber and frankly I’m a bit annoyed I woke up and have to go sleep in bed.

    My plans to catch up on work today have completely failed. I can’t even fathom touching my laptop, the best I did was move it in its bag into the study room. I’ve given up thinking about tomorrow for now. Nobody’s going to die. Better to rest for now and try again tomorrow. night night everyone

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      Night!

      I’m awkwardly falling asleep in front of the fire which will probably result in a neck back tweak heh.

      The torch must be carried!

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    Hmm I don’t know what I ate Friday but without getting too graphic my stomach hasn’t been 100% since. Hope this goes away soon.

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    Happy the Sun is out on a Sunday everyone. Feeling better than the early morning poopy cold. Get your Vit D in stat! Annnnd have a lovely afternoon ☀️