I didn’t delete my account because of the argument. I was in the wrong, regardless of whether or not I used anything that could be considered a personal attack. I was being an arsehole to Seagoon, and StudChud responded in kind to me
However, I have recently been feeling like a couple of people within the DT have been consistently hostile to me. StudChud in particular has gone off on me numerous times. Sometimes I deserved it, other times I don’t think I did. Then 2 other people over the last couple of weeks have really really irritated me. There was one particular interaction I had with somebody that really rubbed me the wrong way, honestly probably irrationally so. I feel like I can usually do okay with shrugging off both outright aggression, and hostility in subtext/random downvotes. But I really just reached the end of my tether and it was beginning to remind me of when I was in resi and was the physical and verbal punching bag for 3 other people. I can’t stand that
Regarding purging all of my content, I genuinely am sorry to every single person who has contributed to DTs. I wanted to just delete my comments, but Lemmy only has two options when you want to delete your account: delete your account and every single post, comment, and image you’ve ever uploaded, or don’t delete anything (which I did last time). Lemmy also has a function which really irks me, where if a post is deleted, every single comment becomes inaccessible to non moderators and administrators. I think that’s ridiculous and tbh think it provides too much power to people that delete their accounts. I would much rather they became inaccessible without a direct link or going through your comment history, like how it works on reddit
Deleting everything wasn’t an attack on the community or a way to try and get attention. Genuinely. I also realize in hindsight sight that I made up a pretty substantial amount of posts on aussie.zone, and with all of those gone, it seems like half the instance is gone
And regarding coming back, I don’t think I ever can. Deleting one’s account, and particularly purging all the content on it, is probably the most extreme action you can possibly take as a user. If I just delete everything then reappear a week later, it doesn’t mean shit and really just seems like a bid for attention. I’m not going to do that. I’ll lurk around from another instance, and occasionally if I think I can be uniquely helpful to anybody, I’ll drop in and try to help if I can. But my days as a regular are numbered. Kind of a self exile, if you will. Even now I feel like I’m being even shittier by writing this, but I feel like I need to clarify what happened and actively apologize to everybody. I’m deleting my account as soon as this is posted
I also feel the need to say - I probably deserve moderator action, too. I don’t think a ban is appropriate since I’m not going to be around so it doesn’t really do much, but my comments towards Seagoon in particular were not acceptable, and I deserved to be called out. After I wrote our my long-winded 2c on recent events, I was already about 70% sure I wanted to delete my account. The magpie post was kind of an attempt to reconcile without accepting I was wrong or my opinion was invalid, not implying that anybody else’s was. After i got "bruh"d by StudChud, I made my decision I didn’t want to stay around, but at the same time, by creating yesterday’s DT, I feel like I more or less signed and agreement that I would ensure the DT remain accessible for at least the entire day. So that’s why I waited until midnight to delete my account. The last few comments I made were basically a case of “I’m done with the lot of you, anybody who talks to me can go to hell” type lash out. Again, unfounded and not fair
If anybody wants to access the DTs, you have a little while to view them from certain other instances. I believe how it works is posts and comments are purged from the server immediately, but the “notification” if you will, to other servers (who also host copies of all comments/posts) is rate limited and sent one by one. I don’t know that for fact though. You can access them through another instance (ie sh.itjust.works, as Brion linked) until the deletions eventually do federate over. I won’t be doing anything to speed up the process. I also was previously working on archiving all DTs on to web.archive.org, so have a look there. I didnt do the most recent ones before I left though
And I want to say that I really truly am sorry for all of the chaos, hurt, and drama that I caused. I should have handled things better. @[email protected] I don’t know if you received my DM or not, and I don’t know if DMs disappear on account deletions, but I am really sorry to you especially. I was being an arsehole and extremely inconsiderate. I do truly hope your family and friends in the state are doing okay, and make it through the term safe and aren’t denied healthcare or help if they need it
I just caught up on everything that’s happened. I feel like you’re judging yourself so harshly, which I do myself a lot and so I can relate. The most important thing is that you’ve self-reflected on your actions, and that’s how we grow and mature. I hope you return to the DT when you feel ready. Just because you deleted your original account, doesn’t mean you cannot change your mind about contributing to the DT. Sometimes we do things in the heat of the moment that we wish we could take back, don’t feel like you can’t do that because you need to prove some point.
Baku you are a real highlight of this group, I will miss your posts if you leave, so please do come back when/if you feel you are ready. No need to self exile because you think it will right a perceived wrong. It’s ok for emotions to happen, differences to happen. Sometimes you can make good with people because both are willing to, and sometimes not. That’s life for literally everybody. All the time. And if the interactions here are negatively affecting you, that’s not a good thing, and you need to do what’s right for yourself. Honestly, I think people here sometimes forget how young you are and the challenges you’ve faced. You write with a maturity some people don’t have at 30, let alone 17. I very genuinely wish good things for you and hope to get some updates at some point to know you’re doing ok!
I wasn’t around or involved, but you know how I feel about your participation.
Although I can’t really comment on anything, I suppose situations like these are an opportunity to reflect and hopefully grow (that’s for one’s own self, not saying it’s a must). The nuclear option doesn’t have to be the one and only choice, even if I completely understand your sentiments on wanting to do so.
Whatever your choice, I really do wish you the best.
There’s someone you’re forgetting in your apology.
You aren’t innocent in this.
They may have overreacted, (indeed they did) and quite frankly as would I have if I were in their position, but you continued to badger them.
That doesn’t mean they didn’t fuck up. And it doesn’t mean they didn’t make a mistake.
There is no doubt of that.
Sometimes when we stand up for the things we believe in, when the people we care about are in the firing line, we may may err in how we communicate. We may let our anger get the better of us in a moment.
I assure you if the topic was particularly close to my heart my sense of decorum would go out the window and my frustration would get the better of me. And i would be surprised by any who wouldn’t. Especially when they are being goaded further.
But I’ll wait until the person who was banned is allowed back so I can hear what they have to say as well.
I’m not a fan of witch hunts nor of popularity contests.
I can’t not answer this. He asked what was it that was rude. Spud chose a rant rather than explanation including “you’re 17 not 7”. They’re not his parent. You don’t say that to someone. No wonder he was peeved. Fight or flight. He chose the former then the latter.
I’m sure both regret their responses to each other.
and no, you didn’t upset me or hurt me or offend me. No need to apologise.
I know you as a kind and considerate person and you have your opinion too. It’s the internet, and very often we write things we would never think or say in real life interactions.
I feel like I owe the DT regs an explanation
I didn’t delete my account because of the argument. I was in the wrong, regardless of whether or not I used anything that could be considered a personal attack. I was being an arsehole to Seagoon, and StudChud responded in kind to me
However, I have recently been feeling like a couple of people within the DT have been consistently hostile to me. StudChud in particular has gone off on me numerous times. Sometimes I deserved it, other times I don’t think I did. Then 2 other people over the last couple of weeks have really really irritated me. There was one particular interaction I had with somebody that really rubbed me the wrong way, honestly probably irrationally so. I feel like I can usually do okay with shrugging off both outright aggression, and hostility in subtext/random downvotes. But I really just reached the end of my tether and it was beginning to remind me of when I was in resi and was the physical and verbal punching bag for 3 other people. I can’t stand that
Regarding purging all of my content, I genuinely am sorry to every single person who has contributed to DTs. I wanted to just delete my comments, but Lemmy only has two options when you want to delete your account: delete your account and every single post, comment, and image you’ve ever uploaded, or don’t delete anything (which I did last time). Lemmy also has a function which really irks me, where if a post is deleted, every single comment becomes inaccessible to non moderators and administrators. I think that’s ridiculous and tbh think it provides too much power to people that delete their accounts. I would much rather they became inaccessible without a direct link or going through your comment history, like how it works on reddit
Deleting everything wasn’t an attack on the community or a way to try and get attention. Genuinely. I also realize in hindsight sight that I made up a pretty substantial amount of posts on aussie.zone, and with all of those gone, it seems like half the instance is gone
And regarding coming back, I don’t think I ever can. Deleting one’s account, and particularly purging all the content on it, is probably the most extreme action you can possibly take as a user. If I just delete everything then reappear a week later, it doesn’t mean shit and really just seems like a bid for attention. I’m not going to do that. I’ll lurk around from another instance, and occasionally if I think I can be uniquely helpful to anybody, I’ll drop in and try to help if I can. But my days as a regular are numbered. Kind of a self exile, if you will. Even now I feel like I’m being even shittier by writing this, but I feel like I need to clarify what happened and actively apologize to everybody. I’m deleting my account as soon as this is posted
I also feel the need to say - I probably deserve moderator action, too. I don’t think a ban is appropriate since I’m not going to be around so it doesn’t really do much, but my comments towards Seagoon in particular were not acceptable, and I deserved to be called out. After I wrote our my long-winded 2c on recent events, I was already about 70% sure I wanted to delete my account. The magpie post was kind of an attempt to reconcile without accepting I was wrong or my opinion was invalid, not implying that anybody else’s was. After i got "bruh"d by StudChud, I made my decision I didn’t want to stay around, but at the same time, by creating yesterday’s DT, I feel like I more or less signed and agreement that I would ensure the DT remain accessible for at least the entire day. So that’s why I waited until midnight to delete my account. The last few comments I made were basically a case of “I’m done with the lot of you, anybody who talks to me can go to hell” type lash out. Again, unfounded and not fair
If anybody wants to access the DTs, you have a little while to view them from certain other instances. I believe how it works is posts and comments are purged from the server immediately, but the “notification” if you will, to other servers (who also host copies of all comments/posts) is rate limited and sent one by one. I don’t know that for fact though. You can access them through another instance (ie sh.itjust.works, as Brion linked) until the deletions eventually do federate over. I won’t be doing anything to speed up the process. I also was previously working on archiving all DTs on to web.archive.org, so have a look there. I didnt do the most recent ones before I left though
And I want to say that I really truly am sorry for all of the chaos, hurt, and drama that I caused. I should have handled things better. @[email protected] I don’t know if you received my DM or not, and I don’t know if DMs disappear on account deletions, but I am really sorry to you especially. I was being an arsehole and extremely inconsiderate. I do truly hope your family and friends in the state are doing okay, and make it through the term safe and aren’t denied healthcare or help if they need it
I just caught up on everything that’s happened. I feel like you’re judging yourself so harshly, which I do myself a lot and so I can relate. The most important thing is that you’ve self-reflected on your actions, and that’s how we grow and mature. I hope you return to the DT when you feel ready. Just because you deleted your original account, doesn’t mean you cannot change your mind about contributing to the DT. Sometimes we do things in the heat of the moment that we wish we could take back, don’t feel like you can’t do that because you need to prove some point.
Baku you are a real highlight of this group, I will miss your posts if you leave, so please do come back when/if you feel you are ready. No need to self exile because you think it will right a perceived wrong. It’s ok for emotions to happen, differences to happen. Sometimes you can make good with people because both are willing to, and sometimes not. That’s life for literally everybody. All the time. And if the interactions here are negatively affecting you, that’s not a good thing, and you need to do what’s right for yourself. Honestly, I think people here sometimes forget how young you are and the challenges you’ve faced. You write with a maturity some people don’t have at 30, let alone 17. I very genuinely wish good things for you and hope to get some updates at some point to know you’re doing ok!
Well said.
2 downvotes already. For what? Apologising. Fuck me.
who the hell has been down voting lately?
No idea. Everyone has a right to but someone has been doing it to Baku for the most innocent of posts for a while now.
Yeah. I’m not surprised he feels targeted - seemingly he is, and I can’t for the life of me figure out why
Hey Baku,
I hope one day you feel ready to return this community, because you’re an integral part of it. We will welcome you back with open arms <3
I wasn’t around or involved, but you know how I feel about your participation.
Although I can’t really comment on anything, I suppose situations like these are an opportunity to reflect and hopefully grow (that’s for one’s own self, not saying it’s a must). The nuclear option doesn’t have to be the one and only choice, even if I completely understand your sentiments on wanting to do so.
Whatever your choice, I really do wish you the best.
Now I’m just sad for everyone.
Don’t worry about it man. It’s a weird difficult time and sometimes people butt heads. I also think it’s an especially fraught time for both of you.
Take care.
I hope you reconsider your decision. Best wishes going forward. 💜
Oh Baku.
You’re a good egg, and doing or saying something you regret doesn’t alter that. Do what you need to do, but don’t beat yourself up over it.
He is a good egg and I think he’s his own harshest judge.
Take care of yourself, Baku
E: also, please don’t be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and have said things we regret afterwards
We’ll miss you Baku. Take care of yourself.
There’s someone you’re forgetting in your apology.
You aren’t innocent in this.
They may have overreacted, (indeed they did) and quite frankly as would I have if I were in their position, but you continued to badger them.
That doesn’t mean they didn’t fuck up. And it doesn’t mean they didn’t make a mistake.
There is no doubt of that.
Sometimes when we stand up for the things we believe in, when the people we care about are in the firing line, we may may err in how we communicate. We may let our anger get the better of us in a moment.
I assure you if the topic was particularly close to my heart my sense of decorum would go out the window and my frustration would get the better of me. And i would be surprised by any who wouldn’t. Especially when they are being goaded further.
But I’ll wait until the person who was banned is allowed back so I can hear what they have to say as well.
I’m not a fan of witch hunts nor of popularity contests.
That’s my 2 cents.
I can’t not answer this. He asked what was it that was rude. Spud chose a rant rather than explanation including “you’re 17 not 7”. They’re not his parent. You don’t say that to someone. No wonder he was peeved. Fight or flight. He chose the former then the latter.
I’m sure both regret their responses to each other.
I want to answer properly and I’m about to crash out. I’ll reply again to your message tomorrow.
It deserves a clear and awake mind.
So many hugs. 🫂
Sorry I didn’t get your DM,
and no, you didn’t upset me or hurt me or offend me. No need to apologise.
I know you as a kind and considerate person and you have your opinion too. It’s the internet, and very often we write things we would never think or say in real life interactions.
Don’t sweat it.