• Gibsonhasafluffybutt
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    1 month ago

    There’s someone you’re forgetting in your apology.

    You aren’t innocent in this.

    They may have overreacted, (indeed they did) and quite frankly as would I have if I were in their position, but you continued to badger them.

    That doesn’t mean they didn’t fuck up. And it doesn’t mean they didn’t make a mistake.

    There is no doubt of that.

    Sometimes when we stand up for the things we believe in, when the people we care about are in the firing line, we may may err in how we communicate. We may let our anger get the better of us in a moment.

    I assure you if the topic was particularly close to my heart my sense of decorum would go out the window and my frustration would get the better of me. And i would be surprised by any who wouldn’t. Especially when they are being goaded further.

    But I’ll wait until the person who was banned is allowed back so I can hear what they have to say as well.

    I’m not a fan of witch hunts nor of popularity contests.

    That’s my 2 cents.

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      1 month ago

      I can’t not answer this. He asked what was it that was rude. Spud chose a rant rather than explanation including “you’re 17 not 7”. They’re not his parent. You don’t say that to someone. No wonder he was peeved. Fight or flight. He chose the former then the latter.

      I’m sure both regret their responses to each other.

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt
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        1 month ago

        I want to answer properly and I’m about to crash out. I’ll reply again to your message tomorrow.

        It deserves a clear and awake mind.

      • Gibsonhasafluffybutt
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        1 month ago

        Hi sorry for the late response, I’m on sick leave.

        I don’t disagree that spud overreacted. And i believe they have, or will when they are allowed back, be apologising for what happened. But i can’t speak for them.

        I understand where you’re coming from, but he could have just blocked her if he felt that he was being treated poorly.

        And admittedly, that decision doesn’t come easy when you’re feeling cornered.

        I don’t think it’s fair to lay the blame entirely on one person (even though they instigated it) when there was a dialogue where both people continued to attack each other.

        I hope that makes sense.

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          1 month ago

          Yeah that makes sense. I tried to stop it because it was turning into a car crash. They were both antagonistic towards each other and I hope it doesn’t happen again between anyone because everyone feels shit afterwards.

          I can’t stress enough about getting good sleep particularly young people which I know they both struggle with. I do understand that’s hard for some.

          Anyway I hope you feel better soon and look after yourself. You’re a good person. 💜

          • Gibsonhasafluffybutt
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            29 days ago

            You did the right thing, and I would have done the same. And you’re right, it absolutely mucks up the vibe of this place.

            You’re a good person as well CEO. We can only do our best and hope that we can learn from our mistakes.

            Sorry for the incredibly late response. I’ve been sick as a dog.