It was demanded of me to change sleeping arrangements by bro and SIL because their bedroom is ‘too small’. At 10pm ffs
Their argument was that because they’re newly married, they should get the biggest room.
They visit here on bellarine once a year. Stay in their ‘too small’ bedroom all day gaming and do nothing to help out. Constantly on their phone at dinner and they treat the place like it’s their own.
It turns out SIL demanded the bigger room and I’m disrespectful to her for not giving in which is the biggest heap of shit I’ve heard all week.
So I cracked the shits. I don’t do that often but I did.
I’ll need to pick up the pieces because we’re all going out for dins tonight heh.
It’s that sort of thing where you’re correct but incorrect at the same time.
I can only speak for myself but I have a problem with demands. Ask nicely and you may receive. Demand it and and it’s a flat out NO. You catch more flies with honey…
From what you’ve described, honestly, an entirely reasonable shit-cracking. I think this is on your brother/SIL to make overtures… This after all the insanely unreasonable demands around the wedding itself… I’m sorry but they sound like bullies tbh. Especially the kind that think someone single with no kids should be subservient to them. F that childish noise.
Too small for what? If all they are doing is gaming and sex, they really only need the area of the bed and somewhere to stash clothes overnight. This is a status/power play from them. You are absolutely correct to tell them to take a long walk off a short pier. It is your house after all. If their personal pride calls them to do the full Karen, they should go to a hotel and pay the staff to pander to their egos. The price of which is usually high. If they want to avoid first class hotel charges, it’s up to them to adapt to the accommodation available.
Champagne tastes on a beer budget are rightly the source of much comedy, and deserved ridicule.
In a vacuum if they’re staying with you they are in no position to demand anything from you.
Else they can go to a hotel or something.
Family can be complicated at times and navigating it can be a trying experience but what I said still stands.
They should be grateful they have a place to stay for free.
That is a strange way to say thank you to the host. 🤨
Ignore the demand. At dinner ask them what tasks about the house and property they will doing. Give a list of what needs to be done. Tell them it’s a condition of staying. It’s best to talk about expectations rather than have them unsaid.
Of course they may be agreeable and will then forget to do anything. There may also be drama. Then I suggest forget to invite them in the future.
So to expand on family woes…
It was demanded of me to change sleeping arrangements by bro and SIL because their bedroom is ‘too small’. At 10pm ffs
Their argument was that because they’re newly married, they should get the biggest room.
They visit here on bellarine once a year. Stay in their ‘too small’ bedroom all day gaming and do nothing to help out. Constantly on their phone at dinner and they treat the place like it’s their own.
It turns out SIL demanded the bigger room and I’m disrespectful to her for not giving in which is the biggest heap of shit I’ve heard all week.
So I cracked the shits. I don’t do that often but I did.
I’ll need to pick up the pieces because we’re all going out for dins tonight heh.
It’s that sort of thing where you’re correct but incorrect at the same time.
hmm
do not pick up pieces, you responded to someone elses unreasonable behaviour. It’s up to them to make amends, they were the ones acting like cunts.
I can only speak for myself but I have a problem with demands. Ask nicely and you may receive. Demand it and and it’s a flat out NO. You catch more flies with honey…
From what you’ve described, honestly, an entirely reasonable shit-cracking. I think this is on your brother/SIL to make overtures… This after all the insanely unreasonable demands around the wedding itself… I’m sorry but they sound like bullies tbh. Especially the kind that think someone single with no kids should be subservient to them. F that childish noise.
The whole thing is absolutely childish and I’m trying (and failing miserbaly heh) to keep everything okay.
Too small for what? If all they are doing is gaming and sex, they really only need the area of the bed and somewhere to stash clothes overnight. This is a status/power play from them. You are absolutely correct to tell them to take a long walk off a short pier. It is your house after all. If their personal pride calls them to do the full Karen, they should go to a hotel and pay the staff to pander to their egos. The price of which is usually high. If they want to avoid first class hotel charges, it’s up to them to adapt to the accommodation available.
Champagne tastes on a beer budget are rightly the source of much comedy, and deserved ridicule.
I’m still trying to work out what it is but I think it is a power play.
Have to admit I’m not great at this.
In a vacuum if they’re staying with you they are in no position to demand anything from you.
Else they can go to a hotel or something. Family can be complicated at times and navigating it can be a trying experience but what I said still stands.
They should be grateful they have a place to stay for free.
That is a strange way to say thank you to the host. 🤨
Ignore the demand. At dinner ask them what tasks about the house and property they will doing. Give a list of what needs to be done. Tell them it’s a condition of staying. It’s best to talk about expectations rather than have them unsaid.
Of course they may be agreeable and will then forget to do anything. There may also be drama. Then I suggest forget to invite them in the future.