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    I’m not feeling great about me :((((( I feel unproductive and stupid

    • CEOofmyhouse56
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      Stop it. You’re not stupid because stupid people don’t learn nothing and that’s not you and we don’t always have to be productive. We are not machines. Go easy on yourself. ♥

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        Thank you <3 I’m hoping next week is better. The last few weeks has been tough adjusting to a new work environment and when I feel insecure and anxious sometimes I just want to do stuff to keep busy but you’re right I just need to chill and take a little break once in a while.

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      Being unproductive (how ever you define it) does not diminish your worth as a human being. You are smart, capable, kind, and awesome! You do good things. It is okay to feel unproductive, to put off doing some things, etc, we struggle but we must be kind to ourselves. I promise, you are not stupid.

      edit: as CEO said, we are not machines. Please take it easy on yourself, friend

      • heyheyitskay
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        Thank you for your kind words…yes I’m probably being too hard on myself. I feel guilty sometimes if I’m not filling up my time doing “useful” things but I shouldn’t really and I think the last few weeks have been a bit stressful so I should just let myself take a break.

    • MeanElevator
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      Hey don’t be sad…because sad backwards is das…and das not good

        • MeanElevator
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          My daughter has it on a post-it note (I wrote it) and wants to get it tattooed when she’s old enough.

          She’s had it for like 3 years and treasures it.

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              It’s piggybacking on your comment from yesterday.

              I thought you’d appreciate it.

              I cherish these little things like nothing else.

              Other day I picked her from her dance class and she asked me to drive around cause she needed to vent and not tell anyone about what she said.

              I never had so much trust with my parents.

              • StudSpud The Starchy
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                haha damn yeah you are definitely doing the right thing by her! And I do appreciate it :D

                (also, I just had to go back to that comment bc I didnt remember making it, and didnt know what you were referring to - im a tad embarressed about it, tbh, as I was very wine-drunk when I made it haha but I am glad you understood lol)

                • MeanElevator
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                  I was whiskey drunk and weed high last night

                  You good. We good.

                  Keep on rocking in the free world

    • Seagoon_
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      hey, can I just add to all the true things the other DTers have said

      you’re a friend here as we are your friends, that’s a really good thing and not easy to do, super big hugs

    • TinyBreak
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      Pick something to do, go do it. Tidy up a room or something. Just a small quick win can pull you out of a funk surprisingly well. Even a half assed job was more than it was before you started.

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        Thanks right now maybe just tidying up the bed before I go lol. I got myself all wrinkly soaking in the bath for almost 45 mins and I think I feel better now. Hoping tomorrow and next week is better.

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      Everything everyone is saying is true. You’re just having a slightly off time which we all have at some times, sometimes more than once, that doesn’t make you stupid, you are far from it. It’s not fun, but try not to be too hard on yourself hugs ☀️

      There’s supposed to be some Sun on Monday. I recommend 10 mins of pure Vitamin D

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        Thank you…I’ll make sure I get some fresh air and sun. There’s been a lot on my mind and my brain’s been in overdrive. I haven’t been sleeping well and a bad dream about work last night woke me up so that certainly reflects my state of mind. hug

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          You poor thing, gotta look after yourself or you’ll run yourself ragged. Remember to prioritise, do what needs to be done right now. Something can isn’t as urgent, you can complete at a later time. Fingers crossed you have a better night’s sleep tonight. You got this!

    • Duenan
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      Hey. What’s up?

      It’s ok to be unproductive, think of it as resting and it is a weekend afterall.

      And don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re not stupid at all.

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        Thanks sometimes I feel like there’s really only two days to myself and it’s never enough to recharge as well as get non work things done and it’s a waste but I guess some times you just gotta do nothing so your body and brain takes a break from the constant churning…

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          I do have to say it’s different from one person to the next in their needs and how they feel about it. Some people can never switch off from work and I that’s fine if they accept that and aren’t burning themselves out.

          But you should never doubt or feel bad for actually taking the time to rest and recharge even if it amounts to actually not doing much. It’s part of the process and it’s natural.

          Sooner or later if you don’t get enough rest your body will shut down for you and force it on you.

          And yes you do sometimes have to just take away and let your mind rest if you feel that’s what you need but don’t feel bad if you need to do that ok?

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            Thank you! I’m not good at remembering that particularly during times of stress. Will take it easy and get some quality recharge time in!