T-minus 6 days until I age up once more. Boring age, the only thing I’ll do is enrol to vote (which I could do now anyway if I wanted to), but it does mean I’m almost at less than a year until I become an adult which is really terrifying, although I guess somewhat good
I’ve spent so fucking long just trying to figure out how to make it to tomorrow that trying to make actual plans on how I’m meant to live, and what I’m meant to do with my life is scary and foreign and makes no sense. I did receive permission to stay at my current place past 18 (they only do that on a case by case basis - the standard is you get kicked out the day before you turn 18). But that’s not an indefinite offer. I’ll get at most a year before they really will just boot me out the door
I actually do have a rough idea of what I want to do by the end of my life, but it’s the ~8 years between moving out and being able to begin my plans I don’t know what to do with. I’ve got some things happening work wise, but nothing consistent and reliable so I guess that’s the first thing I need to tackle.
I did find out that there are actually options for when I move out/get kicked out, though. There’s various community housing organisations focussed specifically on people exiting care which I can use. I’m also on the NDIS so that can help with a limited number of things too. My old plan was that I was going to save up enough money to buy a car, and then I was just going to live in that because I genuinely thought I was just going to be homeless.
And to be depressingly honest, although I’ve been thinking about this since I entered care when I was 11, I didn’t really think I was going to be alive by my 18th birthday for most of those years. It’s only really after moving into lead tenant I’ve started to think that life isn’t so bad, and maybe I can do it every day for the next 60 years
This sounds like you’ve given this a LOT of thought. Saving up is never a bad thing as it gives you more options, and a buffer against disaster - you’ve already seen a lot of us here whinging about sudden large expenses. The world is opening up to you in many ways, and you’ve got a lot of power over how life is going to be. I am confident that you’ll make a success of the busyness of living.
Not a lot of useful problem solving though, mainly unproductive, stressful, panic attack inducing thoughts
Having power about how my life will be is also really stressful. I’ve got a couple of decisions to make that’ll affect the next decade of my life at least, and I’m not a big fan of this whole “decisions you make now affect the entire rest of your life” thing
Fully agree. The whole decisions you make now thing is plainly ridiculous. Life has this habit of cancelling all one’s plans and then dealing out a u-turn. I’ve had at least half a dozen of these, probably more when I think about it. I am a big fan of having a Plan A, a Plan B if Plan A doesn’t work, and a few more plans depending on circumstances. I’ve lived my life re-thinking my options pretty much every few years. I suspect the real trick of doing this without unnecessary stress is to accept that this is so, and always will be so. And to stop worrying about it. Easy to say, hard to do. Having an accurate reckoning of one’s skills, talents and resources is a very good platform to base planning on. Also a good idea to keep a weather eye out for new opportunities as and when these arise. Nothing is predictable. Resilience is key.
Having just thrown my own life plan out the window to do a full re-write I completely agree with this. I think the key is to treat your plans as options you can choose to follow or not instead of contracts that bind you to a course of action. The process of coming up with your plans also tends to give you the knowledge to see other oportunities when they arise and it is important to be flexible enough to take those oportunities when they come along.
T-minus 6 days until I age up once more. Boring age, the only thing I’ll do is enrol to vote (which I could do now anyway if I wanted to), but it does mean I’m almost at less than a year until I become an adult which is really terrifying, although I guess somewhat good
I’ve spent so fucking long just trying to figure out how to make it to tomorrow that trying to make actual plans on how I’m meant to live, and what I’m meant to do with my life is scary and foreign and makes no sense. I did receive permission to stay at my current place past 18 (they only do that on a case by case basis - the standard is you get kicked out the day before you turn 18). But that’s not an indefinite offer. I’ll get at most a year before they really will just boot me out the door
I actually do have a rough idea of what I want to do by the end of my life, but it’s the ~8 years between moving out and being able to begin my plans I don’t know what to do with. I’ve got some things happening work wise, but nothing consistent and reliable so I guess that’s the first thing I need to tackle.
I did find out that there are actually options for when I move out/get kicked out, though. There’s various community housing organisations focussed specifically on people exiting care which I can use. I’m also on the NDIS so that can help with a limited number of things too. My old plan was that I was going to save up enough money to buy a car, and then I was just going to live in that because I genuinely thought I was just going to be homeless.
And to be depressingly honest, although I’ve been thinking about this since I entered care when I was 11, I didn’t really think I was going to be alive by my 18th birthday for most of those years. It’s only really after moving into lead tenant I’ve started to think that life isn’t so bad, and maybe I can do it every day for the next 60 years
You’re going to be a wonderful man, Baku
This sounds like you’ve given this a LOT of thought. Saving up is never a bad thing as it gives you more options, and a buffer against disaster - you’ve already seen a lot of us here whinging about sudden large expenses. The world is opening up to you in many ways, and you’ve got a lot of power over how life is going to be. I am confident that you’ll make a success of the busyness of living.
Not a lot of useful problem solving though, mainly unproductive, stressful, panic attack inducing thoughts
Having power about how my life will be is also really stressful. I’ve got a couple of decisions to make that’ll affect the next decade of my life at least, and I’m not a big fan of this whole “decisions you make now affect the entire rest of your life” thing
Fully agree. The whole decisions you make now thing is plainly ridiculous. Life has this habit of cancelling all one’s plans and then dealing out a u-turn. I’ve had at least half a dozen of these, probably more when I think about it. I am a big fan of having a Plan A, a Plan B if Plan A doesn’t work, and a few more plans depending on circumstances. I’ve lived my life re-thinking my options pretty much every few years. I suspect the real trick of doing this without unnecessary stress is to accept that this is so, and always will be so. And to stop worrying about it. Easy to say, hard to do. Having an accurate reckoning of one’s skills, talents and resources is a very good platform to base planning on. Also a good idea to keep a weather eye out for new opportunities as and when these arise. Nothing is predictable. Resilience is key.
Having just thrown my own life plan out the window to do a full re-write I completely agree with this. I think the key is to treat your plans as options you can choose to follow or not instead of contracts that bind you to a course of action. The process of coming up with your plans also tends to give you the knowledge to see other oportunities when they arise and it is important to be flexible enough to take those oportunities when they come along.
Your birthday is on the 15-Mar? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ides_of_March You got a gaming PC?
It is indeed, and I do
u want a birthday copy of helldivers 2? is that your jam?
Aw that’s nice of you, I appreciate the offer, but no thanks