I am very middle aged and I still remember my first “fancy” dinner… I kept.forgetting how to hold my knife and fork and my mate’s mum leant over and helped. I still feel a bit out of place at fancy dinners. It’s fun to play and try new things though.
I was at a foster care house for a while and the foster carer and her son both got really, really, really angry at me for not holding a knife and fork right (I held a knife in my left hand and more like a broomstick despite being right handed), but neither of them wanted to teach me or explain what the go was. I only learnt how to properly hold cutlery and knives when I was 14/15. My previous fanciest dinner would probably have been an RSL, but since those tables aren’t really shared, nobody gives much of a shot how you eat things as long as you’re not obnoxious about it and meet their dress code thing.
I’ve actually picked up a lot of my manners and social norms from old Australian soap operas (namely prisoner) + stories from my mum. Just generally speaking, I don’t think much beyond basic manners is really a thing in my generation. Even an expensive sit down restaurant doesn’t necessarily mean it’s fancy or will even have a dress code, let alone any concern about manners or over a dozen types of silverware
No doubt, but I think I’m mostly set now. I mean I guarantee I’m going to forget everything I learnt tonight, but I have never needed them before so I don’t think it’s likely I’ll need them again any time soon. The only reason I really cared about them is that it was 10 person shared tables with older people, and the innate urge to try and fit in ear overpowering
I went through a similar thing. I’ve had to teach myself how to do pretty much everything. Like how to shower properly, use cutlery etc. You get the idea.
If it makes you feel better, you’re not the only one having to deal with this crap 🙂
That dude was a dick.
I am very middle aged and I still remember my first “fancy” dinner… I kept.forgetting how to hold my knife and fork and my mate’s mum leant over and helped. I still feel a bit out of place at fancy dinners. It’s fun to play and try new things though.
I was at a foster care house for a while and the foster carer and her son both got really, really, really angry at me for not holding a knife and fork right (I held a knife in my left hand and more like a broomstick despite being right handed), but neither of them wanted to teach me or explain what the go was. I only learnt how to properly hold cutlery and knives when I was 14/15. My previous fanciest dinner would probably have been an RSL, but since those tables aren’t really shared, nobody gives much of a shot how you eat things as long as you’re not obnoxious about it and meet their dress code thing.
I’ve actually picked up a lot of my manners and social norms from old Australian soap operas (namely prisoner) + stories from my mum. Just generally speaking, I don’t think much beyond basic manners is really a thing in my generation. Even an expensive sit down restaurant doesn’t necessarily mean it’s fancy or will even have a dress code, let alone any concern about manners or over a dozen types of silverware
There are probably YT videos.
No doubt, but I think I’m mostly set now. I mean I guarantee I’m going to forget everything I learnt tonight, but I have never needed them before so I don’t think it’s likely I’ll need them again any time soon. The only reason I really cared about them is that it was 10 person shared tables with older people, and the innate urge to try and fit in ear overpowering
I went through a similar thing. I’ve had to teach myself how to do pretty much everything. Like how to shower properly, use cutlery etc. You get the idea.
If it makes you feel better, you’re not the only one having to deal with this crap 🙂