• TinyBreak
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    6 months ago

    Curious to see if this is a “me” thing or not. so does anyone else when they make a new mate become like low key obsessed for a bit? or not obsessed but like, the social anxiety just dial up a couple of notches? just for like the first couple of days of the proper mateship. Then it always settles down. Like every time your phone buzzes your like “Oh, I hope its X person”. and when they take a bit to reply you go “Oh, did I message them too many times? did I say something weird?” when you know they’re probs just busy.

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      6 months ago

      Honestly it’s been so long since I made new friends I can’t really remember.

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      5 months ago

      I’m a slow boil. I’ll be interacting with someone for ages before I suddenly realise one day they’ve made the move from acquaintance to friend.

      So, no. For me it’s more a sudden realisation after a bit. I’m reminded somewhat of the way my wife and I started dating here.

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      5 months ago

      For sure man. I don’t really have family so friendships are really important to me. I defs get all in my head about it when I’m connecting with someone new

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        5 months ago

        same boat hey, makes friendships so much more important.

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            5 months ago

            ABSOLUTELY! people think your intense. And its hard to explain to someone “No, I just feel more strongly about you than you probs do about me”. Still stings when they kind of prove that though hey.

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              It’s tough man. For me, I generally expect nothing from other people, which helps temper my excitement to a degree.

              In a way, it’s pessimistic, but after some of my experiences, its less shitty to think that way.

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      6 months ago

      Not just a you thing. Made a couple of good mates from my gym and texting anxiety was through the roof. Turns out they felt the same.