• just_kitten
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    10 hours ago

    Got a bit of a gentle but well-deserved telling off from my supervisor about needing to finish collecting data by the end of the month. Stupid fucking ADHD brain really does need a threat to kick start itself. I hate it but it is what it is. Let’s get this shit done.

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      8 hours ago

      I have read a few books on the science of motivation, ( I read a lot of science/text books on psychology and psychiatry )

      and what I learnt is that humans are social animals and that everyone does better with external motivators like a coach or a muse or a boss.

      Even Olympic athletes need a coach.

      So I ask/tell myself, I am no where near as good or dedicated as one of these elite people and if they need a coach then what about the rest of us? Why is there some societal belief that getting help with motivation or nudges is a weakness? It’s not. Knowing we do better with other people giving motivation is a strength.

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        It’s very true, I do often need social motivation/a community to spur myself on, all the successful times in my life have been when I’ve had external motivators like that. I have often beat myself up about it because it feels like feeding my ego, and also it feels like a double edged sword - disappointment or discord with that external motivating person, especially a perceived sense of rejection, can have a dramatic negative effect (at least for me). But that shouldn’t stop me from reaching out while being realistic with expectations. I have been blessed to have one of the most lenient and supportive supervisors I could get…

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      The data knows it can run, but it can’t hide. It sees you coming and resigns itself to collection and analysis. Resistance is Futile, and you are unstoppable. You will kick the data’s arse into next week if it dares try to resist you. As has been said already, you got this =)

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      9 hours ago

      You are a fierce unrelenting data collector. They say it doesn’t collect itself but with your mettle, and at the helm, it may as well. You have this.

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        10 hours ago

        Thank you 😭 I need every bit of an ego boost right now to stave off a massive wave of insecurity and shitfulness looming on the horizon