It’s really tough going through all the emotions and pain of getting out of bad relationship dynamics. I look at my sibs and some are happy with the way thing are, they are the abusers, and others are miserable. They are the victims. But none seem to make efforts to question or change . They seem more stable but stable as what?
I guess they just don’t see that, they’re the sort of people to bury their heads in the sand and don’t ask anything. Which I guess is their way of respecting my trauma, but I feel invisible.
And thank you, if feels like a massive accomplishment, and I’m proud of myself on a logical level. But it would be nice to have some family validate that for me to I guess.
I appreciate you understanding honestly and truly 💜💜💜
A lot of could just be…well how do you approach a subject like that? I don’ t mean just checking in saying “howya doing?” but even acknowledging the depth and breadth of something like that is just something a lot of people just can’t fucking handle or even begin to handle, so they get weird about it and decide pretending after the fact is a tactic. Which doesn’t fucking help, but at the same time, aggravatingly, you can’t fault them for not being able to handle it.
You’re not behind, you 1) survived 2) are getting healthy and 3) are starting to thrive.
that’s a bigger accomplishment.
I agree.
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It’s really tough going through all the emotions and pain of getting out of bad relationship dynamics. I look at my sibs and some are happy with the way thing are, they are the abusers, and others are miserable. They are the victims. But none seem to make efforts to question or change . They seem more stable but stable as what?
I guess they just don’t see that, they’re the sort of people to bury their heads in the sand and don’t ask anything. Which I guess is their way of respecting my trauma, but I feel invisible.
And thank you, if feels like a massive accomplishment, and I’m proud of myself on a logical level. But it would be nice to have some family validate that for me to I guess.
I appreciate you understanding honestly and truly 💜💜💜
A lot of could just be…well how do you approach a subject like that? I don’ t mean just checking in saying “howya doing?” but even acknowledging the depth and breadth of something like that is just something a lot of people just can’t fucking handle or even begin to handle, so they get weird about it and decide pretending after the fact is a tactic. Which doesn’t fucking help, but at the same time, aggravatingly, you can’t fault them for not being able to handle it.