goons, I know you mean well and radical empathy is a thing, but no one makes the choice of stonewall or going NC without trying everything possible first. And I mean everything, including eating decades of shit.
this isn’t radical empathy, it’s knowledge and expertise gained from decades of study and interacting with close family members who were in a very destructive religious cult, think scientology
the point is to not use words or ideas that set them off
Spud wrote it out very well, I’m just going the one further step. You can get them to change their mind, you have to talk about other things.
Hmm I feel like I haven’t exhausted all of my options yet though. I shall try with the nature videos and hopefully that will do something. I just wish she was open to seeing a counsellor or something. She never got counselling or had someone to talk to about her divorce after it happened.
goons, I know you mean well and radical empathy is a thing, but no one makes the choice of stonewall or going NC without trying everything possible first. And I mean everything, including eating decades of shit.
this isn’t radical empathy, it’s knowledge and expertise gained from decades of study and interacting with close family members who were in a very destructive religious cult, think scientology
the point is to not use words or ideas that set them off
Spud wrote it out very well, I’m just going the one further step. You can get them to change their mind, you have to talk about other things.
Hmm I feel like I haven’t exhausted all of my options yet though. I shall try with the nature videos and hopefully that will do something. I just wish she was open to seeing a counsellor or something. She never got counselling or had someone to talk to about her divorce after it happened.
Lol I feel this. Took me too long to go no contact with mum haha kids don’t do it lightly and without much shame, guilt, and fear.
And I have empathy for my mum too, her life sucked so hard. But sometimes it’s the only way to get healthy, to cut out the people that hurt us.