• Gibsonisafluffybutt
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    8 months ago

    I got the full story about that guy I’ve mentioned the other day.

    Everything I’ve told him in confidence has been spread around. People I haven’t met, know about my substance issues from the past.

    I am so fucking angry right now. But, it will pass.

    He’s dead to me.

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      8 months ago

      I’m so sorry.

      I was thinking about what you wrote, how he was doing things to teach people a lesson.

      That’s just crazy, what would be the point?

      It’s really just sadism framed with words that blame the victim.

      He’s a bad person.

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        8 months ago

        Thank you. I’ve been stewing about it most of the day, but it’s passed now. I blocked him on everything. I hate losing a friend, but this guy definitely isn’t one.

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      8 months ago

      Is this the one who’s been self destructing?

      I’m sorry gibsy. I’m not sure this is the case, although it probably does feel like it but I’m sure you won’t be judged about your past as much as it feels like you might. Those people don’t even know you, they’re probably not likely to pass too much judgement

      Try not to let it affect your trust too much (which I realise is easier said than done). There’s still good people out there, and speaking from experience, isolating yourself won’t help

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        That’s the one. Yeah the first thing in my mind is “fuck this, never trusting anyone again”, but ultimately that’s the wrong option. I can’t let a shitty experience stop me from an important part of relationships with people. I’ll just have to be much, much more observant of people before I discuss certain topics.

        And totally agree about the self isolating. I do that too and it never works out well in the long run.

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      8 months ago

      Is this the bloke who use you as an emotional crutch whilst he fucks away his life?

      Maaaaan how pathetic do you have to be that someone respectfully tells you that they need space so you proceed to dump on them to make yourself feel better? Dudes done you a favor bro, hes made a very clear statement: “I’m a piece of shit and your time spent being my friend is wasted”.

      Also its 2024, if other folks dunk on you for overcoming a substance abuse issue that’s just more trash taking itself out.

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        8 months ago

        Exactly right mate. At the end of the day, it’s out there now. It took a metric fucktonne of effort, work and willpower to get where I am. I’m over being ashamed of it.

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          I’m over being ashamed of it.

          damn fucking straight! you should be proud as shit bro