• PeelerSheila
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    Here’s to the end of a pretty ordinary week. Mr P had to give bone marrow sample and has had appointment at Peter Mac. We’re waiting to find out if he has blood cancer, leukaemia or whatever they call it now. Elder minipeeler is still having major issues with anxiety and school refusal. My MIL offered to pay for him to go to a private school she thinks would be better for him… would’ve been nice to offer that last year, when I was having to enrol him in the only (really big) public school in our catchment and I was saying that I didn’t have a good feeling about it, that I felt that there’d be problems for him given the issues he’d had in the past, but had no choice financially. I was equally anxious and bummed out about it and she knew that back then. Now she wants to sweep in with her money and save the day, by uprooting him and plonking him into a new school‽ I feel bad for being ungrateful. Miniest is going through a very testing rebellious and wilful stage. I’m trying to give her as much of myself as I can and my patience, as she is jealous of Elder and her dad being home all the time, which is perfectly understandable. She is academically gifted but puts in a bare minimum of effort and is wasting her awesome potential and it’s hugely frustrating, but she doesn’t give a shit. I am feeling older and more tired in my body and it’s depressing. I’ve been bingeing dystopian shows on Netflix and find them comfortingly awful. I gave up on the “comedy” category… maybe Americans just laugh at different stuff, but I found little humour there. Thankyou for reading my grumbles.

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      Girl, you have so much on your plate. Like, you’re the only one holding it all together. Your strength is admirable. I’m sorry you’re going through all of this, it’s hard! If you ever want to, or able to, catch up for a coffee and a debrief, I’m available. It sounds like you need some serious “me time”. Sending you all my love and postive energy 💜

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      It sounds like you’ve got an awful lot on your plate. Just keep swimming mama, your strength is a beacon for your family.

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      Sounds like it’s gonna be rough for a while. You can vent here anytime. We gotcha. I very much hope the tests all come back negative. But shit happens. And if it does, there are very good treatments these days and Peter Mac is world class, no better place to be. You’re doing brilliant with the minipeelers. Other people will always have opinions, but you know their needs best. And if you decide the offer of money is helpful, take it without hesitation, do whatever you think is best for the minis. The politics can be worried about later. As for Netflix, I can recommend 3 Body Problem for the dystopian genre. For comedy there’s heaps of older movies on there sometimes old school comedy is a good remedy to modern American humour. Although The Good Place is an exception, thats one of my favourite shows of recent years.

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        Older comedy, of course! Thanks for your kind thoughts and for the recommendation 👍

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      I’m so sorry to hear it. Please, if you can handle doing it get in touch with carers supports right now. If someone could help you with it that would be great.

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      so many hugs to you all

      use all the social workers at the hospital

    • AJ Sadauskas @lemmy.ml
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      That is a nightmare week 😔

      Wishing Mr P all the best for the test results, I can’t imagine how stressful that would be 💜

      You’re totally justified in being frustrated at MIL’s belated benevolence. It’s nice she’s offering to help, but not helpful when she’s offering!

      I went through a phase like Miniest and grew out of it — mostly anyway.

      Before you know it, she’ll be 40, and you’ll laugh as you recount a story about a crazy thing she did when she was a teenager.

      Take care 💜