A bit of a ramble here. So you know when kids are young and they get asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” A doctor, a vet, a teacher. And your reply “well you can be anything you want to be”.
Then they get a bit older and they still have those dreams so you have to let them down gently. A doctor maybe not. There’s blood and guts involved and you’re not really good with that kind of stuff are you? A vet. Well you’ve gotta shove your arm up a cow’s rear end. I mean they give you a glove and all but still are you prepared for that? A teacher. Um yeah they get paid good but you gotta put up with arsehole children and their arsehole parents. Not enough pay for that.
Anyway after much consideration, my daughter would like to do something sciencey. That’s cool. She has her heart set on uni. She’s smart. Whatever makes her happy. My only question was “Does this mean you’re not leaving home anytime soon because Mummy would like her sewing room back?” Her response “Have you seen the cost of houses lately? We are in a crisis. Nah it’s probably best I stay here”.
The thing is from the time she was little she has always wanted to do something sciencey. Sure shit changed along the way but she always had that as a goal and her mum and dad will support her no matter what. We are investing in her future so at least she can have one. I don’t ever want her to leave home.
Agreed. The younger one in this equation has never had a full time job or a relationship counted beyond months. It’s kinda hard to detail, I met the knot when she was 12, almost nothing has changed.
A bit of a ramble here. So you know when kids are young and they get asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” A doctor, a vet, a teacher. And your reply “well you can be anything you want to be”.
Then they get a bit older and they still have those dreams so you have to let them down gently. A doctor maybe not. There’s blood and guts involved and you’re not really good with that kind of stuff are you? A vet. Well you’ve gotta shove your arm up a cow’s rear end. I mean they give you a glove and all but still are you prepared for that? A teacher. Um yeah they get paid good but you gotta put up with arsehole children and their arsehole parents. Not enough pay for that.
Anyway after much consideration, my daughter would like to do something sciencey. That’s cool. She has her heart set on uni. She’s smart. Whatever makes her happy. My only question was “Does this mean you’re not leaving home anytime soon because Mummy would like her sewing room back?” Her response “Have you seen the cost of houses lately? We are in a crisis. Nah it’s probably best I stay here”.
The thing is from the time she was little she has always wanted to do something sciencey. Sure shit changed along the way but she always had that as a goal and her mum and dad will support her no matter what. We are investing in her future so at least she can have one. I don’t ever want her to leave home.
Please be careful on this one. I have friends who are so utterly enmeshed that the daughter hasn’t left at over 30. It’s not healthy for anyone.
So bars on her window is not a good idea?
Seriously if she wants to stay until she’s 40 she’s welcome.
Unhealthy Enmeshment and multi-generation households are very different things though.
Agreed. The younger one in this equation has never had a full time job or a relationship counted beyond months. It’s kinda hard to detail, I met the knot when she was 12, almost nothing has changed.
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