That’s a really difficult situation and I feel for you. Both you and she deserve a home to feel safe and secure in but sometimes these needs conflict and there’s no easy way to resolve it. I don’t know what the solution is. If it were me in an ideal situation I’d move, but in this housing market… Doesn’t sound like there’s an easy way to soundproof your place from her outbursts either.
Stuck between a rock and a hard place. It sounds like keeping rent as is might be considered a worthwhile “compensation” for the difficult neighbour, for now at least, from the REA/rental provider’s point of view. They would know rental costs of units adjacent to social housing would go down…
I have an unintentionally difficult neighbour in summer - next door house has a severely disabled adult child who moans and bangs around a lot, very loudly. It’s a bit disruptive in the warmer months (and sometimes we hear the swearing/DV from down the street) but I’m very lucky that in winter with the doors and windows closed I can barely hear any of that. I would struggle so much in your situation
You’re a kind soul, but still, having tiggers in your home is not ideal by any means. I’m sorry you have to deal with that.
I don’t think tourettes is easy to control. Some people have tough lives and we need to show compassion toward them of course, but you still have to live.
I also get yelling people at all times of the day and night outside my place. It’s never nice things, but adds to the colour of the neighbourhood from my perspective.
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That’s a really difficult situation and I feel for you. Both you and she deserve a home to feel safe and secure in but sometimes these needs conflict and there’s no easy way to resolve it. I don’t know what the solution is. If it were me in an ideal situation I’d move, but in this housing market… Doesn’t sound like there’s an easy way to soundproof your place from her outbursts either.
the housing market and low wages means people have fewer choices, fewer ways to improve their lives, it means so many lives are fucked
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Stuck between a rock and a hard place. It sounds like keeping rent as is might be considered a worthwhile “compensation” for the difficult neighbour, for now at least, from the REA/rental provider’s point of view. They would know rental costs of units adjacent to social housing would go down…
I have an unintentionally difficult neighbour in summer - next door house has a severely disabled adult child who moans and bangs around a lot, very loudly. It’s a bit disruptive in the warmer months (and sometimes we hear the swearing/DV from down the street) but I’m very lucky that in winter with the doors and windows closed I can barely hear any of that. I would struggle so much in your situation
here are some cheap soundproofing ideas you can use
https://www.wikihow.com/Soundproof-Windows
lots and lots of hugs, no one should have to live with that
Have you tried talking to her? Asking her not to scream in the alley?
She might also have empathy to you and shared lived experience can be a good connection with people who are suffering.
Since the neighbour is triggering her probably not a good idea for stud to reach out.
The questions come across as a bit abrupt on reading back, which wasn’t my intention. Still you’re most likely right.
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You’re a kind soul, but still, having tiggers in your home is not ideal by any means. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I don’t think tourettes is easy to control. Some people have tough lives and we need to show compassion toward them of course, but you still have to live.
I also get yelling people at all times of the day and night outside my place. It’s never nice things, but adds to the colour of the neighbourhood from my perspective.