• fullkitwanker
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    I have a big preso tomorrow. To about 100 attendees. I have to talk for about 10-12 mins and I’m prepared. It’s just that I get so nervous my heart starts pounding crazy fast.

    My previous presos have also been in front of the same crowd but that was for like 2-3 mins as I had someone share the time but tomorrow am all alone. Which means that I need to take questions as well.

    My heart rate is already high thinking of tomorrow 🤕 can someone give me some tips to calm down? Please don’t say slow breathing because it just makes it worse for me 😭

    I’ve also been told I give great presos but I gaslight myself into thinking it was bad. I’ve prepared pretty well but still nervous as shit as this is the biggest one so far.

    Am off to the gym now to take mind off things and just relax. I’ll go crazy otherwise

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      You’re nervous because you know you are good and don’t want to disappoint. And you’re nervous because you’re doing a good thing that you want to do. So being nervous isn’t such a bad thing. The adrenaline helps with performance too.

      So many hugs. You can do this. We’re so proud of you. 🌞😘🌞😘🌞

    • TheWitchofThornbury
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      My late bloke was an excellent after dinner speaker, but got horribly nervous beforehand. To the point of vomiting with nerves. He eventually figured out how to manage his anxiety by playing cats cradle while he was waiting to be introduced to the audience. The simple repetition of the hand movements helped him through those awful minutes before he started to speak. He was fine once he got going. Zillions of vidjos on youtube on how to do it. He liked doing the apache door more than the eiffel tower or witches broom one as it was more complex and required more attention. And the evidence could be stowed in a pocket quickly when he stepped up to perform. Pre-performance anxiety is very real and can be very debilitating, but tends to evaporate once the performance starts. Hope this helps a bit.

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        Thank you!! I’ll look these techniques up on YouTube 😊Also sorry for your loss

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          A few years by now - sort of over all the hard stuff. I’m pretty sure you’ll be fine for the presentation. My personal opinion is that the harder the pre-performance stuff hits, the better the actual performance. Which sounds kinda weird but this is what I’ve observed. Would also recommend not ignoring the post performance stuff. Like having a mental list of things to do immediately after you’ve finished - from packing up the equipment to organising notes etc. This really helps conquer the jitters.

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      I like to get there early so I have time for a last stress poo. Acute stress goes to my bowels, sorry. And to check out the venue and stuff.

      Also you can overheat a bit when you’re in a stressful situation, and that feeling of being too hot makes the stress worse. If you can lose a layer or two it can help.

      You’ll be awesome.