As a niece myself, who’s aunts and uncles do not talk to me outside of family gatherings, nor provide financial assistance, I would prefer to spend more time with them, over them leaving me an inheritance and killing themselves.
As a daughter who’s father helps monetarily, but does not otherwise talk to me outside of family gatherings, I would prefer to spend time with him over any money he gives me. I’d rather be homeless and destitute if only he would take an interest in me, or just even text…
What do you think your nibblings would prefer?
A) A large inheritance and sad memories of a troubled, burnt-out uncle who left the earth early
B) A inheritance and mediocre memories of an uncle who held no hope and prioritised working themself to death
C) maybe a smaller inheritance but wonderful memories of an uncle who was there for their weddings, there for their own children, and died of old age?
Don’t answer to me, think about it. There is nuance, of course, as I don’t know what you do outside of this thread. Just speaking from my own experience I suppose, so take it all with an ocean of salt. Nothing I say could ever change the way you see yourself or the future, but I suggest considering finding meaning in something other than “I must make lots of money to give my family”.
As a niece myself, who’s aunts and uncles do not talk to me outside of family gatherings, nor provide financial assistance, I would prefer to spend more time with them, over them leaving me an inheritance and killing themselves.
As a daughter who’s father helps monetarily, but does not otherwise talk to me outside of family gatherings, I would prefer to spend time with him over any money he gives me. I’d rather be homeless and destitute if only he would take an interest in me, or just even text…
What do you think your nibblings would prefer?
A) A large inheritance and sad memories of a troubled, burnt-out uncle who left the earth early
B) A inheritance and mediocre memories of an uncle who held no hope and prioritised working themself to death
C) maybe a smaller inheritance but wonderful memories of an uncle who was there for their weddings, there for their own children, and died of old age?
Don’t answer to me, think about it. There is nuance, of course, as I don’t know what you do outside of this thread. Just speaking from my own experience I suppose, so take it all with an ocean of salt. Nothing I say could ever change the way you see yourself or the future, but I suggest considering finding meaning in something other than “I must make lots of money to give my family”.
I know what I would pick, personally. 🤷🏼♀️