• melbaboutown
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    6 months ago

    I’m so sorry dude. The people in charge of your situation fucked up royally and left you in this position. They’ve put you in danger through negligence.

    Please consider making a formal complaint if it won’t endanger your accommodation, or reach out to some independent advocates and tell them everything. Also please talk to somewhere like Berry St or Orange Door.

    I’m wondering whether taking out an ivo will create enough political pressure for them to move you. (And be worth the potential risk of aggravating this kid further.) Though you generally need a name and address to serve it which may require cooperation from the organisation - and these jokers seem to be the type to suddenly remember “privacy” now that it suits them to. (They will likely go into arse covering mode.)

    In your situation it would be called a Personal Safety Order. You are allowed to apply for one by yourself (not sure if your age affects that) or police may agree to apply for one on your behalf. You can apply online and court by WebEx is available sometimes, but if it’s in person there will be court volunteers to support you.

    It may be harder to get one as it isn’t a family member or ex/partner but having it puts you in a stronger position to have something done if he comes back. If you wrote down what happened plus the dates, this is where that comes in handy.

    Also please document that the lock was broken while you were away - even just a quick dated note, write that it happened in this date range so you remember. And preferably mention it in an email to the organisation for a paper trail that possibly prevents the damage being blamed on you or repairs billed to you. (Arse covering mode often involves blaming the victim for anything they can plus refusing to take responsibility or help.)

    Potentially report the burglary attempt and property damage to the police - even if you ring the cops and agree to do the report via email. Send photos of anything you can - reporting the property damage may mean that you won’t get charged for repairs or held responsible and have them try to kick you out.

    Ps. I’m sorry if this stresses you out worse. It’s just coming from someone who has dealt with many ferals.

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      6 months ago

      Thanks Melba. I’m not sure I’ll go for an IVO, I’m not sure I’d even be able to since he hasn’t actually threatened me directly, he’s just made threatening comments about me to other people. If he comes back though, then I definitely will

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        Stay safe dude. It’s a pain in the butt but I suggest jot down anything that happens along with the date. (Even if it’s only a few words or one line.)

        Also it might be good to set up a camera in any way that works for you.

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          I’ve actually been pushing to have a camera or maybe one of those little ringy bells installed, but the old LT was against it. Since it’s just me though, I think I will setup an old phone in a position that’ll capture the front door at least with one of those ipfs camera app thingies.

          The old LTs room sits right at the front of the house and has a view of the driveway and the front entrance, my room is in the front but sort of to the side (so I have a general view of the front porch and kind of the front door). But that’s also why I’m a little nervous, if anybody was going to break my window, they wouldn’t need to jump a fence first or anything, they could just walk up the driveway

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            I’m sorry you’re in this situation. Definitely set up the old phone camera and keep yours handy

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              Unfortunately I can’t because the best vantage point and my spare phone are in the spare room, which the cops told me I should keep it locked and avoid going in there until they’ve come out, or officially decide not to. I did have another old phone in my drawer next to my bed, but I noticed today that it’s completely smashed and no longer turns on