They’ve got you going there, tolerating bro, and doing cooking labour in concern for her wellbeing. If she had reliable care from another source and you didn’t have to worry about her doing the chores in your absence you would have more of a choice to back out of the situation.
Your dad could deal with bro and bro could have fun doing the cooking for him
Ps. Sorry if that sounded judgy at all. And it’s not my business. I’m just saying that they’re kind of weaponising guilt and your natural care for your mum to keep you toeing the line. It’s a pretty nasty form of emotional blackmail in itself
Yea you’re spot on, it is absolutely emotional blackmail / unreasonable ultimatums. There’s no solution to this.
Their hold over you is your vulnerable mum.
They’ve got you going there, tolerating bro, and doing cooking labour in concern for her wellbeing. If she had reliable care from another source and you didn’t have to worry about her doing the chores in your absence you would have more of a choice to back out of the situation.
Your dad could deal with bro and bro could have fun doing the cooking for him
Ps. Sorry if that sounded judgy at all. And it’s not my business. I’m just saying that they’re kind of weaponising guilt and your natural care for your mum to keep you toeing the line. It’s a pretty nasty form of emotional blackmail in itself