but near everyone there hates me, even had people shun me or call me names. mil constantly disses and baits me with hate , and many are raging bigots/haters
but I kinda understand and like the b’day girl, she tries hard to be a good person ( tho she never contacts me , i never contact her )
don’t want to go, won’t go, but will send gifts because maybe one day they will learn to look at how people behave and learn to not listen to gossip
I would listen to your gut and protect your mental health if you need to. You deserve respect and not to be treated like that.
If the birthday girl is close to you then perhaps you and she could arrange a coffee? If not sending best wishes and a gift is fine in my book
Edit: But that’s just me. I’ve been worn down to a really low tolerance for toxic situations and would genuinely prefer to isolate than put myself through them
was kinda invited ( a plus 1 ) to fam b’day party
but near everyone there hates me, even had people shun me or call me names. mil constantly disses and baits me with hate , and many are raging bigots/haters
but I kinda understand and like the b’day girl, she tries hard to be a good person ( tho she never contacts me , i never contact her )
don’t want to go, won’t go, but will send gifts because maybe one day they will learn to look at how people behave and learn to not listen to gossip
I would listen to your gut and protect your mental health if you need to. You deserve respect and not to be treated like that.
If the birthday girl is close to you then perhaps you and she could arrange a coffee? If not sending best wishes and a gift is fine in my book
Edit: But that’s just me. I’ve been worn down to a really low tolerance for toxic situations and would genuinely prefer to isolate than put myself through them
I think I’ll listen to my gut
And we aren’t close.
Go. For the birthday girl. Take yourself and a niceish gift and leave when you’re done.