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    11 months ago

    I’m still upset my boss is leaving and I’m not sure why I’m having such a strong reaction :(

    • Duenan
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      I was upset when my boss left as well as we had worked closely together for a good number of years.

      I know I was angry at the time when some meetings took place and basically dismissed her and a few days later I cried when one of my co workers asked what was going on and I couldn’t help it.

      We’re you close to your boss or had a good working relationship? It’s not I dial if you formed some sort of bond over time.

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        We have a great working relationship, and we’ve been working together for hardly half a year now. I think I’m not angry, as I think I know why she’s leaving, and good for her if that’s the case, but I’m so disappointed that two of my *closest *colleagues are leaving/left :(

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      I was upset when my old boss finished up. I mean I knew it was coming and it wasn’t like we worked together day in day out. In fact I rotated back and forth between teams. For me it was comfort of having someone there that I trusted.

      Edit: Ah, my bad. I just read yesterday’s reply. Being blindsided can take a while to get over.

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        It literally came out of nowhere! Mine’s a small team, first a senior left, and she got replaced with another one and now my boss is going. I think I miss the senior in my team as she really used to look after and help me (given i’m new to the industry. she took me under her wings) but her replacement isn’t the same as her, which is ok but this sucks…

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          Oh, I totally get it. My respect/affection for my boss is because they were just someone who seemed to have me pegged from the get go and without my even noticing, just let me work where I was strongest. To be trusted in certain scenarios is something I value, but I guess I never realised how deeply it mattered and how much it matters to be seen without it needing to be verbalised.

          I think it’s an approach a lot more places could/should adopt. Cannot tell you how much I loathe, loathe, loathe reviews. They can get in a bin. I think employees would do so much better if they’re told on the spot things that need to change, be addressed or fixed instead.

          Such is life. I’m glad I was honest and let them know how I felt. I hope that it made them feel valued and maybe somewhat validated in the end. They’re onto bigger pastures, but I still miss them.

          • fullkitwanker
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            Oh, I totally get it. My respect/affection for my boss is because they were just someone who seemed to have me pegged from the get go and without my even noticing, just let me work where I was strongest. To be trusted in certain scenarios is something I value, but I guess I never realised how deeply it mattered and how much it matters to be seen without it needing to be verbalised.

            Yes! Same! Even though I’m fresh out of uni, she has respect for me and my work and gives me a lot of time and space to do my thing. And she’s genuinely just a very good person as well.