Aaarrggghhh, one of the big issues. And there ain’t no easy answer. And sooner or later we all end up in this situation.
Step 1 - be aware of what you’ve done. Tick.
Step 2 - apologise to all that have been impacted by your actions. Identify the harms done and who to. This bit can be brutal to one’s self-esteem.
Step 3 - rectify the problem where possible. Fix what’s broken.
Step 4 - atone - this can get problematical. As atonement may mean a permanent change in behaviour/attitude etc.
Step 5 - forgiveness. This is the really hard one. But if Steps 2, 3 and 4 above have been done in full, on time and within budget, then possible. Particularly of self. Forgiveness from other people is usually easier to obtain.
Step 6 - Ongoing awareness of triggers that may lead to a relapse. Also, you only get a limited number of Steps 1-6 before you get written off as incurable and/or irredeemable, so it’s worth plugging the triggers into your ongoing awareness.
Optional Step 7 - was it your problem or were you lured into it by another for their own personal reasons? Only ask this after you’ve run out of repeat scripts.
All the above is provided on a 'for what it’s worth" basis.
Aaarrggghhh, one of the big issues. And there ain’t no easy answer. And sooner or later we all end up in this situation.
Step 1 - be aware of what you’ve done. Tick.
Step 2 - apologise to all that have been impacted by your actions. Identify the harms done and who to. This bit can be brutal to one’s self-esteem. Step 3 - rectify the problem where possible. Fix what’s broken.
Step 4 - atone - this can get problematical. As atonement may mean a permanent change in behaviour/attitude etc.
Step 5 - forgiveness. This is the really hard one. But if Steps 2, 3 and 4 above have been done in full, on time and within budget, then possible. Particularly of self. Forgiveness from other people is usually easier to obtain. Step 6 - Ongoing awareness of triggers that may lead to a relapse. Also, you only get a limited number of Steps 1-6 before you get written off as incurable and/or irredeemable, so it’s worth plugging the triggers into your ongoing awareness.
Optional Step 7 - was it your problem or were you lured into it by another for their own personal reasons? Only ask this after you’ve run out of repeat scripts.
All the above is provided on a 'for what it’s worth" basis.