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  • StudSpud The Starchy
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    1 year ago

    I just don’t see the point; after a certain amount of time together a couple is considered de facto, and they have pretty much the same rights (iirc, correct me lol) as a married couple. I’m not religious (apathetic agnostic), our families don’t care, we dont and wont have kids… and it costs so damn much to get married, and more to get divorced.

    There are so few benefits (imo, for me personally) that I see no point. My partner knows I love him, I know he loves me, we don’t need a piece of paper to prove it lol.

    • Catfish@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      The bit of paper can be useful in medical or legal emergencies. It gives you an automatic overrule over other persons if they disagree with your choices. De facto isn’t a thing everywhere, and arguing it can take time that might matter. That being said, I still need to find my Recognised Relationship form and file the thing. Just incase I’m incapacitated and some moron thinks my “mother” gets a say in anything

      • landsharkkidd
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        1 year ago

        This is exactly why I want to get married. I mean like I have feelings around marriage due to my parents divorce (as well as my mum’s divorce with my ex-stepdad), and while de facto is great it doesn’t take into account medical or legal things, as well as de facto only means couples who are living together. My partner and I have been together for almost 10 years and we haven’t lived together yet, so because of that we’re not considered de facto. Thus, when it comes to medical stuff, my mum and dad has say over things related to me, and my partner’s mum has say over things related to them. It just feels like such a slap in the face.