So, I’m pretty sure you’re talking about me. I don’t want that exchange to make you feel I dismissed you or your feelings in any way. I was not telling you not to stand up for yourself. I was saying that we don’t really want people telling others to “fuck off and die”. I also said that depending on context, I’d have probably sided with you even in that example, because we absolutely don’t want any sort of bigotry or disrespect finding a home here, either. My response had nothing to do with my gender - nor yours for that matter.
I stand my what I said there, too: If anyone is being a jerk to you - hit that “report” button. You are valued and wanted here, and anyone being transphobic is not. It is as simple as that.
Thanks Nath, look it’s not perfect here, but its so much better than everywhere else and I’m glad you took the time to write a measured response. I still don’t want to have to report things which moderation can pick up, but I will. What we want we don’t always get.
I stand by my feminist rant though. Seriously, men treat me awfully. Always fucking have, it’s not just post transition and I’ve always been a feminist. I know men don’t like hearing it because a lot of them are very good exceptions to the rule. But while we face misogyny almost every day, one whiff of misandry and I’m questioned about it, by a man. Women just groan usually.
So, I’m pretty sure you’re talking about me. I don’t want that exchange to make you feel I dismissed you or your feelings in any way. I was not telling you not to stand up for yourself. I was saying that we don’t really want people telling others to “fuck off and die”. I also said that depending on context, I’d have probably sided with you even in that example, because we absolutely don’t want any sort of bigotry or disrespect finding a home here, either. My response had nothing to do with my gender - nor yours for that matter.
I stand my what I said there, too: If anyone is being a jerk to you - hit that “report” button. You are valued and wanted here, and anyone being transphobic is not. It is as simple as that.
Thanks Nath, look it’s not perfect here, but its so much better than everywhere else and I’m glad you took the time to write a measured response. I still don’t want to have to report things which moderation can pick up, but I will. What we want we don’t always get.
I stand by my feminist rant though. Seriously, men treat me awfully. Always fucking have, it’s not just post transition and I’ve always been a feminist. I know men don’t like hearing it because a lot of them are very good exceptions to the rule. But while we face misogyny almost every day, one whiff of misandry and I’m questioned about it, by a man. Women just groan usually.
Ha! That was an invitation to hit the report button. Not an instuction/command. You can and should feel free to call people out also if you prefer.
Thanks again, I truly appreciate your patience and kindness. !