If he does it needs to be done of his own free will and when he’s ready. Sometimes when you’re having a rough time or undergoing a lot of change you need to withdraw and save your energy for yourself.
Also sometimes well meaning people might not quite grok your reactions or situation, or you might feel that you’re burdening them.
However he is not a burden, his social skills are fine and he’s welcome back any time. (Seeing the self deprecation in his last post/s hurt)
He didn’t deserve any of that shit. And while I don’t believe myself to be a good influence or particularly perceptive I wish Lemmy in general could have helped him somewhat
I missed what happened. All I saw was that Baku has left and felt kind of sad at the gist of it, since not long ago I mentioned I enjoyed Baku’s posts.
It’s a funny thing. Reminds me of when I did a short stint at a community centre that had hydro and the morning regulars would notice if someone hadn’t been for a while and someone else would always have some idea of how they’re doing and if they were okay.
I really do like our community here. While I sort of come in and out, or lurk more when I think I don’t have much to say or am busy, it’s a part of my life. Even if it’s online. I refer to the DDT IRL, almost in the same way as regulars in the community. Not so much by specifics, but more, like oh yes, a few people mentioned they’ve been unwell or, someone had this experience, etc.
I guess since @[email protected]’s recent absence, it’s just made me hope Baku is doing okay IRL. (I also don’t mean to imply any pressure to return. I’ve been in enough online communities to see people come and go, that’s absolutely their right, but for those that contribute regularly, you notice when they’re gone.)
If he does it needs to be done of his own free will and when he’s ready. Sometimes when you’re having a rough time or undergoing a lot of change you need to withdraw and save your energy for yourself.
Also sometimes well meaning people might not quite grok your reactions or situation, or you might feel that you’re burdening them.
However he is not a burden, his social skills are fine and he’s welcome back any time. (Seeing the self deprecation in his last post/s hurt)
he’s the bravest smartest and kindest young man I know
my one wish is that he have a mentor, doesn’t matter how brave or smart a young person is they still need to be guided and taught about the world
Agreed
He didn’t deserve any of that shit. And while I don’t believe myself to be a good influence or particularly perceptive I wish Lemmy in general could have helped him somewhat
I missed what happened. All I saw was that Baku has left and felt kind of sad at the gist of it, since not long ago I mentioned I enjoyed Baku’s posts.
It’s a funny thing. Reminds me of when I did a short stint at a community centre that had hydro and the morning regulars would notice if someone hadn’t been for a while and someone else would always have some idea of how they’re doing and if they were okay.
I really do like our community here. While I sort of come in and out, or lurk more when I think I don’t have much to say or am busy, it’s a part of my life. Even if it’s online. I refer to the DDT IRL, almost in the same way as regulars in the community. Not so much by specifics, but more, like oh yes, a few people mentioned they’ve been unwell or, someone had this experience, etc.
I guess since @[email protected]’s recent absence, it’s just made me hope Baku is doing okay IRL. (I also don’t mean to imply any pressure to return. I’ve been in enough online communities to see people come and go, that’s absolutely their right, but for those that contribute regularly, you notice when they’re gone.)
Yeah that’s totally cool. I was just explaining that he was going through something and also semi vaguing that I completely understood