I honestly don’t fit in all that well in the queer or trans communities either. But at least I know I’ll be safe as long as it’s not in a bar full of gay men. Being neurodiverse trans and lesbian is a bit niche. Gotta pick the right places. I have found some. Bars are off limits anyway for the time being. Going to look into the local straight edge scene if I can.

Thanks for your kind words. I know there’s plenty of somewhat “normal” people who don’t give a shit about heritage or cultural differences. I can count on one hand the people who gushed with offers of support when I came out as trans who have kept in touch. Most of my friends just treat me exactly as they always did though which is much better than pretending to want to know every facet of transition.

Edit: I should that add that I accept things aren’t perfect and everyone faces the same problems regardless of whether they were born with things they can be marginalised for or not.