My rescue pooch is sadly approaching end of life, as best I can tell. So, I’ll be going through this process again some day in the not to distant future.
I’m not in New York, but I will say that when I was last looking to adopt, there were aspects of it that were definitely off putting and demoralizing. Some of the rescues had ridiculous requirements that made me wonder if they were actually trying to place their dogs in a home. One of the most egregious that I semi-recall: It was a breed-specific rescue (ex: Norwich terrier), but most of the dogs they were trying to adopt out were mixes. They required you to have owned that breed of dog before. You had to be in a long term relationship (i.e. no single people). You had to agree to let them make a home inspection every 6 months. They had to be added to the list of approved contacts at the pet’s vet. They could take the dog back at any time and for any reason. Etc.
What. Why?
I get being careful but why to this extreme?
For all the people that are equating polyamory and ENM in this thread: they are related but are not the same. Swinging, for example, is also ENM. Lots of things are. Here’s a chart and pretty much the only thing here that’s not ENM is cheating.
Weird how this chart perfectly overlaps with the poly one
Not quite sure what you mean. There’s a poly section in it, so it would have to do a weird fractal recursion to overlap itself…
I think I need a chart to explain the chart.
Just read all the notes around it and you’ll kinda get it.
The point is that there’s a lot of overlap in what’s what.
I also found the cavity search required for adoption to be a little off-putting
Gotta make sure you’re not smuggling puppies into their precious shelter.
I’d have to ask them to explain the question. “Ethically non-monogamous”? What the hell does that mean?
It’s redundant within the sex positive community. Polyamory presumes you’re communicating with your partners to the degree they want information and respecting established boundaries.
This is not to say there aren’t relationship troubles or missteps in a complex polyamorous relationship, but that these are aired and resolved.
Adultery issues are not about illicit sexual contact, but deception.
It means they just shot your dog
I thought that the police did that in the US.
Dammit
Having multiple partners but everyone involved knows and is okay with it. I’ve more often heard it as “ethical polyamory.”
Polyamory and ENM are two different things. Polyamory is a part of ENM but ENM is not polyamory. It’s rectangles and squares stuff.
You can be ENM without any polyamory.
Last time I checked, that’s just called polyamory. The thing where they don’t know is called cheating. We don’t need a qualifier pushing a conservative narrative of what love is.
Poly means relationships, enm is just sex.
Isn’t “open relationship/marriage” a term for that?
Yes, and also polyamory.
People like their little labels and they like having the one that makes them feel the specialist.
Hey bro, I went to school for years to become the specialist.
not to be confused with “ethical polearmory” which is when u fight people with polearms thst have little soft baggies at the ends, sono one gets hurt :3
I assure you, a non-pointy stick can still hurt.
Unless you’re talking about those giant foam q-tip things; Ive always wanted to try one of those!
Yeah it’s really hard to design any polearm more complex than a spear to be safe for sparring with. And even those spears are nowhere near as safe as swords like rapiers or sabres. Or even longswords.
I’ve sparred with large poles with bits of pool noodles stuck to the end to simulate spear tips. It’s very fun and fairly safe (as long as you’re extra careful with any butt strikes). But it doesn’t feel anywhere near as realistic as the rapier sparring we do.
I’ve sparred with Poles before, but Germans are more engaging.
I don’t know I’ve ever heard someone say “ethical polyamory”. Not sure if that’s a regional thing, but for folks learning, I’ve usually heard just polyamorous or poly.
Omg, but what if they weren’t ethical?
Much appreciated. Thank you!
