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    I’d have to ask them to explain the question. “Ethically non-monogamous”? What the hell does that mean?

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      Having multiple partners but everyone involved knows and is okay with it. I’ve more often heard it as “ethical polyamory.”

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        Polyamory and ENM are two different things. Polyamory is a part of ENM but ENM is not polyamory. It’s rectangles and squares stuff.

        You can be ENM without any polyamory.

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            Ethical non-monogamy is any form of non-monogamy that everyone involved is okay with and consents to.

            Examples:

            • polyamory
            • Open relationship
            • Swinging
            • being/having a unicorn/bull

            Etc etc…

            Polyamory is just one aspect of a much larger category.

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        Last time I checked, that’s just called polyamory. The thing where they don’t know is called cheating. We don’t need a qualifier pushing a conservative narrative of what love is.

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        not to be confused with “ethical polearmory” which is when u fight people with polearms thst have little soft baggies at the ends, sono one gets hurt :3

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          I assure you, a non-pointy stick can still hurt.

          Unless you’re talking about those giant foam q-tip things; Ive always wanted to try one of those!

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            Yeah it’s really hard to design any polearm more complex than a spear to be safe for sparring with. And even those spears are nowhere near as safe as swords like rapiers or sabres. Or even longswords.

            I’ve sparred with large poles with bits of pool noodles stuck to the end to simulate spear tips. It’s very fun and fairly safe (as long as you’re extra careful with any butt strikes). But it doesn’t feel anywhere near as realistic as the rapier sparring we do.

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        I don’t know I’ve ever heard someone say “ethical polyamory”. Not sure if that’s a regional thing, but for folks learning, I’ve usually heard just polyamorous or poly.

    • It’s redundant within the sex positive community. Polyamory presumes you’re communicating with your partners to the degree they want information and respecting established boundaries.

      This is not to say there aren’t relationship troubles or missteps in a complex polyamorous relationship, but that these are aired and resolved.

      Adultery issues are not about illicit sexual contact, but deception.