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      • Kuori [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        31·
        1 year ago

        same tbh, plus i find i trip over acronyms a lot and it gives Certain Assholes the feeling that they can use that as a vector for attack (“it’s so complicated even they can’t keep track!” etc)

        supposedly “gay people shit talk” all of this.

        worth mentioning scumfuck up there only added that bit after getting criticized for their bigotry. homophobes are all magically harvey milk’s favorite nephew the instant someone calls them out.

      • DADDYCHILL [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        21·
        1 year ago

        disagree, queer is not all encompassing. if you dont identify as queer but you still want to identify with the community the acronym is still the best descriptor. as for the order, i do support updating it by putting trans first and pushing bisexuals down the list in favor of pansexuals.

          • DADDYCHILL [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
            1·
            1 year ago

            im not trying to do a bi erasure, bi people are valid. im just saying as someone who was bi sexual who later became pan sexual after learning about the term i just think changing some of the letters around would be good ways to raise awareness about different genders and sexualities in the acronym. so many people know what lgbt is but they dont really know the plus part. the first four are really important to the broader conception of gender and sexual identity as a whole. look if we can change the flag i dont think the acronym is sacrosanct either, i do however think we need an acronym.

            i think lesbian, gay, and bisexual should be lower on the acronym. i think trans people should be first since they are receiving most of the targeting and attacks out of any group in the community right now, i think pansexuals, asexuals, and nonbinaries could really benefit from a representation bump. TPAN, rolls off the tongue. we can keep lgbt too. nobody got rid of the pride flag after the progress flag. both can exist at the same time. i just think its a representation issue.

        • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          23·
          1 year ago

          Why would you change the order? It implies some level of arbitary importance to certain unique struggles over others which I don’t think is healthy while we all share the same acronym.

          Also L should stay at the front because that relates more to gay history and the allyship shown by women during the AIDS epidemic to provide blood to sufferers and L comes first to honor that.

        • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          21·
          1 year ago

          I don’t follow - my understanding of the term is that it encompasses everyone who fits under the umbrella. if you’re not under the umbrella, the acronym isn’t going to fit either, no? can you give me an example of who you mean?

          • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
            12·
            1 year ago

            I’ve seen/heard of people specifically disavowed the term “queer” for their personal identity, but only a couple times and I, like others here, much prefer “queer” as a catchall term for brevity in all cases where there isn’t someone objecting to it being applied to them.

            • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              12·
              1 year ago

              yeah, I’d be curious to learn why. like I’m all for a different umbrella term but it’s hard to pick one without understanding the complaint.

              • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                10·
                1 year ago

                I’m guilty of using queer without considering who I’m talking to.

                When I talk to boomer gays and use queer as a catchall term I’ve seen visible recoil.

                To them queer was a slur similar to foxtrot-Oscar-gay-gay-oscar-triceratops (I can’t remember the phonetic alphabet) and was used to oppress and attack them at least in the UK.

                And like yeaaah, it was even when I was in school up until like 2010s so its not as reclaimed with the older generation as we’d like to hope because of lived experience from what I’ve seen which is fair.

                So as a result I don’t use it around older gay men and use the acronym since queer genuinely seems to bring back a lot of the 80s gay panic trauma for them I guess.

                I’d liken it to when a cis friend called me triceratops-rain-alpha-november-november-yacht as a in-joke he assumed i knew since he knows a fair few trans people who are reclaiming that term on twitter but for me that word is full of trauma and I was like “nope, I’m not in that community please don’t ever say that again”.

                I called him a chaser cos he has a trans gf and said it was reclaimed by friends of mine with trans gfs and he got the message why you can’t assume reclaimed words have the same gravity with each individual.

                I guess I see queer in a similar vein, I guess the difference is the time since it was reclaimed is the big difference.

                I don’t think we need a new umbrella term but I think it’s important for us to remember others experiences with reclaimed words before we assume them to be gospel (despite most gay publications I’ve seen using it fine).

                I dunno, I’m trying to be mature and empathic 😭😭😭

                • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                  8·
                  1 year ago

                  yep totally fair. I mostly interact with younger trans people - a lot of the boomers are just straight up dead here because of how the government handled AIDS. so there isn’t the same kind of memory. like 40 is unfortunately the oldest I’ve met. it’s rage inducing to think about - I transitioned with literally zero wise elders around to provide guidance.

                  • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    7·
                    1 year ago

                    I transitioned with literally zero wise elders around to provide guidance.

                    Mood

                    I have however had enough moments of speaking to older gays in our cities gay town and was asked to be aware of the history of that term and it deffo made me go “ah m’bad”.

                  • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    5·
                    1 year ago

                    That’s really interesting, I guess my perspective is shaped by my material conditions niko-dunk

                    Lmao but genuinely that’s really interesting. Admittedly this thread is the first time I’ve heard it’s not pecieved in the same way which says to me I’ve fallen for a British (but positioning itself as the “International community”) position so it’s given me some things to think about as hearing its being weaponised by reactionaries makes me feel the ick now.

                  • Historical_General@lemm.ee
                    1·
                    1 year ago

                    assimilationists

                    I’m sure you’ll find them in the anglosphere too. I’ve seen a few threads of twitter. Possibly just Germans though, since they tend to have good English.

                  • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                    2·
                    1 year ago

                    Thank you for letting me know, I’d never have assumed that but I feel kinda gross now for thinking it was just a generational thing 😔