I’ve been looking for a job now for over a year and I just wish someone could honestly look me in the face and just tell me “No, I’d rather see you die”.

I’ve filled out well over 2000 job applications now. I’m overqualified for anything immediate but never considered for anything in my field (SQA). This is the third career of mine thats been totally out sourced and I’m just so fucking tired of it all.

Finally had a promising lead but it was just another 0 feedback interview to tally up their interviewed candidates to make the minimum “effort” to shoe in someones friend. Nobody even read my resume and the interview was 10 minutes long. I hate that I know all of these tactics at this point and I especially hate being a pawn in that game.

I wish someone would honestly and truthfully just tell me they would rather see me die than help me find the means to support myself. Every “well keep you on file” is a goodbye.

I’m so fucking tired. Every opinion and suggestion is such bullshit: “do something else” without ever defining what else means, “work on your resume” while looking at your 28th revision, “Something will come” which never happens, or my favorite one “why don’t you work on getting your degree or certification [with your non existent money]?”

Nobody I’ve worked with and none of my friends have referred me anywhere in this year+, just strangers on LinkedIn with kind ears ultimately bound to the same systems that want me to die.

The only thing keeping me here is cooking for my family and being there for my wife but when everyone goes to school and work I truly understand why Garfield hates Mondays.

  • Zachariah@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 months ago

    I was unemployed and job hunting for 1½ years. The application and interview process is ridiculously demoralizing.

    My main conclusion I came to is that hardly anyone is skilled at hiring. It’s like a an afterthought and distraction from their primary competencies at work. They don’t know what to ask for, how to ask for it, or how to know if they’re getting what they asked for. I understand how it feels, but don’t let their incompetence get you down if you can help it.

    In the end, I think the two biggest factors in getting hired is who you know that can give you an in, and just plain luck you’ll connect with someone who perceives you as an asset. There is almost nothing you can do about either of these. The rest of what you can do might boost your prospects a bit, but not much. But you’ve got to do them anyway.

  • fckreddit@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Hi, I know what you are going through. I wish I knew how to deal with it or any advice related to it.

    What honestly sucks is that we are candidates to them, not human beings. They don’t have any sympathy/ kindness towards us. I too wish things were different, at least getting some kind of feedback would improve things drastically. Without feedback, rejection feels arbitrary, especially when most employers portray themselves to be merit-driven.

    This entire system sucks. It makes us feel useless and impotent to do anything. Is it any wonder that we want to die? I was in ER last month for this. It’s not like I am dead or things are any different.

    • DudemanJenkins@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      3 months ago

      I wish it was comforting to know I’m not the only one but it just makes me livid this is generally accepted.

      • fckreddit@lemmy.mlEnglish
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        3 months ago

        Whether accepted or not, that happens to be the reality we live in. I wish I had any power to change things. But, I don’t. I don’t have the capital to start up a business of my own to change things. I am currently working on a contractual basis, so power there. I want to run away from this world so badly, but I am incapable to doing that too.

  • maniii@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Try everything. It is never too late. Even 5 years job-hunting is fine. What is important is to keep trying. If eventually you do decide to start your own business, it will be the same rules.

    Keep one foot in front of the other. Keep walking. Keep trying.

      • maniii@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        3 months ago

        Try something. Anything. Don’t stop moving. Don’t stop breathing. No one can give you advise based on your situation. You are the one in control. Don’t stay still. Don’t give up.

        • DudemanJenkins@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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          3 months ago

          Nobody is in control of their destiny if someone else decides their fate. Eventually, the weary are told to or put to rest: I’m simply tired and wish not to march any further to the drum of the madness that is life.

  • thezeesystem@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Absolutely the same. I am disabled with accessibility needs and government says I’m not disabled enough and jobs don’t hire me because of my accessibility needs. Although they don’t respond ever regardless of anything. I call it the hidden eugenic programs of America. Because to me that’s pretty much what it is.

    Been trying sense 2013.