That’s all fine and dandy until they misbehave and you can’t follow through by sending them to school on the weekend.
This kid will start pushing this boundary in like 3 weeks (like every kid pushes every damn boundary all the time) and then OP will have a problem on their hands, when the kid decides that OP is toothless.
Sure, it’s called Boarding School.
You could try to make up some other shit to cover for it, how school told them that the kid needs to do chores at home for those two days or something. With their system it’d make sense to have a plan for this situation.
Or you just enjoy it while it lasts and drop it when it fails
At some point the kid will talk to other kids and find out they don’t attend school on weekends either. Unless they hate school that much that they don’t socialize with other kids which would be worrying as well
Then it’s time to gaslight the kid
“The other kids are lying to you”
This will help for a healthy development
I’d also tell the kid they’re imagining it
I totally could send them to school on the weekend.
Saturday is when the schools around here typically have detention. I’ll just email the school and have the kid go to detention. Then on Sunday: Sunday school at a church.
This is what the passive income 1% crowd tell the rest of us.
Sure, I fantasize about doing this sort of shit with my kid sometimes too.
But you don’t do it.
What, are you saying that gaslighting your young child to do stuff they hate is harmful?
I can’t speak for other kids, but being honest with mine seems to work pretty well. “Why do I have to put away the dishes?” “Because if you don’t, we won’t be able to wash the dirty ones and then we’ll get roaches. Do you want roaches? No. So put away the dishes.”
Yeah, that’s the tack I’m taking with mine. No sense in lying because it’s not good for your relationship, and I can’t be bothered to keep track of a bunch of lies.
I didn’t even like doing Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, but my wife insisted. I’m glad that era is over.
Feel you. I got accused by my brother in law of being some kind of psychopath for not wanting Santa in the house.
In their house, my sister is already using the threat of Christmas big brother against any minor hijinks that their kid gets up to.
I have a three year old, so unfortunately, I have another 4 years of this nonsense ahead of me.
In their house, my sister is already using the threat of Christmas big brother against any minor hijinks that their kid gets up to.
Oof, that seems a bit much to me. Does she tell stories about the bogeymen or Baba Yaga, too? I’d rather my child be concerned with the actual consequences for their actions rather than the imagined ones
There’s some research that says Santa, the Easter bunny, etc. are good for teaching kids skepticism. Plus it’s fun. I’ll often move their stuffed animals so it looks like they were doing something when the kids are asleep so they can get a little bit of magic
But, threatening with Santa is actually bad parenting because #1 it’s a bit traumatic of a threat but #2 they’ll figure out damn fast that you’re bluffing. Never threaten a punishment you aren’t prepared to dish out (and never dish out a punishment you wouldn’t feel comfortable explaining to the kid as an adult)
Do you have to be in every single thread picking fights with people over the dumbest shit?
You think I’m picking a fight with @Passerby6497? By saying that I agree with what they’re doing?
But you would still be able to wash the dirty ones. This is just a lighter lie (which imo is totally fine).
Where would I put the dirty dishes so I could wash them if the sink is already full?
How about somewhere else for the moment?? LOL
You must have a large kitchen.
Not at all, but I’m also not stumped by having the sink full so much that I’m literally not capable of washing the dishes lmao. A kid might believe that since kids are fucking idiots but not an adult, surely
I’m not sure if the term “gaslighting” fits here. This just seems like run of the mill lying and manipulating.
Victims of gaslighting are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, often about themselves. They may end up doubting their memory, their perception, and even their sanity.
Gaslighting would seem like it’d be more that if they knew weekends were a thing befohand then you’d lie that they imagined it all (and that they might even be crazy for having thought that).
its called a white lie. You tell kids them all the time
Sure… If you want to seriously undermine any trust you’ve built up with your kid when they’re older.
Tell kids the truth when they’re older, but you cant reason with a young kid about everything.
…and then they’ll never trust you fully again. Ever.
This is the most shortsighted shit I’ve seen in a long time.
Young kids are extremely receptive to self-fullfilling prophecies, and very flexible. If they hate school, it’s better to find out why and try to see if you can get them to like school. You can kinda trick them by trying to associate school with fun, talk about how much you enjoyed school as a kid, and try to get them to talk about things they did that they liked at school. Or the flip side is maybe you’ll learn that there’s something serious you need to help handle as a parent
That’s not a white lie. It’s just a lie.
How to be a shitty parent 101 and Wonder why your kid completely cuts you out of there life ASAP.
Bro if it gets the kid to go to school why would they care when they grow up
This works until a Friday when the teacher says “see you on Monday” to the kids
“even the teacher knows I was a good boy”
Or on a Monday where the kid asks another student what the teacher said yesterday.
Yeah let’s start teaching them lies straight away
Not like they wouldn’t learn anyways. Learning to lie is an important part in development.
Teaching them that lying is totally cool, even about seemingly important things (to the child, anyways) will only teach them wrong lessons about lying.
Not if you’re a Vulcan!
No Santa for your kids, I suppose
Ideally not
santa is haram. Only jesus is allowed.
I’m not planning to teach my kid to believe in fairy tales.
doing this is going to make your children hate you when they grow up, have fun with that. you deserve it for being a shit parent
I genuinely think shit like this is what promotes antisocial behavior in children. As in clinically antisocial, not just a synonym for introverted.
Children learn hundreds of new words and new things every week. That’s their entire purpose in life at that age.
Deliberately lying to them about how basic reality works for extended periods of time is likely what causes the neural short circuits of religion and conservatism.
Naw, religion and conservatism are just the easy answers people arrive at when they fail to resolve all of the dissonance on their own with a child’s brain.
The reason people hold those views in to adulthood is quite simply because they are still mentally children. They are underdeveloped losers that society has not yet decided are a problem quite literally on the same level as other developmental issues.
Yeah. I honestly think it’s also a fuckup to treat children totally differently from adults. Probably around age 7 they start noticing it and a lot of people resent that treatment.
Thats how kids are supposed to be treated. They’re not adults
Yes, you’re the one who needed this comment. Your kids know you’re condescending to them and it’s only a matter of time before they act out because of the damage this is doing to them
So, what’s the difference? Adults spend 8 hours someplace they don’t want to be for the betterment of their future, meanwhile kids spend 8 hours someplace they don’t want to be for the betterment of the future…
Both eat, drink, sleep, feel, have relationships and responsibilities.
The main difference is one cannot call your bullshit till it grows older and trust me, if you lie, bend the truth and basically abuse your kid, it will bring consequences.
For me it’s absolute lack of faith into anything anyone says, no matter how close to me they are. For some it’s closing their minds and ignoring the problem. For others, it may lead to fighting against liars - their parents.
So yeah, please commit to keeping that opinion buried somewhere where it cannot create pain for others.
Underestimating your own children never ends well.
They’ll regret that.
Ten years later:
“My teenager has massive trust issues and won’t believe anything I say.”
surprised Pikachu face
That’s going to backfire one day.
RIP child’s trust.
wow, even a 4 year old knows that schools are bullshit.
Yup. Education is not their goal. It’s crime prevention.
You can get your ass beat in school the other guy gets detention. Its a prison.
Education is crime prevention. What a lot of schools are doing is teaching you how to be a good obedient slave that runs to class at the sound of a bell, never questions the teacher, & is silent and diligent in their work
You can get your ass beat in school the other guy gets detention.
The other guy goes home happy.
If you fight back, you get beaten by teachers, then your parents get called and harassed and then you are made to understand that you need to shut up and get beaten whenever someone feels like it.
I guess for some people the dumber you are the more impressed you are with your own ability to fool a child. Probably because that’s the last stage of their child’s life where they can still pretend to be smarter…
I think this is another case of a joke that people have taken seriously. There’s no chance this would work in reality. It just makes for a funny hypothetical.
Idk how to tell you but there are people in here that think this is a good idea. If it is all sarcasm then thank god, but i doubt it is, since they are arguing it.
Oof, this is definitely a:
Every lie incurs a debt to the truth
Sort of thing. It’s not going to be fun when your child understands that there is no school on weekends, you’ll lose a lot of trust overnight with this.
Every kid survived the Santa lie.
The difference is none of this kid’s peers will have a similar experience
when your child understands that there is no school on weekends
“I did not lie to you, we just all as parents agreeded to make the same offering to our children”.
(it’s not even half lying; setting agreements as adults is what bulding a society is about)
Good, kids need to stop believing every bullshit they hear. Critical thinking is in short supply these days.
There is always sunday school.
