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  • To clarify, I agree that Beehaw should defederate with instances full of racist bigoted trolls.

    However, it’s hard to argue that sh.itjust.works works is one of those instances from just this. This is one guy who likely slipped under the radar. I’m just saying that we should just wait a bit to see how the situation unfolds before grabbing pitchforks.

    I’m just frustrated that not immediately jumping to an extreme response means I’m somehow complicit. And also somewhat frustrated that trying to distance myself from politics apparently means I’m acting privileged.

    I’m just tired of being angry all the time, at this point…


  • It affects me because I feel I need to keep up to date with which instances defederate with each other in order to follow communities. It feels like defederation is a cudgel that is thrown around a lot, and a lot of innocent people get hit in the crossfire.

    However, you are correct. A lot of my posts on Lemmy have, to be honest, been my attempts to fix something which can’t be fixed. It’s super not a healthy thing to be doing, honestly. I really should take a break from Lemmy, it’s done nothing but cause me stress and tire me.

    Edit: Bit of context for those late, my original comment was just a ramble about how I’m fed up of drama, etc. Nothing really that groundbreaking, tbh.


  • Of course I’m worried about politics! I’m worried about the return of fascism across the west. I’m worried about deteriorating attitudes towards LGBT people. I’m worried about active attempts to eugenics neurodivergent people. I’m worried about the massive amount of influence megacorps have on people. The world is full of things to worry about. It makes people feel helpless.

    I can ramble for ages about how I do what I can. Maybe I can do more. Maybe I’m a bad person for not doing enough? Maybe I’m a coward for wanting to hide from it, I don’t know. Wanting to have a space to step away from worrying about these things is a copying mechanism I use, and I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing.







  • A lot of comments from people with social anxiety; as someone with social anxiety and aspergers, figured I may as well throw my thoughts into the ring.

    I’ve been through the “approval process” dance a few times now, both for Mastodon and Lemmy and honestly, I don’t really find it that bad. The secret is internalizing that mods have so many applications to get through, so they won’t really scrutinize your language or overanalyze it to too much. I know easier said than done, but really, the fact that you’re putting any amount of thought into it is probably more than most people.

    Honestly, I think approvals is a good system and should be the norm for social media sites; it slows down trolls/bots ability to make accounts, and IMO is better than all the alternatives. Email is problematic, capchas aren’t really accessible, and screw Instagram requiring you to take a photo of yourself when you sign up. One site I signed up for actually wanted you to ask another user to “vouch” for you as not a troll which means talking to scary strangers.

    I think there is a “cultural” miscommunication though. A lot of us are deeply ingrained in “fediverse culture” where this sort of thing is the norm, and so we intuitively understand that it should only be a sentence or two.

    However, if you look at where non-fediverse people have seen this type of requirement before? Job applications, university applications, that sort of thing. I think this is why people think that they need to write long, intricately detailed posts saying why they deserve to join what feels like an exclusive club.

    I think Beehaw could make it clearer that they are only looking for about three sentences demonstrating that you’ve read the documents (actually, do you need to fully read the documents? It’s a bit unclear), and that you aren’t being “graded”. Out of interest though, would “I just want to lurk and read posts” be acceptable as an answer to the third question?





  • While I hope Lemmy/Kbin takes off (heck, I’d love early internet forums to come back in style) and kicks off a second internet renaissance, the imminent collapse of Reddit legit is giving me anxiety. Hope y’all don’t mind if I vent a bit.

    Firstly, there are a lot of “niche” communities on Reddit, mostly dedicated to individual games and the like. The kind of thing where fanart, announcements and discussions happen. In the short term, I don’t see them surviving the collapse. And if they do, they’ll probably move to a not-great platform like Discord or whatever Facebook comes out with.

    Secondly, with SEO optimized AI generated garbage topping search results, Reddit has become an important reference when looking for reviews and opinions on things. As well as that, it has become somewhat of an archive of internet culture in a way. With subreddits moving to black out permanently and a push for users shredding their own data, there’s a very real chance that all of this content will be lost forever.



  • For the third and fourth points, I think the comparison to email is apt here. If you do a GDPR data request/removal service on your email provider, it’s unreasonable to expect that they chase down all the people you’ve sent emails to and ask them to delete them.

    As far as I know, Lemmy doesn’t send any data to other instances unless you explicitly request them to (by either subscribing to a community or sending a message/post).

    (Also, I am not a lawyer or expert in GDPR, so don’t take this as legal advice!)


  • Agreed, but I think the best way of doing that is to have an instance setting where NSFW subs/posts don’t appear in the “All” list or similar. So people can (if they so choose) subscribe to these sorts of things from other instances, but it doesn’t appear in public feeds.

    I think one thing Lemmy is lacking is “Limited” federation a la Mastodon, where you can designate some servers (or communities?) as “limited”, meaning that their messages don’t apear in public feeds.

    Of course, at the end of the day, instance admin makes the rules and if they don’t like anything (NSFW or otherwise) they can just ban federating with it.