Not really, but kind of. I was always interested in women and men, but realizing i was trans helped me understand what i was feeling towards women was jealousy not sexual attraction. Unfortunately being attracted to men as a transwoman is kind of a nasty catch22 as my hands were too big for the straight men and the gay men really just wanted a twink. (generalizing here, not all men, etc etc)
So I became mostly aromanic, satisfied with just like… flings with guys online. soft catfishing for quick e-sex, and then I met my girlfriend, who makes me feel like I’ve never loved anyone except her. And we lived happily ever after
I’m not sure if mine changed, but I gave off such strong queer vibes that everyone has assumed I was bi or gay since I started high school. I could tell that as well, but not in a cohesive way that I could label, so I just kinda settled on bi.
Anyway I realised I was trans and almost completely gay for women (plus I never had a particular genitals preference). So I guess people were right, just in the wrong direction!
We call that harassment/xenophobia where I’m from
Not to say that any of your identity is false, just calling out the behavior for what it was, on the surface, from an outsiders perspective
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I’m not saying people didn’t ever call me gay unkindly, but it wasn’t like that. People were more just surprised when I identified as straight, or when I didn’t show much interest in men.
Fair enough