• Num10ck@lemmy.world
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        6 months ago

        are these appointments that you chose for yourself that are accomplishing things for you?

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          6 months ago

          Not OP, but It doesn’t matter to me what they are. It can be a call to discuss weekend plans, it can be an errand I have to run, it can even be an agreement with an friend to play a multiplayer game at X time. Something like a dentist appointment is the worst though.

          I’m neurodivergent and not sure how much that matters to the phenomenon

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      6 months ago

      For me, stressfulness of the appointment has nothing to do with it. It’s just…a feeling that I have to wait for the appointment. Hard to explain.

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      I think it’s general anxiety. I get butterflies in my stomach when I do anything off my routine. Even if it’s just hanging with friends. What do I wear, how do I get there, will I know people, should I bring something?

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      It’s not about the appointment itself, but the fact that it’s set at all. Probably an ADHD thing, though I haven’t been formally diagnosed.

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        It’s also an autism thing, though there is some considerable overlap there so you could be forgiven for not knowing.

        Source: it’s me, I’m the autist

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          Yeah, I keep seeing autism and ADHD memes, and keep thinking “I do that all the time”. Should probably talk to someone about it who can give a proper diagnosis.

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        6 months ago

        I very much don’t have ADHD, but I also struggle with the “I have an appointment later, so all I can do today is wait for the appointment” thing.

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      In the US some medical providers charge the cost of the visit without insurance if you’re late or don’t show, so a $20-30 appointment can potentially turn into one that costs hundreds. That alone makes me anxious about appointments, because I don’t know off the top of my head if any of my providers do that because I’m neurotically on time, lol.

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        6 months ago

        you can ask them what their no show/cancellation fee/policy is, rather than fantasize about the potential wrath.