• dudinax@programming.dev
    462·
    11 months ago

    If she’d got him nothing, like he deserved, he’d have gone outside, played some football and been banging cheerleaders by the age of 16.

  • NounsAndWords@lemmy.world
    404·
    11 months ago

    I would be disappointed for different reasons if my crush hooked up with a random guy in a bathroom.

    • intensely_human@lemm.ee
      193·
      11 months ago

      One’s opportunities to be socialized do require parents understanding the important of playing with one’s friends. Like, it does help to be one of a four-guy team who plays competitive sports. It helps a hell of a lot for bonding.

      At the age of 11, one doesn’t control one’s own access to opportunity. OP’s mom did him dirty.

  • wellee@lemmy.world
    25·
    11 months ago

    What I don’t get it. Just hit those old friends up if you want to do what they are, worst they can say is no

  • tygerprints@kbin.social
    1825·
    11 months ago

    If being unable to play FIFA is the single biggest problem in your life - your life has pretty much zero problems. It’s not the mom’s decision to buy a computer that screwed you over, bud - it’s your attitude about life in general. Nobody owes you anything, you want a better life go out and earn it.

    • Xariphon@kbin.social
      4414·
      11 months ago

      I don’t think I’ve ever heard the words “nobody owes you anything” from somebody who was a good person. Or understood how a society works. Or cared about their impact on other people at all.

      • intensely_human@lemm.ee
        5·
        11 months ago

        The reason people say that is to make people feel better in the long term. They are considering the effect on feelings on a longer time scale than the seconds after the message is received.

        Like, here’s a scenario:

        • There are zombies outside
        • People inside don’t realize
        • I warn them about the zombies
        • They go from feeling content to feeling afraid
        • The fear leads them to pick up weapons
        • They fight off the zombies, and nobody gets bitten
        • There is far less grief and fear the next day than there otherwise would have been

        The pattern is simple:

        • Provide information
        • Receiving the information is painful now
        • Receiving the information allows avoidance of bigger pain later

        That’s the pattern at work when people say “The world doesn’t owe you anything”. They’re trying to help people drop the manner of a child or guest or person being taken care of, and adopt the manner of an adult, or host, or person doing the taking care of.

        The words mean “There is no rescue boat coming”. It’s designed to get people off their ass and working on a solution, instead of waiting for one from someone else.

      • cheesebag@lemmy.world
        61·
        11 months ago

        I would agree in the typical contexts of “no welfare for you, nobody owes you anything”, or “no food, education, or parental love for you kid, nobody owes you anything”.

        But we’re not talking about basic rights or the social contact. We’re talking about a fucking PlayStation & PC. No child is owed a fucking PS.

      • tygerprints@kbin.social
        46·
        11 months ago

        Until today, that is. Now you’ve heard those words from someone who is the best person on earth. So this is really a great day for you! Now clearly I did care about my impact on you, see? This has been a good day.