I decided I would be willing to date a non-vegan since despite the conveniences and shared ethics of other vegans, it can be hard to find them in general, and maybe I could influence people positively, though probably without any expectation for them to go vegan (but still hoping society will move toward it one day anyway).

But online questions asking people (non-vegans) if they would date a vegan really shocked and surprised me when most of the answers were no, mostly for reasons of inconvenience and a fear of being pulled into veganism. This leaves me feeling like finding other vegans may be my only option after all. Is this somewhat accurate?

  • syd@lemy.lolEnglish
    1119·
    11 months ago
    • Don’t advertise veganism to me
    • Don’t talk about it all time
    • Don’t suggest me to be a vegan
    • Don’t hate me coz I eat meat while you’re not

    So basically remember veganism is a diet and not a philosophy branch, we’re good to go 😄

    • Robustic@monyet.ccOPEnglish
      122·
      11 months ago

      I would respect my partner’s wishes and not do any of those things, but veganism is a philosophy and not limited to diet… I would be lying if I said it wasn’t… Is that in itself a problem? 🙂

      • whaleross@lemmy.worldEnglish
        8·
        11 months ago

        It is a problem in the relationship if it is a problem for you that they are not vegan.

        Get a partner that is good as they are, not a fixer upper with potential. Nobody likes it when somebody tries to change them.

        • Robustic@monyet.ccOPEnglish
          54·
          11 months ago

          I think it wouldn’t be a problem for me, unless it was a problem for them… that’s what I’m wondering

          • whaleross@lemmy.worldEnglish
            6·
            11 months ago

            As long you are ok with them putting meat in the fridge and buying non vegan clothes etc, it probably wouldn’t be a problem then. If they are reasonable people.

      • syd@lemy.lolEnglish
        21·
        11 months ago

        Maybe. I don’t know much about it, so I can’t make any judgements.

    • Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.worldEnglish
      112·
      11 months ago

      Veganism is a moral/ethical philosophy that impacts your diet, and the other goods and materials, you use. You cannot just eat no animal products and be vegan. It affects pretty much every aspect of your life in one way or another. Thinking about it as just a diet is a very common misunderstanding, it is in fact a way of life based on ethical principals.

    • Weirdfish@lemmy.worldEnglish
      51·
      11 months ago

      My brother’s wife is a vegetarian/ vegan, not sure which.

      And it literally never comes up.

      She even cooks a mean burger.

      Personally, I don’t think I’d have any issue dating a vegan, but I certainly have no interest being preached at.