• Sotuanduso@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      I’ve always associated that with being a city thing, because I’ve lived in cities and suburbs, and I’ve never been a woman.

      In cities, most people won’t even say “good morning” back, but in the suburbs, you can strike up a whole conversation with someone just because you’re walking in the same direction.

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        Yeah. Moved to a village a few years back, I had people marching straight up to my construction site and ask me where I was from and how I came to move and build a house here. And then offering me help sometimes when I could obviously use some kind of work equipment I didn’t have or how they would do this or that.

        It felt highly weird to me as a dude from the city, but by now I’m a volunteer firefighter here and sometimes, when me and the boys are returning from a middle of the night call and we’re sitting in the cabin of our truck and joking around I feel so at home like I’ve never felt before.

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        I agree. I live on the very rural Oregon Coast, and everyone here is overly friendly. It’s actually kind of exhausting at this point lol. Way different from when I lived in the city. I need to find a good middle ground.

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          1 year ago

          A good middleground between urban and rural is probably suburban. Or just wear visible headphones when you’re not in the mood, perhaps?

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            Suburban is a horrid mutant thing with none of the best of either rural or city.

            We would have been much better off if our cities were built to hold people like in Europe

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              This is such a weird take to me, because I’ve always seen suburban as the natural default. A lot of things are in 10-30 minute walking distance, and the houses aren’t stacked on top of each other.