• aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      This is why I have almost no friends left from my time at an all boys boarding high school. Just say the most deranged stuff about women, even now that they’re in their mid 20s. Didn’t grow out if it at all.

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        I had a similar experience in college: most of the people I roomed with and went to class with were self described “South Park Republicans” and most went on to tech jobs which only coddled and amplified their dudebro “nonpolitical” misogyny.

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          I met up with some of them recently and it was just sad. I know people don’t change that much and shouldn’t be expected to, but these guys said the exact same stuff they did when they were 16, almost a decade later. No personal growth in almost a decade. Just sad.

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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      That’s not a surprise that’s a cause

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      This is one of those things where I’d ask if you’ve brought it up with him, but holy shit I’m so tired of arguing with people all the time.

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      Yep this goes for most of anything. Ignorant people speak in absolutes. Even more so when they’re not self reflecting at all.

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      What has incorrectly been attributed to the individual genders, should have instead been attributed to humanity as a whole. Bitchyness isn’t a woman thing, it’s a human thing, same as- being a dick isn’t a man thing, it’s a human thing.

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        I have to assume this is a troll account because it’s like incel bingo.

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            That’s concerning. His observance of women is likely from the bushes outside their bedroom windows.

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                Reality.

                No, that’s solipsism. You’re ignoring everyone else in this thread, and in your offline life, in favor of your own self-pitying fantasies.

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                  I actively seek to have an IRL outlook on life, instead of being terminally online for all intents and purposes.

                  I understand very well what the online socialist left tries to do, establish an alt left style culture to counter the alt right, which I strongly feel has this flaw (all men yadayada), that disallows more engagement and growth. Men and women are supposed to be united, instead of this kind of bickering being a normal thing.

                  People do not really talk in such an unhinged, chaotic manner IRL either, the way they talk behind the keyboard, so I am not that worried.

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                    I actively seek to have an IRL outlook on life

                    And you clearly don’t. But you refuse to see that because you refuse to acknowledge anything but your own self-sabotaging beliefs.

                    I understand very well what the online socialist left tries to do

                    And you clearly don’t. Again, you refuse to see that because you refuse to acknowledge anything but your own self-sabotaging beliefs.

                    so I am not that worried.

                    Yet here you are, still, either seeking validation or indulging some sort of martyr complex.